DILEMA + using female friend as allie (question)

[bernardouzeda]

Hello DJ's - i love you guys, but please give a hint on this one:

There's this hot girl that i've been using all the techniques from everywhere on her... and i got all the signs that she was interested, that was great etc. - then a good female friend of mine (and of this hot girl too) asked me if i was interested on her... i said yes and i asked her to ask subtly to the hot girl if she was interested on me without showing my game or making it a big deal...
then my good friend talked to her and discovered that she IS attracted to me (damn DJ techniques!) - but she also said that she is seeing someone else (nothing really serious by the way). The hot girl knows that i know that she is seeing some other person because i'm always with her friends and i know all the news about everyone etc...
What should i do? i don't want to seem like a jerk hitting on her when she knows that i know she is seeing someone else... but i KNOW that she is attracted to me?

what should i do?

how should i act?

what is the best way to use your female friends that has some kind of influence over the X girl...

sorry about the confusing text and english ( it's not my native language) - i'm not a DJ master by the way

 

[SamePendo]

i don't want to seem like a jerk hitting on her when she knows that i know she is seeing someone else.

That is one of the main reasons why I would recomend you to continue using friends to find out anything about her, or making any type of tactic on her. Besides, you allready knew she was attracted to you.

What to do also depends on the culture in which you both are.
The best way to use female friends to influence X is to simply be with them, remember, she will want to know why these women are with you.
Action more than words.
What you can do is proceed (again, depending on your culture, if its TOTALLY incorrect to do, dont do it), and after you give her a kiss, or something like it, tell her you wont do anything else until she dumps her "boyfriend"
Hablas Español? ou português?

 

[Ashlee Angel]

The worst thing you can do in life is having to depent on people. It's sounds really AFCish that you want to use your female friend for influence over a chick.


If you don't care she has a man just flirt with her be a man. Act like you don't even know she has a man.

I don't think you will seem like a jerk if you flirt and try to get with her. But if she says I have a bf or something of that nature.

I personally would back off because that means she is somewhat happy in her relationship. For her to bring it up.

 

[bernardouzeda]

Hey DJ's - i don't speak spanish i speak Portugues thanks for asking. anybody speaks port there btw??

Well, I know depending on people is kinda AFC thing, but this friend has such a big influence on everybody she seems like a marketing salesgirl... it's such a perfect tactic

Hey SamePendo, yeah, walking, talking and being involved with other girls is really attractive for a woman, it's one of the things that i really pay attention to, cause i thought it didn't had any effect but it has and a real big one... but more important, be sociable with everyone, EVERYONE, be involved on lots of female and male friendships... not only with your 3 or 4 guy friends...

You're right about this attitude of saying that i will only give her another kiss after she dumps the boyfriend, but i think she seems to be attracted to my 'who cares' 'do what i want whenever i want the way i want' personality trait... so if i tell her to dump her boyfriend it will sound like i'm really jealous and that i have big feelings for her + i want a serious relationship ( while we just want to have a good time - just like her and her '' boyfriend'' - which is not a real boyfriend... we just like to have fun with each other here in Brazil it's a big DJ paradise).

thanks DJ's - still waiting for more replies...

PS: i just finished listening to DeAngelo's Advanced Series on CD... anyone there also finished it? i would like to discuss or whatever...