Did my girl disrespect me or something wrong with me?

[Blackstar]

Ok now today at work right.... when it was time to leave i went into the clock in and out area to clock out and to my surprise i find my girlfriend with the man that i told her that i dont like to see her with, they were seating down, on the table face to face, but i overlooked that. I clock out and i just stand on front of her for like a whole minute, just to see if she realizes what she is doing, she didnt look at me not 1 time, and didnt say a word to me or him during that whole minute, she just kept looking forward, ( they dam well were talking before i came in!) so i taped her on her shoulder and told her just like this " lets go outside " she ignores me so i tell her again , she tells me " wait three more minutes till i clock out" so i just left her.

Now she rather wait them "3 minutes" with that other man than with me, im trynna chill with her and enjoy each other for that little time and she doesnt even wanna do that??! she ignored my ass while i was standing there she didnt even reply the first time and she straight up ****ted on me. But she dam well was having a good convo with the man that wants to fuk her and we both know that!.

The she wanna call me saying that i always get mad for little stuff like this, man bs! we were arguing on the phone and i was screaming at her about what she did and how its messed up . Also its funny how 80 percent of the time when i look her way that man is talking , and playing with her and her laughing smiling having a nice time with him, yet she tells me that she dont want him, but yet she doesnt want me to tell him nothing cause "he talks too much and everybody will know my bussineses". She said that she was seating there and then he came and sat with her man this is bs.

Now tell me yall cause i dont even know nomore is it just me or is she really dissing me? cause im bout to go crazy here.

 

[evolvingnerd]

dump the ho
end of dilemma

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

You should dump her, but not because she was talking to that other dude.



You should dump her for the same reason that an epileptic Down's Syndrome patient shouldn't have a driver's license. You can't handle the machinery.

 

[( . )( . )]

Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
You should dump her, but not because she was talking to that other dude.



You should dump her for the same reason that an epileptic Down's Syndrome patient shouldn't have a driver's license. You can't handle the machinery.

Yep agreed, it seems this whole "DJ" thing has alluded you my insecure, needy little friend.

 

[Silquee Smoove]

Blackstar, this isn't a test she's created for you or even a
'dis.

She's into the other guy now, you need to end it/ignore her.

Move on...

 

[Blue Phoenix]

You should dump her for the same reason that an epileptic Down's Syndrome patient shouldn't have a driver's license. You can't handle the machinery.

Another good analogy! Totally agreed!

 

[Blackstar]

thanx for all yall helpful advice

its funny how not just in this lil situation but in everybody elses the way to resolve the problem is by "nexting her" "Dumping her" "forget her"

im good homie

 

[DJ_Dork]

Dunno if she's playing a game, testing you, into that guy, or disrespecting you. Seems like it's upsetting you and she knows that it keeps you in line.

What I would've done was just leave without her (cause of the disrespect) or just wait and not say anything and drop her off and not even talk to her for a week.

If a girl tests you, test her back. Just don't get overly emotional over it cause there's plenty of b1tches that have more integrity.

 

[Blackstar]

good looking^

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

Originally posted by Blackstar
its funny how not just in this lil situation but in everybody elses the way to resolve the problem is by "nexting her" "Dumping her" "forget her"

Actually, the best way for this situation to be resolved is for HER to "next", "dump", or "forget" YOU.

 

[Blue Phoenix]

Actually, the best way for this situation to be resolved is for HER to "next", "dump", or "forget" YOU.

ROFL!

Guys you're terrific or should I say terrible?

 

[Blackstar]

ok giovani let me go ahead and tell her that...

 

[KingPinp]

Originally posted by Blackstar
ok giovani let me go ahead and tell her that...

I think you should talk to her privately and be like this. Look I know that there is nothing between you and the *pimps name* and this has nothing to do with you, its me but i really dont want to be dating someone who *stress this* seems to try to make me feel bad or tries to embarras me. I dont know if i havent decided about breaking up with you or not because i think there are plenty of good things in our relationship but if our differences are not resolvable, I dont plan to live like this.

Then call one of your hommies and be like yo john, yeah ill meet you up at the club tonight.

 

[MetalFortress]

"Also its funny how 80 percent of the time when i look her way that man is talking , and playing with her and her laughing smiling having a nice time with him"

So why don't you offer this to her instead of being so insecure?

 

[wolfie]

No, the solution isn't to just 'dump her' immediately, it's to let her know that if she behaves that way and disrespects you and your relationship, you are 100% ready to dump her because she doesn't deserve you then. Screaming at her won't do a thing.

 

[the_great_gaia]

i was in a similar situation. the most important factor that you should've learned was to NEVER date someone (or be seriously involved with) someone from your job. It's stupid to mix up business and personal situations, and that's what's happening here.
You're probably always watching over her, and she hates that- be like: "BYTCH BREATHE!" Okay, so she's flirting with a guy who wants to fvck her brains out. Big deal, it happens. She's probably talking to him to have that arranged and she doesn't want you to know about it. The fact that you don't like this guy and she's talking to him anyway, she is disrespecting you- and as long as you let her, she won't stop. There's probably nothing else left for you to do about her talking to him, but there is much you could do for yourself. next time she's talking to that guy, don't let it get to you- already expect that the worst has happened. Go out, and find someone that you think is hot- find many girls that you think is HOT. Fvck them. Have a small conscious. Hoes make it harder for the world to go 'round. You should stop giving a fvck. She obviously doesn't; why should you?

 

[NewMan]

This is a re-occuring problem on the DJ forum.

The problem originates in 2 ways.

1) - by your actions in this relationship - you have displayed to her that you are a pvssy when it comes to women. What I mean by this is - that you have been needy towards her. Jealous of her. Intimidated by her. and she has controlled the whole relationship from the get go - because you have given her the power.
Your getting very insecure around her - and you then obviously go and shout at her over a phone convo.
What your forgetting is the following. You can never, ever, control her. But you can control yourself.
She knows that she has you whooped. She probably thrives on all of the drama that's going on. And when you look at it - she's treating you like a 2nd class chump.
So what should you do? - well from the outset you should have been in control. When something like this occurs - what you need to do is something like this....
Her: What are you doing tonight...
You: I'm going to the club with John
Her: I thought we were going to hang tonight - watch a movie
You: Look honey. That sounds good and all - but I'v decided to hit the club with John. Seeing you and "PimpX" at work flirting with each other - well I decided I need to get out there and have some fun you know.... Let's talk tomorrow... Ciao.

Well you get the picture. Remember - every action has an equal and opposite reaction. Yuo control yourself - and never be made to look the fool. You don't lose control - shout over the phone - and become insecure around her and this guy.

Also never threaten her. Just do it. Never tell her that you'll break you with her if this carries on. Just do it. Just dump the ho like a hot potato.

Remember - control yourself.

2) Better pick your woman. This chick is immature. She's an attention ho. Use and abuse her for the ho she is. Fvck her as often as you can. Get other chicks going on the side.

 

[DJDamage]

Another reason why dating someone from work is a very bad idea! ouch been there, learn that.