Did my gf just try to give me blue balls?

[randomshinichi]

Hi folks, long time no see. I've been going out with a HB7/8, that's why haven't been spending much time here lately, everything's been going swimmingly well. Except for just now, when we were making out. She even went down on me (I've gone down on her many times before). And then she just stops and says "ok let's go to sleep". WTF? I told her that was rude, and she said "yes I know" with a big smile on her face. Again, WTF?

It seems she was serious about going back to sleep and leaving me horny, like dangling a carrot in front of a rabbit and snatching it away. I don't know about you guys, but that feels incredibly rude, especially since I've never done that to her and always put her pleasure before mine (not just in bed). So I said not in my room, and made her dress and leave. She was not happy, and slammed the door on the way out.

Why does she have to act angry? She knows she's in the wrong, she even admitted she was being rude. This smells like the biggest **** test ever, but why would you want to ruin a swimmingly awesome night just to conduct a stupid **** test? She's had a handful of boyfriends before, does this anger act perhaps imply that she EXPECTS guys to put up with this? Wait, do you guys put up with this? Wikipedia says it's a perfectly valid form of ****...

 

[HoneyHitter]

I've never done that to her and always put her pleasure before mine (not just in bed).

Don't ever do that again.

 

[randomshinichi]

Elaborate.

 

[HoneyHitter]

So I said not in my room, and made her dress and leave. She was not happy, and slammed the door on the way out.

Well done. She probably started thinking less about you. You need to remind her that she doesn't OWN you. Constantly. Easiest way to do that is by hanging out with a couple of female friends (or a group that includes them) at least twice a month.

It's always the same when women think you have no options: the longer they know you, the more they try to "level" with you.

 

[Comic]

I know multiple girls that do this and they all want the same thing... They want you to get rough with them and make them horny, make them go down on you. Now not I'm saying get too rough because if she genuinely doesn't want to do anything you'll know but the next time she pulls that grab her, throw her down, start kissing her. Make her want you... Girls find that as a HUGE turn on.

 

[randomshinichi]

To be honest, Comic, that's what I tried too, but since I really cannot tell whether she's serious or not, after she tried to push me away two/three times, with her attempts getting progressively more forceful, I thought I should err on the side of caution.

So after I pulled back, I said "sorry I don't have much experience raping girls". She liked that line. Damn, I really cannot read her mind, but I still don't want her to say that I raped her.
EDIT: Maybe that's why she was angry when she left? Because I couldn't read her? In that case I think the suitable course of action from now on is to simply act like nothing bad happened, and refer to what happened as a particularly invigorating, lovely experience.
EDIT2: By tried to push me away two/three times, I mean incredibly hot kisses where she would bite my lip really hard, followed by 2-3 more of the sort (ow), she would turn her face away and use her hands and try to push me away. Well yes, actually this is the only possibility that could explain her getting angry. Thanks Comic! I really have no experience raping girls though... hope I don't mess up next time.

 

[Stagger Lee]

Don't it Make My Brown Balls Blue

Don't know when I've been so blue
Don't know what's come over you
You've found someone new
And don't it make my brown balls blue

I'll be fine when you're gone
I'll just cry all night long
Say it isn't true
And don't it make my brown balls blue



Based on the additional info, I think you did the right thing by kicking her out. You don't want her to make it a habit and for her to think she can get away with toying with you like that.

 

[Johnnyventana]

Dude, she was angry when she left because you made her get dressed and leave! Duh. That said, nicely played. It was good she was angry. She won't soon forget that isn't cool with you. Nice work.

 

[Comic]

To be honest, Comic, that's what I tried too, but since I really cannot tell whether she's serious or not, after she tried to push me away two/three times, with her attempts getting progressively more forceful, I thought I should err on the side of caution.

So after I pulled back, I said "sorry I don't have much experience raping girls". She liked that line. Damn, I really cannot read her mind, but I still don't want her to say that I raped her.
EDIT: Maybe that's why she was angry when she left? Because I couldn't read her? In that case I think the suitable course of action from now on is to simply act like nothing bad happened, and refer to what happened as a particularly invigorating, lovely experience.
EDIT2: By tried to push me away two/three times, I mean incredibly hot kisses where she would bite my lip really hard, followed by 2-3 more of the sort (ow), she would turn her face away and use her hands and try to push me away. Well yes, actually this is the only possibility that could explain her getting angry. Thanks Comic! I really have no experience raping girls though... hope I don't mess up next time.

I never said rape her lol, I said get rough. But stop if you genuinely think she wants you to stop. It sounds like she was being serious and actually just wanted to sleep. That sucks lol but I doubt she got mad because you wanted to get rough. She got mad because you were kicking her out. She obviously wanted to spend the night with you and its understandable why she was pissed at you. Just think who you would feel if the tables were turned and she was kicking you out...

 

[Desdinova]

I've never done that to her and always put her pleasure before mine (not just in bed).

Yeah, I have to elaborate on this one. You're doing this the EXACT opposite of how you should be doing it. In life, you put your own needs first regardless of the women in your life. She's only been around for a short while, but you'll be with yourself until you die. YOU are the one who should be the priority in your life, not some chick.

As for the bedroom, this is where you should be putting your sexual needs aside and focus on giving her pleasure. A woman's view of sex is much different than a man's. Women don't need a fvck just to have an orgasm or to spray her cvm across the room. For a woman to be sexually satisfied, she needs to be properly warmed up, touched, turned on, fvcked, and then cuddled. To a woman, the orgasm (of either party) is NOT the focal point of a good sexual experience, it's the entire experience itself.

Men view sex like shooting a deer. Women view sex like being in a movie.

Now, onto your problem...

everything's been going swimmingly well. Except for just now, when we were making out. She even went down on me (I've gone down on her many times before). And then she just stops and says "ok let's go to sleep". WTF? I told her that was rude, and she said "yes I know" with a big smile on her face. Again, WTF?

Mayve she was on her period? She could very well be toying with you, but I'm going to throw a completely different spin on this...

Women generally don't like going down on men. If you've ever trimmed your pubes before a shower, you may have experienced an unusual odor. That smell is everything that festers in your pubes: piss, cvm, sweat, and not to mention that you never quite get all the 5hit off your ass when you wipe due to all the hair you grow in that region.

Women have to tolerate the smell of your rancid pubical area, and some of them can't stand it.

ALWAYS clean yourself before you have an intimate night with a woman. If you don't have time to shower, you can do a nice quick clean-up if you keep some baby wipes handy. Use a few of them to clean off your pecker and your arse-crack, and she'll be more than happy to suck your donk.

I never realized how important this was until I got a compliment from a woman, who was more than happy to tell me that my ba11s didn't smell.

 

[dj_china]

I'd say she was playing hard to get and hoping you would pursue it more.

Should've just been more aggressive.

 

[Pair A Dice]

I beat off on the back of the last girl that told me that.

 

[f283000]

Women generally don't like going down on men. If you've ever trimmed your pubes before a shower, you may have experienced an unusual odor. That smell is everything that festers in your pubes: piss, cvm, sweat, and not to mention that you never quite get all the 5hit off your ass when you wipe due to all the hair you grow in that region.

Women have to tolerate the smell of your rancid pubical area, and some of them can't stand it.

ALWAYS clean yourself before you have an intimate night with a woman. If you don't have time to shower, you can do a nice quick clean-up if you keep some baby wipes handy. Use a few of them to clean off your pecker and your arse-crack, and she'll be more than happy to suck your donk.

I never realized how important this was until I got a compliment from a woman, who was more than happy to tell me that my ba11s didn't smell.

I can't live without baby wipes. I use them everytime before I go out of the house. Whether to go hang out or to go see a girl.

It's an added confidence having used them and if the situation comes up with a woman knowing in your mind that you're ready and fresh

 

[randomshinichi]

Thank you so much for your replies. I still have no clue what she really wanted, so I did the following. I'll note the thing about cleaning myself, Desdinova, I sure wasn't expecting a ******* that night.

I went to her door today, with some milk (because she said she was suffering from menstrual cramps, still no excuse for not finishing me off IMO), and accounted for both cases (1. she was toying with me; 2. she was playing hard to get) by saying that I was her bf, not a pet that she could lead around - and I dared her to try it again. It seems no hard feelings lingered, so I think the weather will be favourable from now on

It sounds dangerous, but then again, so did asking her out when I barely knew her. Besides, it's a bit spicy, don't you think? Next time she tries something of the sort, she'll have to wonder what I really meant by that dare, and whether she tries that again or not tells me what she really wanted yesterday night (assuming that she would not do anything to jeopardize our relationship, if she does it again, it would be safe to assume that she wants me to get rough). Win/win. I was careful to assume that she was doing case #1, because if I said "sorry I didn't know you wanted me to be rough" it would cheapen the experience next time when I get rough. Plus it kinda comes off as a bit chumpish.

****, the lengths I go to just to play along with their mind games... well I suppose it keeps your mind active.

 

[Ease]

Baby wipes were a revolution.

To your point of confusion: Girls do this regularly. Every girl and any girl is always going to do things like this. They love to push boundaries, act up, ruin things, make you angry and make you confused. They cannot leave things as they are sometimes, they just have to poke at it.

We call them **** tests, she doesnt really realise that she is doing it or for what reason. But shes secretly dying to know what your reaction will be.

It was a great idea to throw her out though. There's nothing worst than a girl thinking that she can mess with your sex. That **** is unacceptable, it will mess with a mans head. Horniness is dangerous remember that.

 

[Desdinova]

I went to her door today, with some milk (because she said she was suffering from menstrual cramps

So there's your answer. She's didn't fvck you because she's on her period.

It really amazes me how so many men cannot hold the control when they're in the sack. I'm the one who takes the control that the woman usually has. I'm the one who stops her from fvcking me. I'll say "it's time for sleep' when I've got her nicely warmed up. If you want a woman to respond to you extremely well sexually, you HAVE to take control of the situation while in the bedroom. Make HER be the one who's desperate for your c0ck instead of you being desperate for her vagina.

Self-control in the bedroom is the key to not getting rejected sexually.

As for her not finishing you off, I try to see things from the woman's point of view. If you're not clean, she's not going to enjoy it. If you've got a huge d1ck, her jaw is going to get sore. Also, some women are very good and very persistent when they give bjs. Some women are just plain awful at it. It's the luck of the draw. I have a very difficult time getting off with a bj, so I don't expect the woman to keep going. However, a lot of time when I tell the woman this, she will persist as if she's accepted the challenge.

I'm taking the other side of the fence on this one. I think it was rude of you to kick her out. You failed to take control of the situation, got angry and took it out on her. If you learn how to take control in the bedroom, you won't have chicks flaking out during sex because she's have respect for you.

 

[randomshinichi]

Is being on her period an excuse to leave me hanging? I have never had sex with her tbh, she always finished me off with a handjob before, this is the first time I've gotten a bj from her. She could've finished me off with a handjob, but no, she refused to. Thus, it has nothing to do with her period at this point. I'm not angry that she refused coitus - heck, this is the second time she's refused, out of countless make out sessions, so it's not like I'm always asking for it - but I'm not pleased that she left me hanging.
EDIT: Maybe I was overreacting, but I just don't want her to think that it's ok to just leave me hanging. Given that she always gave me a handjob before, I'm pretty sure this has nothing to do with her period anymore. After all, a bj requires more effort than a hj - if you've got the energy for the former, I sure as hell expect you to finish me at least with the latter.

 

[cordoncordon]

IF you care about this girl, and I mean as in have emotions for, then yeah you overreacted. Basically what you are telling her is if she doesn't have sex with you, then you have no interest in being around her. To a woman, that can leave a VERY bad taste in their mouths (women don't like the thought of just being used for sex). Not a very cool way to treat someone you supposedly really care about. This will probably stay in the back of her mind for a while and could have a long term impact in the relationship. Lets say you were over at her place, going down on her, and she wanted you to F her and you said "nah, not tonight, lets go to sleep", and she threw you out as a result. You would probably think she is some kind of psycho right? I mean throwing you out just because you wouldn't F her ONE night?

I think a better course of action would have been to say "oh reallllllllyyy, thats the way it's gonna be huh?", and rolled over to go to sleep with a big smile on your face. She would be totally mind freaked, and would probably have raped you at that point. Either way, you win. She sees she can't hold sex over you and get you upset, or you get laid. Right now, she knows that you lose control with a simple lockdown of her pvssy. Just like a dog losing control over a bone.

 

[randomshinichi]

OK, thanks. I think I'll do something about that bad taste in her mouth then.
EDIT: She forgave me in an instant. The weather's clear again!

 

[Brownrice]

It was a sh!t test to see how much she can use sex to control you. You should have just stopped after she denied your second attempt and acted like nothing happened. As you become a more experienced player, you will learn to keep your cool and blue balls will be gone from your vocabulary because getting sex will be so easy to you. When a girl does that, you just go bang another chick.

Don't listen to the other guys saying she was playing hard to get and you should have been more aggressive. When a girl doesn't want to have sex and you force her, it's fcking rape. It's totally up to her to decide if you raped or if it was just rough sex, it's like walking on really thin ice.

When a girl wants to get rough with her, she will tell you. Otherwise, you're putting your future on the line.