Recap:
-Met a girl through a friend, she showed a ton of interest the first night we met and insisted I stay over (although I actually slept on her couch).
-A week later (yes I waited this long) I asked her out, after things falling apart after dinner, she ultimately stayed over my place. And no she didn't stay on the couch.
-We went out a couple times after and a few more sleep overs.
-Told her I was going overseas for a few months and she said no more sleep overs.
-Still had one before.
-I come back she says she has a bf and that she only likes me as a friend.
-She breaks up with the bf after a week or so.
-We don't talk much for a few months.
-We start talking again, she visits and stays over. She compliments my looks, my career talks a little about my future life and family and stuff...
-She's talkative for a few days after.
-She also asks my situation on Valentine's day.
Current Situation
-Now when I try to talk to her about silly things, she brings up big topics like you're a decent person but not all the time, I don't think we can even be a couple, I'm not flirting with you, I dream of meeting someone I can spend the rest of my life with, the we can only be friends business (but I've heard this before and still had sleepovers), etc...
-I responded by saying, wow, I thought we were just friends. And yeah I know you think I'm a player, you're welcome to think that. She was reassured by me saying the friends thing and she's like no you're not player but people think she is, etc...
In any case, how do I dig out of this? Let's assume I'm actually interested in dating her more seriously. With this type of girl do I need to use some degree of seriousness and niceness or , ehem tell her I like her? I never complimented her or told her I liked her in the past but the bad boy stuff isn't working so well right now. She's foreign if that makes a difference.
-Met a girl through a friend, she showed a ton of interest the first night we met and insisted I stay over (although I actually slept on her couch).
-A week later (yes I waited this long) I asked her out, after things falling apart after dinner, she ultimately stayed over my place. And no she didn't stay on the couch.
-We went out a couple times after and a few more sleep overs.
-Told her I was going overseas for a few months and she said no more sleep overs.
-Still had one before.
-I come back she says she has a bf and that she only likes me as a friend.
-She breaks up with the bf after a week or so.
-We don't talk much for a few months.
-We start talking again, she visits and stays over. She compliments my looks, my career talks a little about my future life and family and stuff...
-She's talkative for a few days after.
-She also asks my situation on Valentine's day.
Current Situation
-Now when I try to talk to her about silly things, she brings up big topics like you're a decent person but not all the time, I don't think we can even be a couple, I'm not flirting with you, I dream of meeting someone I can spend the rest of my life with, the we can only be friends business (but I've heard this before and still had sleepovers), etc...
-I responded by saying, wow, I thought we were just friends. And yeah I know you think I'm a player, you're welcome to think that. She was reassured by me saying the friends thing and she's like no you're not player but people think she is, etc...
In any case, how do I dig out of this? Let's assume I'm actually interested in dating her more seriously. With this type of girl do I need to use some degree of seriousness and niceness or , ehem tell her I like her? I never complimented her or told her I liked her in the past but the bad boy stuff isn't working so well right now. She's foreign if that makes a difference.
