I met this girl a few weeks ago. She came to stay the night with my sister and her friend, but we ended up staying up extremely late talking by ourselves. The thing is, she is 15, and I am 19. After a few days, she IMed me on AIM and we started talking, I found out shes into alot of the stuff I am interested in, ect. So, getting her number was easy enough, and after we started talking on the phone, AIM was virtually gone by means of communicating. We would talk every night, and often stay up until 3 am on the phone.
I'm not a DJ, not by far. You can even say I have oneitis (assuming that means total fixation on one girl). Ive been critizied for having the worst game in the world, one of my previous attempts at a relationship actually made her want her exboyfriend (whom she hated) back. I know what I want to say, and I end up saying it, which probably isnt the best thing to do. She said she really really liked me, as I did her, but since she had been grounded for the past week, and the week to come, actuall asking her out seems futile, since we wouldnt be able to actually do anything for a number of days.
So, she gets a job. Where I work. I deliver pizza, she works inside on the phones. I didnt know how to take this, I assumed she got the job with me because she seemed interested, but I had always been told to NEVER date your co-workers. I gave her a ride home every night, since she lives not but a mile from me, and that always goes well, she usually tries to taunt me by grabbing a cup of the store's sweet icing and licking it off her finger very VERY sexually. She always makes some comment such as: "You like?" I responded by gently taking her hand and licking her finger clean. , which suprized her, and from what she says really turned her on. I still havent made a move on her.
She had not a boyfriend, but a guy who is 18, interested in her, he did try to make a move on her, but she resisted, and that fell apart. Thankfully, he lives hours away. Shes a sophomore in high school, and Im in my second year of college. Some guy, who happens to be my friend, had asked her to homecoming months before we even started talking. He hadn't even talked to her for weeks prior to us meeting, and then she heard he had no interest in her anymore. Score for me, I suppose. She was really really broken up, and she asked if we could hang out the next day (her skipping, me not having class at all) Nothing happened when she was over. She jokingly played around, locking herself in my room, hiding in closests in the house, ect. Nothing sexual happened, she claimed to not be feeling well, and really tired. So I took her home. Later that day, I drove her to work, and asked if anything was wrong, and that if anything had changed between us, she said 'No, nothing's wrong'.
I didnt give her a ride home that day, her parents picked her up, and she wasn't home until late (her parents had taken her to a family friend's party) so I didnt get to call her. On top of that, my sister came home ranting on and on about how I skipped with her, and how I made a move and freaked her out or something, which made her want to go home, and how she doesn't like me at all. I couldn't sleep a wink that night. The day after that, I saw her at work, and she seemed fine. A little quiet at first, I didnt want to push myself in, if she was indeed freaked out about me, but I didn't act as though anything was wrong. I was postured-up, bright eyed, and bushy tailed. Talked with her about things, and she made alot of eye contact. Even sitting down, she almost always looked at me, and had her legs relaxed, facing towards me. I gave her a ride home, and talked to her again.
She didnt do any of her usual finger licking escapades again. She was a little quieter, but still cheerier than I thought she would have been. She asked if we could stop and get doughnuts for her friend as a present. She said very happily, 'he's going to love me for this!'
That kinda bummed me out. But I tried not to show it. She asked on the way back to the car if I was mad at her or disappointed. I said no, which I really wasn't, because I didnt have any reason to think she had lost interest, with her questioning me how I was feeling. I dropped her off, went home, gave her time to shower and such, then called her as usual. We talked, I asked her about what my sister said, and she responded with: "Well, I told one of my friends we hung out and all, but I didn't say you made a move or that I didnt like you."
She went on: "I heard this one guy wants to ask me to homecoming, and I don't know.."
This, if anywhere, Is where I probably screwed up.
Me: "Well, go and have some fun. Do you want to go with him?"
Her: "Yeah... i don't know... why?"
Me: "Well, you know, Im really interested in you, and I don't want you to come back from homecoming with a boyfriend... you know?"
Her: "Yeah... well I cant promise anything..."
Me: "I know. You are still interested in us dating, right?"
Her: "I don't know. like I said, ive been known to have these little crushes, or flings... and I really like you, but I don't know if this is one of those."
Me: "Ah. Well, if you don't see anything working out, just tell me. Id much rather have it resolved then keep wondering about it, you know? And I don't want anything to be bitter at work."
Her: "Yeah. I do like you though. I don't know. Ill think about it. Our boss was telling me you're like in love with me, all my friends, your sister, are like 'ohh. hes soo in love with you!, So, are you?"
Me: "I cant say i'm in love with you. We haven't really had the chance to spend any quality time together, and that one day, we were both really out of it. But, needless to say, I really really like you, and want to have a relationship with you, if you're willing to."
Her: "Alright, that sounds good. ill think about it."
And then the general thank yous and goodnights, she did get off the phone early though, she said she needed to get to sleep early, but of course the back of my mind was thinking she was going to call someone else.
Sorry for the rant. I just find it hard to get involved with girls. I can talk to them, no problem, but I suppose im looking for a relationship, not just a few dates, and I can usually tell if I like a girl or not after talking to her for a while. That really cuts down my experience. She is the first one in about 2 years I have considered for a relationship, (not eve a LTR, just A one.)
But honestly, FEEDBACK. I have no game at all. I will NEVER be a DJ, but if I could have a girlfriend, I know id be happier. The past week up until yesterday, has been the happiest week in a long time for me. I really don't care that I have oneitis, I prefer it. I'm so monogomous, im suprised I can look at two girls at the same time. Thanks for your help, though, god knows I need it.
I'm not a DJ, not by far. You can even say I have oneitis (assuming that means total fixation on one girl). Ive been critizied for having the worst game in the world, one of my previous attempts at a relationship actually made her want her exboyfriend (whom she hated) back. I know what I want to say, and I end up saying it, which probably isnt the best thing to do. She said she really really liked me, as I did her, but since she had been grounded for the past week, and the week to come, actuall asking her out seems futile, since we wouldnt be able to actually do anything for a number of days.
So, she gets a job. Where I work. I deliver pizza, she works inside on the phones. I didnt know how to take this, I assumed she got the job with me because she seemed interested, but I had always been told to NEVER date your co-workers. I gave her a ride home every night, since she lives not but a mile from me, and that always goes well, she usually tries to taunt me by grabbing a cup of the store's sweet icing and licking it off her finger very VERY sexually. She always makes some comment such as: "You like?" I responded by gently taking her hand and licking her finger clean. , which suprized her, and from what she says really turned her on. I still havent made a move on her.
She had not a boyfriend, but a guy who is 18, interested in her, he did try to make a move on her, but she resisted, and that fell apart. Thankfully, he lives hours away. Shes a sophomore in high school, and Im in my second year of college. Some guy, who happens to be my friend, had asked her to homecoming months before we even started talking. He hadn't even talked to her for weeks prior to us meeting, and then she heard he had no interest in her anymore. Score for me, I suppose. She was really really broken up, and she asked if we could hang out the next day (her skipping, me not having class at all) Nothing happened when she was over. She jokingly played around, locking herself in my room, hiding in closests in the house, ect. Nothing sexual happened, she claimed to not be feeling well, and really tired. So I took her home. Later that day, I drove her to work, and asked if anything was wrong, and that if anything had changed between us, she said 'No, nothing's wrong'.
I didnt give her a ride home that day, her parents picked her up, and she wasn't home until late (her parents had taken her to a family friend's party) so I didnt get to call her. On top of that, my sister came home ranting on and on about how I skipped with her, and how I made a move and freaked her out or something, which made her want to go home, and how she doesn't like me at all. I couldn't sleep a wink that night. The day after that, I saw her at work, and she seemed fine. A little quiet at first, I didnt want to push myself in, if she was indeed freaked out about me, but I didn't act as though anything was wrong. I was postured-up, bright eyed, and bushy tailed. Talked with her about things, and she made alot of eye contact. Even sitting down, she almost always looked at me, and had her legs relaxed, facing towards me. I gave her a ride home, and talked to her again.
She didnt do any of her usual finger licking escapades again. She was a little quieter, but still cheerier than I thought she would have been. She asked if we could stop and get doughnuts for her friend as a present. She said very happily, 'he's going to love me for this!'
That kinda bummed me out. But I tried not to show it. She asked on the way back to the car if I was mad at her or disappointed. I said no, which I really wasn't, because I didnt have any reason to think she had lost interest, with her questioning me how I was feeling. I dropped her off, went home, gave her time to shower and such, then called her as usual. We talked, I asked her about what my sister said, and she responded with: "Well, I told one of my friends we hung out and all, but I didn't say you made a move or that I didnt like you."
She went on: "I heard this one guy wants to ask me to homecoming, and I don't know.."
This, if anywhere, Is where I probably screwed up.
Me: "Well, go and have some fun. Do you want to go with him?"
Her: "Yeah... i don't know... why?"
Me: "Well, you know, Im really interested in you, and I don't want you to come back from homecoming with a boyfriend... you know?"
Her: "Yeah... well I cant promise anything..."
Me: "I know. You are still interested in us dating, right?"
Her: "I don't know. like I said, ive been known to have these little crushes, or flings... and I really like you, but I don't know if this is one of those."
Me: "Ah. Well, if you don't see anything working out, just tell me. Id much rather have it resolved then keep wondering about it, you know? And I don't want anything to be bitter at work."
Her: "Yeah. I do like you though. I don't know. Ill think about it. Our boss was telling me you're like in love with me, all my friends, your sister, are like 'ohh. hes soo in love with you!, So, are you?"
Me: "I cant say i'm in love with you. We haven't really had the chance to spend any quality time together, and that one day, we were both really out of it. But, needless to say, I really really like you, and want to have a relationship with you, if you're willing to."
Her: "Alright, that sounds good. ill think about it."
And then the general thank yous and goodnights, she did get off the phone early though, she said she needed to get to sleep early, but of course the back of my mind was thinking she was going to call someone else.
Sorry for the rant. I just find it hard to get involved with girls. I can talk to them, no problem, but I suppose im looking for a relationship, not just a few dates, and I can usually tell if I like a girl or not after talking to her for a while. That really cuts down my experience. She is the first one in about 2 years I have considered for a relationship, (not eve a LTR, just A one.)
But honestly, FEEDBACK. I have no game at all. I will NEVER be a DJ, but if I could have a girlfriend, I know id be happier. The past week up until yesterday, has been the happiest week in a long time for me. I really don't care that I have oneitis, I prefer it. I'm so monogomous, im suprised I can look at two girls at the same time. Thanks for your help, though, god knows I need it.
