Did I really give of this vibe or typical women's BS

dasein

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Just another problem with texts early on. I doubt she would have the gall to make the slut insult to you face to face or on the phone. CALL for dates and no communication otherwise early on. This allows them less leeway to pollute your mind with their meaningless noise. As long as they 1. keep agreeing to dates, and 2. respond enthusiastically to physical escalation, move forward. Once 1 or 2 are absent, move on. Keep your early dating binary, keep yourself sane.

As others say, never ever answer an insult with a "defense." Deflect, deflect. If I HAD to text a response to that insult, it would be "RUDE...bad day?"

Disagree with the "no interest" crowd. With OLD, and Tinder qualifies, you have to realize if she really is at least a 7, she is getting constant attention from AFCs, constant compliments, which bloats her ego. Have seen it dozens of times in an OLD world where even < 5s get lots of attention. In your shoes, I'd CALL and tell her you have made plans for X weekend night already, how about Monday night at X time at Y place? Give them a highly specific plan to say yes or no to on the phone. Once they say no to two such plans, move on to next. Don't give them any more information than necessary, just "go out on my terms or not?" Cuts through so much BS and gives the subtle message that you are an in control, mature man with a life that she hasn't earned text time or weekend time in yet. Good luck.
 

VladPatton

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This tinder $hit is phucking people's heads up to no end.
 

Jaylan

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OP...is all of this really needed ? Just go with the flow. Stop being so outcome oriented and worrying if she will sleep with you quickly. Jeez...some guys need to stop being so thirsty. Because OP...If you really had a few other options, why would it matter when this chick wanted to have sex or hang out? Why would you need all this coaching.

Just calm down and enjoy each other's company. If youre not feeling it, move the heck on. But if you dig her, who gives a damn if it takes a few weeks to have sex. Yes, some chicks do wanna talk to a guy for a little while before having sex.

Heck, maybe she's looking for an extended fwb and wants to build some rapport first. That's exactly what I found with the girl Im seeing now. We moved a little fast initially, but pumped the breaks and gave ourselves some more time to get to know one another and both of our intentions before having sex.

Now we are both on the same page, things are fun and casual...and there's no games or worry. Just go with the flow, and have a little patience. If you cannot have a little patience...move on. No need to overthink.
 
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