Sorry for the novel of a post, but I guess it needs the full explanation?
So there's this girl at my work, who on her first day her and I hit it off pretty well. We essentially work together one day every 2 weeks because I'm a Paramedic and only have a couple of days off from that job to do my other job.
So the next time we work together, she asked why I hadn't asked her for her number yet... which I promptly corrected.
We texted a little bit that night, and she said things like "You're not a bad looking fellow, I can't see why you don't have a lady", "By the way, with no glasses and a beard, you're a total babe. Not saying you aren't otherwise, but you can easily pull off two different looks", and then when we were chatting about something that girls like she said "I can't tell you, you might try to seduce me" and asked if it would work, she said "Never know until you try."
We continue to work together for a bit, and the employee who works with us even asked both of us directly how long we'd been going out, and when we said we werent, he was shocked "because of all the obvious flirting". Ex. I'd stick my hand out for a high-5 and she'd grab it, swing it back and forth at our sides and would be like "This is nice", among other, what I could only assume, were physical indicators (does that make me sound like a nerd?)
Also, on the days before we worked together, she'd text me the night before and be like "12hours 28 minutes until we see eachother!"
Now, I didn't take long to get, what at that point I could only assume were obvious hints, and told her we should hang out (well, texted the first time, so that's probably my problem) and her response was "Hmmm", then nothing.
We worked together again, and said we should hang out and she said she really wanted to, yet never committed. Finally, last week I thought I'd give it one more try, then do the 3-strike you're out deal, and I asked her what she was doing the next day and she said "probably hanging out with my friend, why?" I said "We should hang out, maybe go putt putt or something". Got NO response back.
The next day she responded "Hey I didn't mean to not respond yesterday, my phone died on me so i'm sorry. I totally dug the puttputt idea though" (I don't buy her phone dying and her taking nearly a day to respond, but oh well)
So we end up working together the next day, and she uses my phone to text my best friend (who lives in a different state, they've never met, but she talks to about me). She ends up giving him her # so they can text without me knowing what's said... and that's where issue begins:
My best friend asks her why her and I haven't gone out yet, and her response was she didn't want it to end up getting weird at work. He said what if he promised it wouldn't get weird between her and I, and she said "THat's good and all, but he's 4 years older. I still have the highschool scene going on and he has the grown up stuff. Andddddd I have a boyfriend"
Never mentioned a bf before hand to ANYONE, me or fellow employees, and I even spoke to her best friend weeks prior who never mentioned it, though she did mention that she spoke of me to her a bit.
So, I know there is no 100% unbiased way of presenting this story without having my slanted view on how things unfolded, but was I reading the signals the wrong way? Or is she just that flakey? Or could something else be happening?
I'm not asking if I should keep trying for her, I already know that answer, regardless of the understory of her actions.
If you read that entire post, I owe you a cookie.
So there's this girl at my work, who on her first day her and I hit it off pretty well. We essentially work together one day every 2 weeks because I'm a Paramedic and only have a couple of days off from that job to do my other job.
So the next time we work together, she asked why I hadn't asked her for her number yet... which I promptly corrected.
We texted a little bit that night, and she said things like "You're not a bad looking fellow, I can't see why you don't have a lady", "By the way, with no glasses and a beard, you're a total babe. Not saying you aren't otherwise, but you can easily pull off two different looks", and then when we were chatting about something that girls like she said "I can't tell you, you might try to seduce me" and asked if it would work, she said "Never know until you try."
We continue to work together for a bit, and the employee who works with us even asked both of us directly how long we'd been going out, and when we said we werent, he was shocked "because of all the obvious flirting". Ex. I'd stick my hand out for a high-5 and she'd grab it, swing it back and forth at our sides and would be like "This is nice", among other, what I could only assume, were physical indicators (does that make me sound like a nerd?)
Also, on the days before we worked together, she'd text me the night before and be like "12hours 28 minutes until we see eachother!"
Now, I didn't take long to get, what at that point I could only assume were obvious hints, and told her we should hang out (well, texted the first time, so that's probably my problem) and her response was "Hmmm", then nothing.
We worked together again, and said we should hang out and she said she really wanted to, yet never committed. Finally, last week I thought I'd give it one more try, then do the 3-strike you're out deal, and I asked her what she was doing the next day and she said "probably hanging out with my friend, why?" I said "We should hang out, maybe go putt putt or something". Got NO response back.
The next day she responded "Hey I didn't mean to not respond yesterday, my phone died on me so i'm sorry. I totally dug the puttputt idea though" (I don't buy her phone dying and her taking nearly a day to respond, but oh well)
So we end up working together the next day, and she uses my phone to text my best friend (who lives in a different state, they've never met, but she talks to about me). She ends up giving him her # so they can text without me knowing what's said... and that's where issue begins:
My best friend asks her why her and I haven't gone out yet, and her response was she didn't want it to end up getting weird at work. He said what if he promised it wouldn't get weird between her and I, and she said "THat's good and all, but he's 4 years older. I still have the highschool scene going on and he has the grown up stuff. Andddddd I have a boyfriend"
Never mentioned a bf before hand to ANYONE, me or fellow employees, and I even spoke to her best friend weeks prior who never mentioned it, though she did mention that she spoke of me to her a bit.
So, I know there is no 100% unbiased way of presenting this story without having my slanted view on how things unfolded, but was I reading the signals the wrong way? Or is she just that flakey? Or could something else be happening?
I'm not asking if I should keep trying for her, I already know that answer, regardless of the understory of her actions.
If you read that entire post, I owe you a cookie.
