Hey guys,
Just wondering if I can get a critique of how I handled this, as I'm torn between two opinions.
Backstory is that I have been seeing this chick for about a month now. Nothing exclusive, I'm focused on work more than anything these days so it's a casual thing. She's just been out of a long term relationship with a messy on-again-off-again breakup where she and the ex are still in touch, so that's a red flag for me, but again, being a casual thing, I'm not gonna hold it against her.
Anyway, she invites me over for the night, so I head over, we get in bed, start watching a sitcom on the tv, make out a bit, whatever. During this time, she's tapping away on her phone. Not a big deal, we all text these days. But she keeps at it constantly, enough that I look over and just to give her the "wtf" look and see who she's chatting with that's so important. Turns out it's the ex.
But again, fine whatever, but she keeps at it for the rest of the 25min show. Finally I said something, basically saying "K this, no more. I'm here, don't be rude." She rolls her eyes a bit, stops and cuddles, but then goes back to it while I keep watching the show.
So at this point I got annoyed. I mean shooting a text here or there, fine, but when we are there to hang out and bang, my expectation is that she is all there. So I got up and walked out. She wasn't thrilled, saying "don't leave, don't give me ultimatums, what do you expect from me." blah blah blah. Regardless, I was so turned off and tired I just wanted to go home.
I'm of two minds on this. (1) I did the right thing. I told her my expectations, she defied them, I walked away. But I'm also thinking (2) maybe I should have laughed it off, not showed any indication that it bothered me, and stuck around. Thoughts?
Just wondering if I can get a critique of how I handled this, as I'm torn between two opinions.
Backstory is that I have been seeing this chick for about a month now. Nothing exclusive, I'm focused on work more than anything these days so it's a casual thing. She's just been out of a long term relationship with a messy on-again-off-again breakup where she and the ex are still in touch, so that's a red flag for me, but again, being a casual thing, I'm not gonna hold it against her.
Anyway, she invites me over for the night, so I head over, we get in bed, start watching a sitcom on the tv, make out a bit, whatever. During this time, she's tapping away on her phone. Not a big deal, we all text these days. But she keeps at it constantly, enough that I look over and just to give her the "wtf" look and see who she's chatting with that's so important. Turns out it's the ex.
But again, fine whatever, but she keeps at it for the rest of the 25min show. Finally I said something, basically saying "K this, no more. I'm here, don't be rude." She rolls her eyes a bit, stops and cuddles, but then goes back to it while I keep watching the show.
So at this point I got annoyed. I mean shooting a text here or there, fine, but when we are there to hang out and bang, my expectation is that she is all there. So I got up and walked out. She wasn't thrilled, saying "don't leave, don't give me ultimatums, what do you expect from me." blah blah blah. Regardless, I was so turned off and tired I just wanted to go home.
I'm of two minds on this. (1) I did the right thing. I told her my expectations, she defied them, I walked away. But I'm also thinking (2) maybe I should have laughed it off, not showed any indication that it bothered me, and stuck around. Thoughts?