did I play it right?

[FunnyCide]

What's up DJs? Just started reading this site and finished the bible. What can I say but I'm out of the matrix in the process of learning the new knowledge. Anyways so I met this girl got the number and were suppose to got out for lunch. She was sort of flaking when I called her the day before saying things like "I've have a project due the next day I haven't started." right? So she suggested we watch a movie later and I agreed to call her later that night. (An AFC move realized too late) Anyways called her around nine and no answer so I left a message. That was yesterday and I felt disrespected that the plan had not cancelled verbally but just left as is. So I took her off the buddylist and am Nexting her unless she calls me with an apology and a way to make it up What does the experienced DJ think about this move? I thought it was in line with what I read and if she wasn't interested I would have wasted valuable time on her. So continue hunting for something better right? Comments please

 

[FunnyCide]

This is hilarious, I just posted this message a minute ago and I went to check my e-mail and there she was apologizing that she missed me and wondering if I could please call her tonite to make plans for sometime this week. She suggested thursday and Im obviously busy right? I guess she just have to wait for the next time I'm free. Damn that worked well.

 

[Yeto]

When they don't like you they don't have the balls to tell you, so they start giving excuses like she did.
On the other hand, she could be really busy, in that case probably she would tell you that maybe some other day.

I would give her another chance, if she has another excuse move on.

 

[oda]

suggest she makes the plans since she denied your effort

 

[CyranoDeBergerac]

Or here's an idea, how bout you ignore advice from a guy who hasn't even cut his DJ babyteeth yet?

Dude, you're overthinking this. I know the mind-games are fun, but if she's a college student there are plenty of legitimate reasons for not being available to your advances 24/7.

You were right not to pin all your hopes on her, but that vindictive 'she was dissing you so diss her back' mentality went out in the fourth grade.

If you want to delay a bit, call her back and schedule for saturday, but don't do it just to 'put her in her place' because something happened and she couldn't call you. That reeks of azz hole.

-Cyrano

 

[FunnyCide]

Aiight Cyrano, I can hear what you're saying cause I know I overthink most of the time. But I thought I was just trying to steer away from being the nice guy but not an azzhole?

 

[tom121]

be like "make up your mind, I don't have 24/7 to dedicate to you"

 

[-HPNOTIQ-]

Remember fellas, the DJB isn't a be all end all to your women's needs. Its a guide...we all take different paths...meaning...you don't have to follow the DJB to the letter.

So she had an excuse. No need to HARD next her. If she has a reasonable excuse, listen to it, don't completely write her off.

"I'm sorry, but my brother just got into a car accident and I had to rush to the hospital"

Now there's a reasonable excuse. Reschedule the date and take it from there. If she flakes out again...then put her on the back burner.

Too many fellas take a woman cancelling a date as a drop in IL or that she's already found somebody else. That's garbage thinking. Sh*t happens. If there is a reasonable explaination..take it..if not..FCUK her!

 

[CyranoDeBergerac]

Originally posted by FunnyCide
Aiight Cyrano, I can hear what you're saying cause I know I overthink most of the time. But I thought I was just trying to steer away from being the nice guy but not an azzhole?

Most guys start out as AFCs and when change is warranted they usually go from the one extreme to another because they aren't used to the power of self-possession. To put it another way, they combat 'Mr. Nice guy'-hood by going too far in the other direction.

I'm not trying to be a hammer, I'm just trying to save some guys a little trouble because a lot of being a DJ is not being so wrapped up in a girl that you care if she calls you back. Getting back at her is the desperate action of a wounded animal and is a mentality that should be avoided at all costs. To give you credit, you seem much further along in this regard than several and my reprimand was not aimed at you.

-Cyrano

 

[Desdinova]

You've done well so far!

She suggested thursday and Im obviously busy right?

I highly suggest not playing games like this. Take her up on it. If you don't maintain a woman's IL, it will drop quickly. Leaving things too long will let her know you're not interested.

 

[FunnyCide]

thanks DJs

Aiight guys all your advice has been more then helpful and thanks for helping a budding DJ

 

[Xandaman]

totally agree with cyranno