Did I handle this correctly?

JPSD

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I met a girl a month ago, brief encounter, we hit off, exchanged numbers.
We had a few conversations on text, mostly initiated by her, like her birthday was coming up and she contacted me, trying to make me ask her about it, especially the date and her plans etc, I kept the conversation short, asking but not looking overly interested.
I would have asked her out straight away but I was going abroad for my internship and did not have any time to spare before that.

Now, when I came back, I texted her up, talked a bit and before I was gonna ask her out, I asked what's been up?
She told me she mostly have been studying for GRE and that she started dating someone a while back, he was here for a bit around the birthday and hung mostly out with him, after that it's been pretty mellow.

As a reply I just wrote "keep at it, go out with friends, have dates. Just a nerd never gets the way."
This was late at night, she replied me an hour later with "Doing the same, but can't make routine".
I was awake but did not reply.

No conversation since then, been 10 days and don't plan on doing so.

So I just want to know, did I handle it correctly in terms of my reply and not conversing anymore?
I actually was surprised because I am not sure why she had to tell me about her dating and if she had too, why did not she tell me before her birthday?

Let me know your genuine thoughts.
 

Medina

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You failed to take the initiative when she was reaching out to you and now you have become the chaser. You have to make plans when they put themselves in your orbit. You can either wait (perhaps forever) or reach out (yet again). It's just not an ideal place to be
 

JPSD

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I was leaving for a week for my internship in UK, the next day. So I couldn't take initiative.
Honestly, I am not sure but I am gonna let this be as it is, I am dating others and don't want to waste time when she specifically said she is dating.
I am cool with dating many but I don't go about saying how I am dating someone else when a girl asks about how I have been.
Anyway, I was just curious what others think so thanks.
 
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