Did I go too far with this neg hit?

[Michael99]

I was talking to this girl that I kind of like with her friends. She started talking about Jessica Simpson saying that she isn't that pretty without makeup. She sounded pretty jealous and I said that Jessica looks hot without her makeup then I smiled at her and said "she blows you out of the water." She just kind of smiled nervously like she was embarrassed when i said this. Did I hurt her feelings too much and kill my chances or could this have built some attraction?

Thanks

 

[Dukester]

you are over analyzing things.
if you think what you said is a problem, then next time you talk to her, dont mention it, and act like everything is perfectly normal
which btw- IS

 

[Chlarence]

Dukester is right on the money, I have done the same exact thing recently with a girl by making a sarcastic comment which she didn't get, she just gave me an odd look.

There is an old saying when in such a situation,

'least said, soonest mended!'

 

[Interpol]

Pff...Nice insult.

 

[Julian]

Yeah dude that was harsh.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Yeah, that wasn't a neg hit, that was a mean insult. You didn't come off as ****y and funny, she just thinks you're an @sshole.

There's a thread out there about what a neg-hit really is and how to deliver it. I'd read it and hold off using that tactic until after your refine it.

 

[m4a1]

I'm not a big fan of neg hitting, c&f is a lot better, but seriously, that was an insult.. no matter how you say it, it's an insult imo, girls are sensitive about these things.

 

[Hanz]

You could have played it off as a neg hit, but it is too late now.

 

[AFK Protector]

Instead of "DAYUM! SHE BLOWS YOU OUTTA THE WATER! YOU UGLY BIATCH!"

Say "hmm...sounds like someone is getting jealous eh?"

That would open up the convo more I think. Give you both more possibilities because it's a question and challenge to her mentality all in one.

 

[blue17]

^^ I agree. I'm a big fan of those teasing questions, it usually opens up a whole new topic and the delivery is usually ****y and funny.

 

[Porky]

that's not a fvckin neg hit. that's you insulting her and making her feel inferior. she smiled because you embarrassed her, and not in the "oh that's so sweet" way.

 

[spaceMAN]

yea i have kinda the same prob. as u michael, lol but i wasnt so harsh. but i have this girl that i like, and we were cool for a while but lately she hasnt gave a **** about me, and i started out like a ***** and letting her treat me like crap, but she was gone for like 2 weeks and i didnt even talk to her and during that time i found this website, and i realized how she was screwing me over. so when she came back i stopped taking her **** and gave it back to her, like. . its hard to explain, dont remember any examples. but she is just *****y sometimes and before i would just take it. yesterday i had a attitude back to her , and she didnt like it. she kinda got mad and said i had an attitude and wasnt acting like myself. she said your not being the "little nice spaceMAN you usually are. . ." this really pissed me off and i really got an attitude after that, but its my fault, i know i have been projecting that image my whole life, but i am starting to realize it and trying to grow some balls. .

-spaceMAN

 

[So Many Ways]

That was a straight up insult, no doubt about it.

 

[MindOverMatter]

jesus f'in christ, if you're gonna use a neg, at least know what it is.

read the bible.

 

[FreeStyleZ]

This is what happens when keyboard jockey's try to apply what they read in the real world. You insulted her and probably have no chance now.

 

[christz]

Originally posted by AFK Protector
Instead of "DAYUM! SHE BLOWS YOU OUTTA THE WATER! YOU UGLY BIATCH!"

Say "hmm...sounds like someone is getting jealous eh?"

That would open up the convo more I think. Give you both more possibilities because it's a question and challenge to her mentality all in one.

lol!!

that's awesome.. almost classic

"dayummmm biatch! i dunno what you was smokein.. your NOTHING comapred to her"

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by Michael99
I was talking to this girl that I kind of like with her friends. She started talking about Jessica Simpson saying that she isn't that pretty without makeup. She sounded pretty jealous and I said that Jessica looks hot without her makeup then I smiled at her and said "she blows you out of the water." She just kind of smiled nervously like she was embarrassed when i said this. Did I hurt her feelings too much and kill my chances or could this have built some attraction?

Thanks

Ehh maybe...but I wouldn't worry about it. She was acting petty and jealous and she got smacked down. Still, if you're gonna make a cut-down like that, back it up with some support so you "take her down gently." Don't just break her knees out from under her. ESPECIALLY if she's only like 6-7 on the looks scale. If she's like a "9", you can get away with hitting harder.

Should've just said something like, "You're just jealous."

 

[Michael99]

live and learn I guess

thanks for the replies

 

[AFK Protector]

Re: Re: Did I go too far with this neg hit?

Originally posted by squirrels
Don't just break her knees out from under her.

but squirrels, breaking people's knees is so fun!