Did i dodge a bullet?

[ecko280]

I just broke up with my girlfriend. We were together for only 4 months. There was a lot of "red flags" on her part, but a lot of great things that i liked/loved.

red flags:
She did a lot of drugs in the past, but she stopped like a month before we met. She would cry when i would leave her to go to work or school. she had a very bad/emotional childhood. She was never loved as a child and her dad was never there for her. She was very clingy with me. She would not like it when i hang out with the boys. She also stop hiving sex with me because she wanted to get marry with me. (Almost got marry) She also got in a fight with my brother and parents.

Things i loved:
She was a solid 8 (an 9 when she got dress up/makeup). When we did have sex, she would dress up. She was VERY affectionate/loving to me. She was a very clean girl that took care of herself. she took care of me very good. For example, she would make me food and give me massages. she would always be available to go out with me at any time. I loved that fact that she was a girly girl. she would always have makeup and always looked hot and always wear heels and skirts. She was also smart with a college degree.

did i dodge a bullet?? YES I DID. I LOVE THIS SITE!!!!!! :rockon:
What you guys think??

 

[Swift Shadow]

Yes you did...
It seems that that the woman you described is the type that i somehow always get involved with, Screwed up past, No father, abusive issues etc

I've learned that while these types of women are usually incredible in bed it's not worth trying to form an LTR with them, the constant clinging and jealous behaviour can weigh you down

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Ecko,
If ever a Woman uses Svx as a bargaining strategum,to get her own way,she is no good to any of us.

 

[Bluntmaster]

From what the OP has told me just from the post, I would have kept her around. I love crazy chics. What did she do to you that was so bad to get dumped? Did she lie? Cheat? If she was honest and crazy, she would have been cool.

 

[ecko280]

From what the OP has told me just from the post, I would have kept her around. I love crazy chics. What did she do to you that was so bad to get dumped? Did she lie? Cheat? If she was honest and crazy, she would have been cool.

You are right. I would have kept her, but she stop having sex with me because she wanted to get married. She wanted to "Turn her way" and be with God, so she was not having sex until she got married.

 

[Bluntmaster]

You are right. I would have kept her, but she stop having sex with me because she wanted to get married. She wanted to "Turn her way" and be with God, so she was not having sex until she got married.

Did you tell her that is the reason you dumped her?

 

[ecko280]

Did you tell her that is the reason you dumped her?

Yea.

 

[Bluntmaster]

Yea.

You tell her that "no woman will ever use sex as a bargaining chip with me, and if you don't want to f/ck me while we are not married, then we are done."


Then you did the right thing.

 

[ecko280]

You tell her that "no woman will ever use sex as a bargaining chip with me, and if you don't want to f/ck me while we are not married, then we are done."


Then you did the right thing.

well i did not say it like that. lol

 

[Bluntmaster]

well i did not say it like that. lol

Well what did you say then? You can't post something like this and leave out details. Did she lie or cheat? What else are you leaving out?

 

[ecko280]

There was no lie or cheating. I left because she would not have sex with me until she married because she thinks she had daemons in her. So she went to god and is only doing what the bible says. She did not want no "Open doors" for the devil to get inside her and destroy her. She also surfer from depression. so yea it was crazy, so i had to leave.

 

[Bluntmaster]

There was no lie or cheating. I left because she would not have sex with me until she married because she thinks she had daemons in her. So she went to god and is only doing what the bible says. She did not want no "Open doors" for the devil to get inside her and destroy her. She also surfer from depression. so yea it was crazy, so i had to leave.

Then who knows if you dodged a bullet? I have dated crazy chics but there was no dodging until they lied or cheated. This girl just withheld sex, so you should have told her to her face that she either spreads the legs, or she is dumped.

Send her my way, and let me get to know her and then I'll let you know if you dodged a bullet.

 

[Boilermaker]

I sense that you do not have many other plates to "play" at this moment. Is that the case?...

I think a man becomes invincible and all powerful when he has options. And "acting" like a guy who has options is neither intuitive nor easily learned.

The best is to have options!

I think the bottleneck the hordes of AFCs get stuck is, therefore, to create options to "play" (even if one doesn't fvck them; having some play on the board is emotionally very stimulating), in other words to MEET women.

I think you'll be just fine if you meet a few chicks and start playing. Getting your family involved etc..., this one sounds like a nutjob Hehe

 

[Jitterbug]

I sense that you do not have many other plates to "play" at this moment. Is that the case?...

I think a man becomes invincible and all powerful when he has options. And "acting" like a guy who has options is neither intuitive nor easily learned.

The best is to have options!

Wrong, a man has real power when he places his self-respect above sexual needs. Requiring options before you can dump a woman that's causing you misery & pain means you are still a slave to your penis.

Ain't nothing wrong with having options, but that's not where you should base your personal power.

 

[Boilermaker]

Wrong, a man has real power when he places his self-respect above sexual needs. Requiring options before you can dump a woman that's causing you misery & pain means you are still a slave to your penis.

Ain't nothing wrong with having options, but that's not where you should base your personal power.

I disagree. "Placing self-respect above sexual needs" comes as a moralistic cliché to me.

A man can only place his self-respect provided he has options, or he KNOWS he can acquire options, quickly and effortlessly. Otherwise, it's like preaching the benefits of fasting to the homeless.

99 % of men are not like that, therefore they are powerless. But yeah, real men love Jesus and they are not slaves to their penises, right?...:yes:

 

[hansol]

I disagree. "Placing self-respect above sexual needs" comes as a moralistic cliché to me.

A man can only place his self-respect provided he has options, or he KNOWS he can acquire options, quickly and effortlessly. Otherwise, it's like preaching the benefits of fasting to the homeless.

99 % of men are not like that, therefore they are powerless. But yeah, real men love Jesus and they are not slaves to their penises, right?...:yes:

I must respectfully disagree. Self-respect is not at all dependent on options, and I fail to see your logic. Refusing to yield on things that you deem important isn't even close to a moralistic cliche, and is, in my opinion, pivotal in being a complete and well-rounded male.

For example, I refuse to sleep with fat chicks. If she isn't a 7 or better, I won't bother with it, regardless of if it means I go home alone that night. Whether or not there are hotter chicks in the venue that night, I won't lower my standards.

I say cudos to the OP for stating "I draw the line at crazy chicks who think they have demons inside them." That's a very healthy position to take, regardless of whether there is alternative pvssy lined up or not. Haven't you seen "The Exorcist"? Demon chicks are bad news. They do handstands down stairs and throw up on you. And you thought HB10's were high maintenance...

 

[jophil28]

Wrong, a man has real power when he places his self-respect above sexual needs. Requiring options before you can dump a woman that's causing you misery & pain means you are still a slave to your penis.

Ain't nothing wrong with having options, but that's not where you should base your personal power.

Ahh, Jitter, you make your Uncle Jophil so proud !

 

[Kailex]

She also stop hiving sex with me because she wanted to get marry with me. (Almost got marry) She also got in a fight with my brother and parents.

If she wasn't going to have sex, then what's the point of being with her?

The two things were probably the two things that REALLY stood out to me.

All of a sudden she wants to be a reborn virgin? Then fine, she can do it on her own.



But the second point is what really grates on me.
If your "girlfriend" is willing to disrespect your family, regardless of what was said, then trust me... down the line she will be more than willing to disrespect you as a man.

I would stay away from any woman who is not afraid of confrontation with my own family.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Law 10: Infection: Avoid the Unhappy and Unlucky
You can die from someone else's misery— emotional states are as infectious as diseases. You may feel you are helping the drowning man but you are only precipitating your own disaster. The unfortunate sometimes draw misfortune on themselves; they will also draw it on you. Associate with the happy and fortunate instead.

 

[squirrels]

Law 10: Infection: Avoid the Unhappy and Unlucky
You can die from someone else's misery— emotional states are as infectious as diseases. You may feel you are helping the drowning man but you are only precipitating your own disaster. The unfortunate sometimes draw misfortune on themselves; they will also draw it on you. Associate with the happy and fortunate instead.

This.

You did well to let her go. Too many guys get stuck with miserable c*nts and when asked why, they come back with the excuse, "Aw but the sex was so awesome dude!"

While sex is an important part of a healthy marriage, sexual attraction alone cannot be the foundation of a healthy relationship.