Did I do the right thing?

[TheMasterOfBation]

Whats up guys heres the story:

Well there is this chick on my block about an HB7 whos been living there for about a year. One of my friends already hit it the second time they chilled and then completely ignored her. Well one of these days I was coming home from the gym and she sees me (I know her a lil froma past introduction). I wave to her and she says WOW! It turns out she was impressed with my physique so I go over talk a lil and get the digits. Immediately as I finish speaking with her in person she calls me, she continued to call me throughout the day. My parents were away for the week so I decided to invite her over. Knowing that my friend pounded her out already he was cheering for me knowing that it should be eay, turns out it wasn't. Well she canceled on me the 1st day. The 2nd day she came over. Nothing much happened, a lil kissing and touching and cuddiling, but she kept making refrences to sex such as we should take a shower together, but then she would immediatley say just kdding! She did this several times. She was confusing me. Well I did not hit it, I thought I would have a another chance. Well she would keep calling me for bull**** and I would try to see her since she lived a couple of houses away from me. Everytime I/she would set something up she had an excuse. I finally told her listen "you said you like me but if you did you would make time to see me, I think it would be best if we just stopped trying to make something happen", and she just said ok like she did not care. Was I right for cutting it off because she kept avoiding me, or should I have continued playing her game? I was getting fed up with it. Why was she sending me these signals. Perhaps she knew that I knew that she banged my friend and this ruined it? But yea she lives on my block so I will see her again. What do you guys think/suggest. Should I say soemthing to her next time or just forget about her? Thanks alot

 

[iHatePants]

I'm betting she didn't think you were being serious when you said you were cutting her off. She probably knows you want to get in her pants and thats why she's doing all this.

Prove to her you were serious about cutting her off and that you don't need to **** her by ignoring her.

 

[MacDiddy]

Mastabation: You made a fatal mistake of trying to seek closure, and pre-empting her to make a logical choice. Basically, you care to much of a chick you had not built up sufficient value with.

Given a chance to make a logical choice, a chick will always(correct me if I'm wrong) go into Anti-Slut mode and take caution to the options that she has. Anyway, in doing what you did, the payoff is that she'd realise she was gonna risk a potential relationship and TRY to make it work. The risk however is that she could blow you off "LIKE.... WHATEVER...*shrugging shoulder* WHO CARES" resulting in a lost of face... Well, it didnt turn out well for you.

There is no point in seeking closure with chicks or pre-empting them to choose, no positive benefit and no currency. NOTHING..

Had you just left it at that and went on your merry way, she might have thought to herself "Whats up, why hasn't he given me any attention.. hmmm... let me ring him" .. The point here is that you've done completely nothing and she has made a move.

Just drop it dude, and move on... You'd need to build up more value in her eyes before she'd reconsider..

 

[TheMasterOfBation]

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Thanks a lot guys. I would have love to bang her but I guess I just better forget about her. I could not put up with all her games of deceit. All well there are plenty of other girls out there. Who knows maybe this chick will come around again. I don't care either way. Thanks a lot again guys.

 

[BigMike]

As a rule, when Im tired of a girl playing those sorts of games with me I do not let her know. I simply say and I quote, "I really wanna put my **** in you, wanna come over tonight?"

I have done it 4 times in my existence and gotten laid twice...One of them leading to an F'Buddy for almost 3 months

If you can pull it off w/out looking angry and overly serious, it's not a bad LAST RESORT.

 

[TheMasterOfBation]

Originally posted by BigMike
As a rule, when Im tired of a girl playing those sorts of games with me I do not let her know. I simply say and I quote, "I really wanna put my **** in you, wanna come over tonight?"

I have done it 4 times in my existence and gotten laid twice...One of them leading to an F'Buddy for almost 3 months

If you can pull it off w/out looking angry and overly serious, it's not a bad LAST RESORT.

lol yea I think I will try this one next time, cuz this chick was really getting me stressed out and frustrated. You never what the answer will be if you never ask right? lol

 

[NewMan]

"you said you like me but if you did you would make time to see me, I think it would be best if we just stopped trying to make something happen", and she just said ok like she did not care

It seems like she didn't care, because she does not care - but why do YOU care?

1st, you don't want to put an ultimatum on a potential fvck buddy - because she will believe that you are more serious than you are. Not only that, she will expect more from you than you are willing to give, and finally, you don't want to fvck her over - you keep a fvck buddy by being open and up front - not by pretending to want to be with her then fvckign and throwing her away.

2, your showing her your hand by letting her know that she's getting to you. Never let a woman know that she's getting to you and that your frustrated and not getting the poon somewhere else. That last part is most important. If you are not - or cannot in her eyes, get laid outside of her, then why (in her mind) should she give up the poon to you - there must be something wrong with you. Always act like you don't NEED it.

but she kept making refrences to sex such as we should take a shower together, but then she would immediatley say just kdding! She did this several times.

This was your key to the kingdom here.

listen, she didn't call you all day, didn't agree to come over to your place KNOWING that your folks were not there, didn't kiss you, didn't let you play with her t#ts (or whatever), didn't tell you to take a shower together (just kidding) NOT TO. Next time be aggressive - grab her by the hand and say "That's not a bad idea, let's go".....

But make her say NO.

 

[Kerm]

Originally posted by NewMan
But make her say NO.

Good advice. You don't actually know if she really is kidding or not... only one way to really find out.

 

[TheMasterOfBation]

Originally posted by NewMan
It seems like she didn't care, because she does not care - but why do YOU care?

1st, you don't want to put an ultimatum on a potential fvck buddy - because she will believe that you are more serious than you are. Not only that, she will expect more from you than you are willing to give, and finally, you don't want to fvck her over - you keep a fvck buddy by being open and up front - not by pretending to want to be with her then fvckign and throwing her away.

2, your showing her your hand by letting her know that she's getting to you. Never let a woman know that she's getting to you and that your frustrated and not getting the poon somewhere else. That last part is most important. If you are not - or cannot in her eyes, get laid outside of her, then why (in her mind) should she give up the poon to you - there must be something wrong with you. Always act like you don't NEED it.



This was your key to the kingdom here.

listen, she didn't call you all day, didn't agree to come over to your place KNOWING that your folks were not there, didn't kiss you, didn't let you play with her t#ts (or whatever), didn't tell you to take a shower together (just kidding) NOT TO. Next time be aggressive - grab her by the hand and say "That's not a bad idea, let's go".....

But make her say NO.

wow this was great advice where were you when I needed you lol. Well if I do get another chance with her which I doubt, I will try your approach. It seems as the most logical way to handle this situation. Thanks a lot