Looks like you need her more than she needs you. She is obviously willing to walk and you are trying find excuse to reconnect which is a BIG mistake . Let her go. If she don't contact you then you probably didn't mean much to her in the first place. Go ghost. EVEN if she contacts you I would only reply after few days... Make the bitvch sweat for making you jump thru hoops. If it were me I would get rid of her
Did I Do The Right Thing By Calling Her Out?
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Harry Wilmington
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I'm just curious: what made you feel the need to tell her you had OCD tendencies? My thought has always been, within the first 3 months there's no need to verbally tell a girl stuff that you perceive to be "wrong" with you, so I'm wondering how it came up and/or why you told her that? I'm not saying she's right for teasing you, but I AM thinking there was no need for her to have been told that info in the first place...
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You sound like an insecure *****. Hate to say it but she clearly hit a soft spot in your ego by teasing you. If James Bond had OCD would he react like that if a girl was teasing him? Nah..
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mikey2012 said:
I think you are right... this girl is making me feel like I have to be constantly nice to her..
I have to keep her happy and pleased.. if I upset her in the slightest, then she feels like she can just drop me and walk away... maybe in the hope that I will come groveling back!!
as for how did she find out I was ocd.. she noticed it, when she was stopping at my house... I did not tell her... but I am not that bad with it..
Its not just that tho.. this girl generally got a bit rude and ****y on quite a few occasions...
so I knew I would have to set some boundaries... when we first started dating, she kept calling me small and tiny.. I am 5ft7 hieght, but quite muscular and well built
This was annoying me, but I let it slide... besides this chick has alot of male friends, so I would not be surprised if she has other options, and that is why she is so willing to walk away.
I had intentions of trying LTR with this girl... but now I am thinking, I should walk away.. seems too risky to get emotionally attached with a girl like this..
She could be gone over the slightest thing, and will certainly make me jump through hoops, in order to be with her...
Should I dump her? Or give her till the weekend, and go complete ghost? Also I met her on POF
Like I said soft next her. If she comes around make her sweat don't respond immediately . She has power of you and she probably knows it. You need to be willing to walk otherwise you will be the biatch forever and nothing you can do can undo this. You need to take a stand now. Go ghost .
If you ask me. I would get rid of her. Spend the time and effort meeting other women.
If you ask me. I would get rid of her. Spend the time and effort meeting other women.
RangerMIke
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Having not been there I can't say what was going on. It could be anything from you were too over sensitive to some mild teasing, to full blown disrespect.
My guess is that you likely over reacted. Why do I say that? Simple, you should NEVER let ANYTHING a woman does to you effect you. You are the rock.
Don't worry about what to do about her... based on what you aretelling us that she is doing now... is she's getting ready to dump you. She probibily thinks you are a bit insecure and overly-sensitive.
This is what women do... they test your strength. They find little cinks in your armor and they work on them. They will attack any weakness and see how you deal with it. If you get all butt hurt, you fail. How can you deal with her wild swings of emotion when you yourself are insecure about yourself.
What you do if a women ticks you off is remove yourself from her presence and go find other women. If you don't think you can do this, because you care too much about the relationship, then you might as well go ahead and put in the nose ring and hand her the chain so she can lead you around.
My guess is that you likely over reacted. Why do I say that? Simple, you should NEVER let ANYTHING a woman does to you effect you. You are the rock.
Don't worry about what to do about her... based on what you aretelling us that she is doing now... is she's getting ready to dump you. She probibily thinks you are a bit insecure and overly-sensitive.
This is what women do... they test your strength. They find little cinks in your armor and they work on them. They will attack any weakness and see how you deal with it. If you get all butt hurt, you fail. How can you deal with her wild swings of emotion when you yourself are insecure about yourself.
What you do if a women ticks you off is remove yourself from her presence and go find other women. If you don't think you can do this, because you care too much about the relationship, then you might as well go ahead and put in the nose ring and hand her the chain so she can lead you around.
Am I reading this right?!
It's only been two months and you've already had two fights? One of them serious enough that you haven't spoken to her in days?
Exactly why do you think the two of you might be compatible?
There should be nothing going on in the first six months of any serious dating/relationship other than constant sex with occasional breaks for something to eat.
Get rid of her, delete all contact information and forget her. If she reaches out to you and wants to meet again just say something to the effect of "No thanks, I wasn't really having any fun, I'm not interested anymore."
It's only been two months and you've already had two fights? One of them serious enough that you haven't spoken to her in days?
Exactly why do you think the two of you might be compatible?
There should be nothing going on in the first six months of any serious dating/relationship other than constant sex with occasional breaks for something to eat.
Get rid of her, delete all contact information and forget her. If she reaches out to you and wants to meet again just say something to the effect of "No thanks, I wasn't really having any fun, I'm not interested anymore."
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Cremasta said:
To be fair, it wasn't much of a fight.. she was acting in a way that was annoying me, and I told her, to stop creating a drama out of nothing!
She then claimed I was talking to her like crap, and didn't care about her feeling.. and I basically told her that was nonsense..
This girl has a habit of saying rude and annoying things... and I,m the sort of guy who would call her out...
So clearly this cannot workout.. I,m gona wait till friday and see what happens, I think i will just delete her from my whatsapp, no explanation, and just vanish..
Cloudtopsun2100
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dont put up with this, she is an underperforming "AMEX stock" which is about to get demoted to OTC pink cause shes a retard who talks trash to you, dont invest in crap -- go find yourself a blue chip girl
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Suspens said:
Hi yes.. have an update.. she messaged me last night..
Just what I expected...
This is how the text went...
her - not sure what has happened, we was getting along well and I loved spending the weekend with you..
I had a feeling you would not bother with me again.. I wanted to text you, but something told me that you didn't want me to.. I had a feeling you wouldn't contact me again.. thank you for you time, hope your ok xx
Typical just what I expected.. I had actually texted her sunday night, asked how she was.. she could have messaged me any day of the week, and done the exact thing, and asked how I was..
my guess is, she was waiting for me to cave in.. and panic and ask her what is going on.. when I did not bother with her.. it prompted her to finaly message me!
See how she blames me for this incident... I have not replied back yet
backseatjuan
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Sounds like you have relationship related obsession!
By the way, nice telling a fine woman you won't change! I have this thing about making my bed, so when a girl tells me about that or worst makes my bed for me I get nuts, I carefully without yelling explain to her that in the evening I'll be sleeping there again!!
By the way, nice telling a fine woman you won't change! I have this thing about making my bed, so when a girl tells me about that or worst makes my bed for me I get nuts, I carefully without yelling explain to her that in the evening I'll be sleeping there again!!
