Diamonds Are A Girl's Best Friend

[Desdinova]

I believe it's a mistake to extrapolate the expected behavior of every woman out there based on one damaged example.

Would you like a few more damaged examples? I've got them.

 

[bigjohnson]

Would you like a few more damaged examples? I've got them.

Is the plural of anecdote, data? Pass.

Do women use them as a display of value? Sure. Is that the only thing the ring means to most women? I highly doubt it.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Do women use them as a display of value? Sure. Is that the only thing the ring means to most women? I highly doubt it.

A diamond, like many, many other things in society, has no use, and is largely symbolic.

For anything to be as expensive as a diamond, yet so popular, it must hold many symbolic and valuable meanings for many different people, including both giver, and receiver.

For every example of them being used as pretentiousness, greed, or vanity, there are plenty more examples of them being used symbols of commitment, love and family.

Since most who read this are men, I suggest that he who buys and gives the diamond is the one who determines its value, as well as determining if the receiver is worthy of receiving.

 

[Desdinova]

For every example of them being used as pretentiousness, greed, or vanity, there are plenty more examples of them being used symbols of commitment, love and family.

Honestly, I believe that the ones who see a diamond (or ring) as being symbols of commitment, love and family are MEN. When a man buys a ring for a woman, he's generally not looking to impress the woman (unless he has megabucks to throw around). He does it because he has committed his loyalty, his trust, and his love to the woman. I've been there and done it. Then the bytch 'lost' the ring. :yes: When that happened, I think I was more upset about it than she was. I put all that commitment into a symbol and slid it on her finger, and then she goes and carelessly loses it.

Then there are the ones I described who end up with the ring because they don't want to hurt the guy, and want to show off to their girlfriends.

Women often will speak long and passionately (read:boring) about things that are extremely important to them. Ask a woman what that ring on her finger means and I doubt you're going to get much more than a sentence or two out of her. She might go off and tell you about her encounters with people who noticed the ring, or how she likes to clean it, but she likely won't tell you what symbols the ring actually holds. Ask her fiance / husband, and he'll be able to tell you.

 

[Luthor Rex]

The whole diamond engagement thing is a huge scam being perpetuated by the mining companies. It's commercialism at it's worst. The average cost of a diamond engagement ring is $3500 to $4000. I can think of a million things that are a better use of money than a f-ing ring.

An interesting read

To the best of my limited knowledge on diamonds, colored diamonds (like the Hope diamond) are the only ones that are actually rare. The clear diamonds in engagement rings are about as rare as same size of glass.

 

[Tazman]

I think women could care less about any "meaning" involving a diamond ring. All they care about is how much it's worth and the reactions of people they show it off to.

 

[Colossus]

It is true because they can sell it after they divorce you for big $$$!


I tell every girl I date that I don't believe in buying sh!t like that. It's not the ring itself, it's the expectation and the asinine amount of money it costs. Fvck that noise. I know a doctor who spent $17,000 on an engagement ring!!! No joke. And they divorced a year later.

 

[bigjohnson]

It is true because they can sell it after they divorce you for big $$$!

Many cultures have a similar thing. Some Asian cultures have a dowry the husband pays to the family, and after his new family (he and his wife) are established a little the money is paid back.

My current GF and I have discussed it and she's against the idea of an expensive ring. I like to mark my territory. Sue me.

 

[backbreaker]

If you have any question or distaste about how your woman will behave on the subject of diamond rings, maybe you shouldn't be marrying her in the first place.

When and if I get married, I will be getting my woman a diamond ring. It will be somewhere between modest and extravagant, depending on what's reasonable money-wise. And she WILL appreciate it and behave maturely in regard to it...because I'm not going to marry an idiot.

Maybe I'll TELL her it's a CZ, then break out the truth on our 5th anniversary or something. Lead in with, "Honey, there's something I need to tell you...I haven't been honest with you all these years..." just to build the suspense. How's THAT for a social experiment?

gets it.


I just proposed a few months ago and I could have went and got a freaking grape ring pop and my fiancee would have been happy.

Most guys, as pointed out here, don't' understand what the ring in today's society means, and desinova hit the nail on the head. the only thing the ring is good for is to validate her which is why they do all to some extent care.

I spent a pretty penny on her engagement ring and I'm going to spend even more on her wedding ring when I go buy it in a few months. Realtonshipos are very give and take and the more you are able to understand this, the more you can make it work for you, the better off you are.

While my fiancee does not necessarily, if at all really ask for money, all women like to show their men off. All women want to be proud of their man. Look at what my husband bought me. look at how successful my husband is. Over the last few years her life has really meshed into being "my GF" if that makes any sense. her identity has alot to do with who I am and what I do. We make a great team and play very well off each other.

When I ask her to not work becuase I want my child taken care of her by her and not a stranger and she does it with no questions asked, when I can go out of town for a week and she has no indication that I"m thinking about cheating on her and I assure you no one I don't' know is in my house when I'm gone. There hasn't been one day the last year I haven't woken up and breakfast has been sitting there already made on the table, and I get up at 5am. And she gets off on this. she likes knowing that she is helping me achieve my goals make me be a better person. I have a ****ing woman and I love it.

so yeah... if my baby wants to show off a rock to show her man off, **** it. she's worth it. and she's earned that right in my book.


who the fvck cares if a diamond has no "real" value. sense when have women been freaking rational? stop trying to use rationality to deal with women. you have to do some irrational **** sometimes to deal with irrational creatures. It has value to her so yes it does hold value.

my cvck doesn't hold any "real value" but if I keep banging a girl and she keeps coming back, it has value to her and at the end of the day that's all that matters.