Developing game as a newbie?

[Drowsy Medicine]

What are some obvious sticking points to start working through with game, obstacles that newbies generally experience. It's hard to work out the first goal I should set as lately I have been watching a lot of the RSD guys and they throw all of these different concepts around, it's difficult to find direction.
You can probably guess that I'm new to this, I am 18.

I realise that first sicking points are going to be different for everybody so I'm interested in what you personally went through as a newbie or obstacles that you have seen new guys generally going through on the forum are both helpful.

The second half of this question is the processes you used to work through the obstacle(s) you experienced as a newbie.

Cheers.

 

[AlphaNate]

"The master has failed more times than the beginner has even tried."

Learn to fail without taking it personally. I've had plenty of guys show jealousy because of girls I pull, but they have no idea how much I've crashed and burned.

 

[devilkingx2]

cold approaching is the main way to improve your skills, cold approaching is not for getting laid it's mainly for mastering your skills, once you've done enough cold approaches you'll be a master of the game (if you can actually get laid from cold approaching you are a master of the game), you only really need to be average to decent to start getting girls though

 

[SuckItUp]

1. Work on your body - If you are skinny go to the gym and put on lean muscle. If you are fat then hit the gym and lose the excess weight. This should never been done for women but for yourself, and this isn't for a quick fix but rather a lifestyle choice to avoid paying for it down the road.

2. Define your goals - The key to being a man is setting small, medium and large goals on short term, intermediate term, and long term timeframe. A man without ambition isn't a man with choice.

3. Embrace your passions and follow them - To be clear playing videos shouldn't be a passion unless that's part of your dream to be a video game designer. Don't shy away from your passions because of how you think you will be perceived by a woman. If a woman doesn't appreciate your passion she's not worth it.

4. Build a social network - Loners typically don't do well with woman. It does happen, but I wouldn't recommend it. Find people who enjoy some the things you enjoy. Make sure you include women in your network.

5. ABL - Always be learning - Now this hits a wide array of topics, but at the heart is the cliche that knowledge is power. The more you know and can apply the more complex you will be. Of course try to avoid being a know it all as that turns off people.

Understand that by improving your life as much as you can you can maximize your enjoyment. It also removes the typical excuses that are used to such as I'd go out and meet people but I don't feel well or I'm out of shape.

Accept that no matter what you do some women will not have interest in you.

Once you can accept yourself then you are ready to get women

 

[Drowsy Medicine]

1. Work on your body - If you are skinny go to the gym and put on lean muscle. If you are fat then hit the gym and lose the excess weight. This should never been done for women but for yourself, and this isn't for a quick fix but rather a lifestyle choice to avoid paying for it down the road.

2. Define your goals - The key to being a man is setting small, medium and large goals on short term, intermediate term, and long term timeframe. A man without ambition isn't a man with choice.

3. Embrace your passions and follow them - To be clear playing videos shouldn't be a passion unless that's part of your dream to be a video game designer. Don't shy away from your passions because of how you think you will be perceived by a woman. If a woman doesn't appreciate your passion she's not worth it.

4. Build a social network - Loners typically don't do well with woman. It does happen, but I wouldn't recommend it. Find people who enjoy some the things you enjoy. Make sure you include women in your network.

5. ABL - Always be learning - Now this hits a wide array of topics, but at the heart is the cliche that knowledge is power. The more you know and can apply the more complex you will be. Of course try to avoid being a know it all as that turns off people.

Understand that by improving your life as much as you can you can maximize your enjoyment. It also removes the typical excuses that are used to such as I'd go out and meet people but I don't feel well or I'm out of shape.

Accept that no matter what you do some women will not have interest in you.

Once you can accept yourself then you are ready to get women

Why include women in my network? This might sound like stupid question but I feel like its somewhat wasted emotional energy to interact girls who I'm not going to bang. What is there to gain from having female friends, other than people to promote my reputation amongst other females when I'm not around, maybe thats important?

 

[SuckItUp]

Why include women in my network? This might sound like stupid question but I feel like its somewhat wasted emotional energy to interact girls who I'm not going to bang. What is there to gain from having female friends, other than people to promote my reputation amongst other females when I'm not around, maybe thats important?

1. Knowing women helps because, outside the crazy women who only have male friends, they have female friends who in turn have female friends, which makes things a lot easier as a warm lead (social proof) being introduced to them rather than walking up to women who haven't been introduced to you (cold sale).

2. One of the greatest things a man can have in the dating game is hot female friends (pivots) who will go out and have fun and "innocently" flirt with you. When you are with a hot woman is raises your social value and it says to other women that you have no problem being around hot women and that you are socially adept.

Notice I said hot women above. If you hang out with low quality women people will assume that is your "level".

Don't get me wrong, I'm not necessarily advocating that you find the hottest woman possible to be your friend. I'm suggesting that you include attractive women in your social circle for the reasons above.

 

[devilkingx2]

I never fully bought that "females give you social proof" thing, unless you fvck them, they probably won't like you enough to do anything useful for you, not to mention that people might think you already have a girlfriend or a full plate if you're with a girl

 

[hockeyfreak79]

Why include women in my network? This might sound like stupid question but I feel like its somewhat wasted emotional energy to interact girls who I'm not going to bang. What is there to gain from having female friends, other than people to promote my reputation amongst other females when I'm not around, maybe thats important?

Definitely not a stupid question and completely agree on the aspect of wasted energy. Sounds like you lean more towards an introverted personality. Don't make woman or learning game your main focus. A lot of guys jump in learn just enough to get a girl and they think that's it.

Get your a** in school, get a degree or 2. At your age woman should be low on the priority list. I'm not saying you can't get out there and have fun. Just don't make them a top priority.