developing a good life

[driveon]

I'm going to start going to the gym and eating well (as suggested by people on this forum). For the last couple of months I've been running on a treadmill for 20 minutes every morning but I haven't developed much muscle from doing free weights and my diet has been crap.

I'm 5'7" and I weigh 135 pounds.

The second barrier between me and fulfillment:
my social life sucks. I've talked to more strangers this last month than I ever have before but I need to make friends.

I need to make guy friends. I started out the first 2 weeks of community college by talking to lots of girls but it's really frustrating the hell out of me.

I need a group of guy friends to socialize with. I need to be around guys who aren't pathetic around girls.

Where do you find guys like that and how the hell do you establish a friendship without coming off like a desperate asshat?

 

[Inquire]

you gotta show them u are worth their time and they are worth yours, and be real, dont be all lyin and fake. u just have to find that connection with some people.

 

[Live-n-learn]

Hey there, I'm in a similar situation in the sense that I have to make new friends and develop a better life. I'm restarting my workout routine, trying to eat better and such. My problem is that my acne still hasn't cleared up, so it still holds me back a bit. It sucks now that it's time to head back to school and it's still there. I'm aiming to project my great personality and sense of humour to divert attention away from my skin. Or worse case, I might turn to.........make-up??? :box:

 

[everywomanshero]

My advice

If you have acne you need to get help NOW, right freakin now before PERMANENT SCARING TAKES PLACE. IF you wait, you'll be paying a HUGE amount of money for recovery later.

I don't care what you have to do, I don't care if you have to panhandle, beg, borrow... trust me on this one, get to a dermatologist today. TAKE whatever they give you EXactly as directed.

You have to take cre of yourself. With acne and teeth, it is CRITICAL that you start ASAP. Call the dematologist tomorrow. IF you already have, then call her back and get the shots.

Go buy some balance bars. When you need a snack and would otherwise have a snickers bar or hit MCds, eat that damn balance bar. Wiat at least 20 minutes and you shouldn't feel the need to eat anymore.

Stop using laundry detergent that cause reactions. Use arm & hammer or talk to your dermatologist for advice. Stop drinking low-fat milk. Low-fat milk is one of the few food items studies can now prove is linked to increase acne. Sadly, if you want to reduce acne, you may need to cut milk out of your diet until your dermatologist can further advise.

Do this tomorrow.

 

[Live-n-learn]

Unfortunately it's already too late for me, i have some scarring on my face. So I shouldn't drink milk for now? That's gonna be a little tough as I consume milk daily as a source of protein as I"m trying to increase some muscle mass. I hate how you try to accomplish one thing, but it impedes your progress in accomplishing another goal at the same time :cuss:

 

[Smooth Player 056]

ACNE.ORG cleared me up completely....go there now!!!!

 

[driveon]

I don' t know how this turned into a post about acne but what the fck.

Cedaphil gental cleansing antibacterial soap... Rinse your face with warm water, wash your face with your hands (no wash clothe) rinse with cold water. 3 times a day. Morning afternoon and night.

I guarantee you will notice a difference.

 

[driveon]

Getting back to the point. I think there's a balance in life between work and play.

I think very few people have a good balance. I think there are a great many people who play too much and a great many people who work too much. On top of those two extremes is the third individual who wastes his life with TV, drugs, and other useless short term BS.

I stopped playing video games 6 months ago.
I stopped watching TV 6 months ago.
I tried numerous times to stop masterbating but I've found that stopping creates a lot of stress

I've found that I still do stupid **** like browse this forum or other equally lame things.

I've found that the crazier and angrier I am about things not going my way, the more confident I feel and the more equiped I am to take on new things. Alongside that is frustration though. blah.

EDIT

I want to add a few things too.

I notice that I keep looking for a key to different problems. I have this mentality that theres something out there thats going to fix whatever problem I run across and its not true.

Maybe thats a product of my upbringing.

I notice that I keep seeking advice from older people. Some might think that this is a good idea but I think I'm doing it for the wrong reasons.

Lastly, I can go on forever but in the end, analyzing myself is just another attempt at finding a key. It's all BS.

 

[Live-n-learn]

Well I'm already undergoing treatment for my acne already, but it's quite the price tag. It's the price I pay for not taking better care of myself in the past. It's just gonna take a while for it to heal nonetheless, which sucks cause I'm so impatient about it.

To Driveon: I used to have that mentality, where there's one thing that's gonna fix the problem and everything will become better. Unfortunately, this "quick fix" is part of what our society's mentality has brought us to believe, with those celeb surgery news etc. that promote it. Quick fixes in general do not exist; we must implement a plan to work towards a goal and to persist in attaining those goals.