Destroy the bitterness before it destroys you

[MetalFortress]

One thing I see a lot of on this forum, is bitterness. There are those who have 20, 200, or 2000 posts, who all have some sort of bias against women in general. They are always angry at women, and seem to try to find the negatives in them.

But why, if you dislike them so, do you WANT them so bad? Two forces are at work here, primal attraction, and bitter dislike/hatred. One has to go. Drop the bitterness.

With the bitterness, do you really ENJOY what you do when it comes to women? Do you enjoy the company of a good woman and simply brush off the bad ones like nada, or do you see them only as blowup dolls for your sexual satisfaction? Those who see women as being for casual sex only, and not for something entirely deeper, because of some deep-seated reservations, I would willingly bet a San Diego Padres season ticket that you are not near as happy as you could be.

Even for those who do not go for LTRs, can you enjoy ANY sort of satisfaction from a woman other than sexually? Are you too bitter to do so? If you are, you really shouldn't be posting advice on this forum. Don't be bitter. Don't be a robot. Don't be so jaded. Be a natural male. Be a positive man. Sexual and non-sexual satisfaction enhance each other.

 

[cannibustacap]

Hah, I read this right after my post here: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&postid=577431#post577431

Perfect timing.

I have a lot to say about this topic and I can't do it now.

 

[Duke]

LOL. Funny post, man.

The bitterness stems from FRUSTRATION. These guys desparately want to fvck girls and have girlfriends, but their unrelenting NEEDINESS is stopping them from being cool and progressing with the opposite sex. They aren't aware of the neediness, though. In fact, many even wallow in it.

So they can't pinpoint why they suck with women. It becomes an "It's not me" syndrome.

I guarantee that any guy who is successful with women doesn't harbor the bitterness that these average FRUSTRATED chumps harbor.

Peace

 

[xblitz44x]

I think the bitterness has something to do with a) the way that women have made them feel rejected. and b) it's a way to degrade a women in their mind so that when they approach it's not such a big deal. "She is just a wh0re, she's only good for one thing"...is basically the guy trying to blow smoke up his own ass in order to turn down the heat.

 

[diplomatic_lies]

Bitterness basically turns dating into a game which you hate, but for some unexplained reason must still play.

 

[myfriendblu]

Originally posted by Duke
LOL. Funny post, man.

The bitterness stems from FRUSTRATION. These guys desparately want to fvck girls and have girlfriends, but their unrelenting NEEDINESS is stopping them from being cool and progressing with the opposite sex. They aren't aware of the neediness, though. In fact, many even wallow in it.

So they can't pinpoint why they suck with women. It becomes an "It's not me" syndrome.

I guarantee that any guy who is successful with women doesn't harbor the bitterness that these average FRUSTRATED chumps harbor.

Peace

Beautifully said man right on the friggen money. Men aren't naturally bitter...they are frustrated that they aint getting anywhere.

Said it before and say it again - contrary to popular belief, we lived in a relatively modestly society when it comes to hooking up. There are sooooo many men AND women out there not hooking up with anyone or doing anything. Trust me on this there are fustrated people everywhere. Someone posted this once before, but its the top 10 percent of the population having 90 percent of the sex. And I believe that.

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by myfriendblu
Beautifully said man right on the friggen money. Men aren't naturally bitter...they are frustrated that they aint getting anywhere.

Said it before and say it again - contrary to popular belief, we lived in a relatively modestly society when it comes to hooking up. There are sooooo many men AND women out there not hooking up with anyone or doing anything. Trust me on this there are fustrated people everywhere. Someone posted this once before, but its the top 10 percent of the population having 90 percent of the sex. And I believe that.

This is so true...on any given night, maybe only 5% of the guys that you see in the club, even the ones talking to girls, have a CHANCE of even hooking up, unless the chick is his girlfriend already. And maybe 1% actually DO get any.

So unless you're like an ASF-master or something, don't expect to pull a girl out of the club every night. Just go to have fun and enjoy yourself. AMUSE yourself with the women there...tease them, talk sh!t to them, see what kooky thing comes out of their mouths next, and if one starts getting close, well...do what you got to.

 

[Tha Realnezz]

I think people are frustrated cuz they beleive they have to juggle 100 women at a time.

Instead of just having fun and pu' women while just being yourself/working on yourself.They constantly anylze every little interaction they have with women so they can come here vent,ask for advise then get offended,then start to "re-tool" himself based off rejection.

It's just girls we're talking about,guys.Never forget that.

 

[DeathDealer]

It is a Catch-22 No Win situation. If a girl doesn't return your call or says no to your date proposal, you feel angry and when you attempt to hook up with another girl that anger transfers over to her and another girl and another girl. Also, girls have sexual power over us, they can cut off access to their c-nt if we don't buy them stuff or treat them bad. Act good to them when they treat us good, and act bad when they treat us bad. In between - indifference.

But there is a saying out there that can help us "A man kept getting hurt by sitting down on a chair that had a nail sticking out, no matter how many times he tried to sit at a different way he kept getting nicked - then one day he just stopped sitting on that one chair and decided to look for another chair that wouldn't hurt him"

Always remember this: there are truly undateble girls out there just like the fat slobbery geeks out there. Some of them who date a lot of "bad boys" are so traumatized at being abused or girls that are social-hermits have become super-paranoid and overly dramatic that they are not worth the price of p-ssy.

 

[Pugsley_f5]

Frustrations come from when someone starts taking their eyes off of other people and starts saying I want, I need, I deserve, I I I I I I and instead of just enjoying being freindly and enriching other peoples days they are too worried about what they want, with one path comes happiness and the desired outcome, with the other path comes frustration and anger and usually no outcome, my pastor put it frankly......what is the middle letter in the word Sin? I I I I I I, look at other people and give yourself and your happiness away and you will draw others to you like you wouldn't believe, thats "How to have a magnetic personality" right there in one sentence for some of you lazy keyboard jockey bimbos.


Pugs

 

[TheInfamousCBear]

Alot of dudes are mad cause they dont do whats needed to make themselves better and they try with women and it doesnt work, so they get mad...I have a friend, I told him all he has to do is exercise and work on your posture and sh1t, and he says thats the right thing to do but he never does it and women keep fukking him up...Its like people want to do half a$$ jobs and expect the same results as someone who really put work in...

Another thing could be your environment...For example, I see alot of asian dudes in here complaining about not getting play...That might be true for his area, but where Im at, asian dudes get play all the time...Here its a little difficult cause its hard to find girls who like black dudes...But if I go to somewhere like Atlanta or Richmond, there really isnt a problem getting women...People dont realize this and they think that its them that fukked up when its just the area they are in, I know from firsthand experience...

 

[Player_Supreme]

I agree fortress. I keep seeing guys like ....I better leave em nameless ...less a flame war breaks out ...but they know who they are posting lame shyt like:

why do I bother with women
or women make me mad
and on and on and on.

Which is creating a new name for sosuave as being called sogay in internet circles.

What these guys are mad at is their own weakness when it comes to women. I think what you guys call AFC is a born trait and you can't use tactics to get rid of it cause if you read the posts it always comes back later on.

And these guys end up getting mad at women instead of themselves. I think it's called Transgression in the psycho babble circles.

To me it's just gay! And Lame!

A bunch of weak assed non-heman- woman haters!

 

[NewMan]

Most of us at one time or another have been hurt by a chick.

From hurt comes either bitterness or exceptance.

Classic cases are:-

Guy is into chick - loves chick. Chickie fvck's him over. Guy hates chicks.

Or guy is into chick. Chicks leads him on, LJBF's him - then meet's another guy and is fvcking new guy.

The guy can become either bitter - a woman hater - or he can accept, move on and grow from the experience.

But, In order to do the latter - one must accept the mistakes you'v emade int he past (AFC etc.) Some people just can't accept that.