Desperation from friends

[Badladman]

Well, heres the deal. The whole reason why I don't do **** with any girls at my school is the fact that my friends will put me down. they will either be like what the f**k? Or will make fun of me endlessly for the fact that I'm interested with.

Today for example, it was 4 of my friends and one girl. We all knew the girl, but I could have easily did **** with her. I didn't progress because of the fear of what my friends might say. I know for a fact that they would have started tripping if I started to make moves on her. So, anyway how to handle this little problem?

 

[StrikeAnywhere]

If she's someone that you like, and you want to do something with her, then do it. What your friends are showing you by making fun of you are either that they're surprised, jealous, or really not your friends. If they're surprised, just make this (making moves on girls, having a girlfriend) part of your lifestyle, as it should be. If they're jealous, that just helps to validate you. If they're not really your friends, then get new friends.

Just my two cents- hope it helps.

 

[john paul]

Are they gay?

I have never planned on making a move on a girl with my friends around because it would be weird unless it was a party. Even then i wouldnt let it happen in front of them. So i wouldnt blame them if they flipped out when you started groaping her.

Learn to isolate. Go on a date. Get her alone. Or in that example you gave just getting her in a different room is sometimes enough.

If your friends really do have a problem with this then they must be gay, jealous that they dont have a chance with girls, or trying to save you from an ugly girl you think is cute.

 

[Triple T]

meh just do what you want, who gives a crap what they think.

My friends always make fun of me (playfully of course) when I date a girl or like a girl. Its just something they do to try to entertain themselves. Don't take everything to heart, and if it really bugs you just tell them.

If they are your true friends they will stop or at least decrease the teasing.
At least thats what happened to me.

 

[Badladman]

Alright. Most of the girls I go for there not bad looking, but my boys are sometimes just, plain senseless. It balances out though, like I remember one time, it was 2 of my friends, and this girl (another one), and then my 2 friends dipped it, knowing that I just wanted to chill with the girl alone. Then the next day right after, it was like 4 of us, and they were plain stupid with her around, they made it so obvious that I wanted to do s**t with her, and, she just kind of got a bit awkward when she was with me the rest of the day. So basically, my friends are just crappy wingmen. They may know sometimes that I want to be alone with the girl, but when its my friends and the girl, they mess it up. How can I fix this?

 

[schttrj]

ok, i believe in one thing, u have to stand up for ur own good at times even against ur friends and if u hang out with losers, i see u as a loser!

 

[The Grey Fox]

Most average guys will try and put you down when you make a move with a girl because they can't do it themselves and wish they could. Others simply have no respect for you and merely use you to amuse themselves, these are the type of people you need to stay away from the first ones aren't so bad, just make sure you make it clear that what they say doesn't bother you in the slightest.

 

[GaryUranga]

its something youre going to have to go thru, deal with it and dont be too affected by it

 

[Groovy]

Wow!

You have the opportunity to kill two birds from one shot!

1. Overcome this and the girl will think you are even more awsome then you really are!

2. It's proof that your friends are bad and you get to get new ones! (I'm just assuming the worse here, you be careful!)

But remember, bros before hoes!

The main question here isn't "How to overcome this", because that doesn't really fix much as getting a answer to "Why are they doing this to me?"

First answer the last question, and then take care of the first one.

 

[Daddy The Pimp]

I totally understand you . I have friends that try to put me down too .

And they were successful with with that . But that was long time ago , when i still was AFC .

Now , i just see them as jealous clowns that wanna destroy my chances .

Its funny when they keep themselves busy with trying to find details to turn you down .Idiots .

Man once you make sure that their opinion doesnt affect you , they will just shut theyre fvcking mouth and envy you .

 

[rockman]

lol those friends are just jealous of you!