Desperation as seen from the other side

[mahon83050]

Everyone knows or has heard desperation turns women off! Well, as I have experienced, it also is a turn off for guys. I met this chick online who started to e-mail me. She would write about a half page everytime and ask about 1,000 questions. I would write her back and she would always quickly respond. She also has this annoying voice and when she would leave a cell phone message (she would leave it as URGENT!! WTF) First off, I have never even met this girl in person yet and my message would say from the recording, that it is urgent.

So see guys, desperation is a turn-off for both sexes. This gave me insight to how girls feel when a desperate guy comes across. No matter how hot the guy/girl looks, they will drop many points if they are desperate. I always make a note too, to end the phone call or Instant Message session first, even if I am really enjoying it.

 

[madgame]

That's definetly true. Though women act different than men in a lot of ways, still both sexes are humans and there are some principles that applies to both sexes. One thing is being "desperate", another one is not being a challenge at all, by calling too damn much for example, social proof and so on...there are a lot more principles that you can apply this rule to.

 

[WatchMeWalk]

Also keep in mind that desperation is subjective. An average-looking guy trying to get it on with a conceited HB9 doesn't get much latitude for gaffes.

 

[Julius_Caesar]

This is also a good method for improving you social skills(aka making friends). Think about what you think would be cool, not what they think would be cool. It give you a unique spin, that differs from the rest of the crotch sniffers.

 

[Dilly]

This topic couldn't have come at a better time for me!
I need some advice if you guys can give any...help me out PLEASE and tell me (I doubt it) if this can be repaired.

I gave my e-mail to this girl after a few instances where we would bump into each other at school etc. Right from the start she inititated contact...from the introduction to the instances where we would meet up from time to time. She initiated kino, and I felt like we were getting somewhere okay.

That is when disaster struck! I gave her my e-mail (my balls in her hands!) and she added me to IM list about two days later. Then...duh duh duhhhhhh...I FRIGGIN' E-MAILED HER.
And what happens, weeks go by...
no response at all. Not surprising really. I must have been in a trance when I did that! What was I thinking???????

I saw her once after the dreaded e-mail transmission, but it was in a crowded room...I dunno if she saw me...but she avoids me on IM...so I would not be surprised if I've blown it.

So again, if you guys (or gals) can provide any tip big or small at what I can do to perhaps repair this situation or get some GOD-DAMN CLOSURE AT LEAST, type away. I know its bad to have oneitis, but this is killing me seriously.

Great topic by the way...it will help a lot of people.

 

[Adam See]

Desperation is definately a turn off either end, also when a girl says to you "I thought you were too good for me", or something similar. So without a doubt, desperation is bad.

Oneitis is so wrong, you don't need her. Anyways use a bit of C&F around her when you see her next. Don't do this by email, as she'll have too much time to think about it & will probably take it the wrong way.