Desperate = Unattractive ?

[B-Lemond]

When you act desperate with a girl you automatically categorize yourself as an AFC. You look less attractive. If you look at it in another way it might be different. What if you were going out with a girl for more than 1/2 a year and then she starts professing her love to you, thus acting desperate. Theoretically this should make you less attracted to her. BUT, for what reason does a person act desperate? Because they really care aboout someone, or they really want to be with that person. SINCE you know the reason why someone would be desperate, then would you really be less attracted to this person OR would you be happy that someone feels that they can't be without you?

OPEN FOR DISCUSSION:

 

[guitaronfire411]

I'd too like to know how they determine what is desperation and what is controlled boldness? (It's related to my recent events.)

 

[shark]

Well, it depends. If I really like the girl..like i do as my current GF..i'd love it. But usually the hot, great girls don't do this..and it's the more medicore type of girls (relative to what type of girls you normally get with) who may profess there love to you.

 

[frivolousz21]

desparete is when u see a girl 1 or 2 times..and call her 5 times...

 

[So pimp its scary]

I'd say that desperate is more the state of mind.

It comes from putting too much importance on outcomes. Rather than enjoying the process, they are too concerned with getting things right, not screwing up.

That creates desperation.

 

[S-lemond]

wat is love

 

[B-Lemond]

Originally posted by E_ze05
wat is love

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?threadid=82936

 

[frivolousz21]

professing love has nothign to do with Desperate.




People break up not because you are too caring, or too loving, or too kind. People break up because you're too needy, too clingy or too controlling. Of course you've got to apply that to her also

 

[Visceral]

IMO ...

Desperation : need :: desire : want

If she can handle not being around you, if she has other things and other people to fill her time with, if, when you're around, she enjoys your presence rather than complaining about your absence, then she's not desperate.

The same applies to you as well; women are a luxury, something you want and will work for, but still something you can effortlessly do without.