Desperate help please

[learningguy]

hey guys ive never had this situation, im the one always begging for the woman, well this what happened, ive met a girl, and senced maybe she doesnt like me, so i left her, and then we got back again, and ive left her now, since yesterday, she was quite commanding, and i guess i was afraid that we may lose that spark, so guys help me. what shall i do, she wants to talk etc..but i have a feeling if we talk that want, itll go, shell have that satisfaction and may leave me, or hurt...she sent me emails, today..im bamboozled what shall i do...

these are emails
hi....
If u wanted me to go u shud hav just told me....i always try to keep u smiling, i hav neva said i dont like u...but perhaps u have neva wanted me in the first place..........u find it so easy to forget, and say bye to others....but for me itz not no matta how strong i am....if u eva loved me den tlk to me for the last tym der r few things i want to tlk bwt....if u dont den i will take it as u neva liked me...plz for the last time....n i cant belive u took a promise n broke it.....plz for the last tym, den i'l go, perhaps away from everyone........i will wait.......

bye.....

and then
oo...i got u now n y u want me to go....cuz u found sum1 else....aniways waiting to tlk 2 u for the last time.....plz take it as my last request....plz dont refuse it if u ever liked me.....plz.....
and lastly
you leave me wanting nothing more than wanting, more of you........
im still waiting.........
last nyt i was so happy dat we tlked soo much...n 2day i wanted to tlk even more...but i didnt no u want me to go.........im waiting..plz....

im feeling sorry for her, but ive been hurt by woman so much, like they dont care, first time, its the other way round, but i have a feeling, if we meet, shell hurt me...i need ADVICE FROM PROS...

 

[learningguy]

ohh yeah and i like this woman, like fallen in love, but i think maybe itll be better to leave her and always have her thinking of me...than togo back, and destroy the spark, what you think......

 

[Jazzman19]

Not to be offensive, since your writing is hard to follow, but who sent these e-mails? If it is you, you played your card already and I doubt she will want you at all. If it is her, then the story gets more interesting. She does sound like she is trouble though, just my first impression.

 

[learningguy]

she sent em to me...

 

[afc_recovering]

WTF is this girl like 14?

I've seen better writing from a 5th grader...

Maybe it's just me but there is no chance I could take this girl seriously, seems like she possesses fewer brain cells than an ant...

 

[learningguy]

lol, shes known for her looks, i met her at a club

 

[Jazzman19]

Alright, two thoughts. One, based on the desperation in the e-mails she is trying to make you out to be the bad guy, and is using her feelings for you to try and worm whatever one's you have for her out. Especially with the "if you ever loved me, then talk to me" things. That troubles me a bit as much as the fact you have been together, walked away, got back together, then walked away again. "Roller-coaster" relationship is the term I like to use for that.

Second, is the sound of her desperation shows to me that if you got back with her the RIGHT way, you would have complete control over this relationship. Hmm, its tough. I don't think I would go for it. She sounds like she is an emotional basketcase.

 

[learningguy]

to be truthfull i did it, cause i aint the only guy interested in her, so atleast this way, i have a chance of her wanting me, i think if i go back, shell get bored and try cheating on me, her thoughts change suddenly and shes very outgoing...tnx for the advice, i think im gonna move on...its too risky

 

[bluemanson]

Those emails sound so familiar lol. Its nt worth it bro

 

[jayhood]

let me get this straight. You like the girl but you refuse to get back to her because you are afraid she might reject you. So in your mind it is better for you if she gives you attention because at the end you will feel validated. However, you have feeling for this girl, so it is most likely that when she moved on you will terribly miss her. My advice to you is this: forget about her completely before she forget completely about you. In that case when she does decide to move on you will not miss her...understand?

 

[Kevin Feng]

She's just playing games with you, she's tossing you back and forth and seeing if you'll be reactive to it.

The goal is to be un-reactive. You should definitely read Double Your Dating by David D. He breaks this down quite effectively.

I hope you understand that every time she drives you insane, she wins. Easier said than done, but your goal is to stop caring in this situation, you're caring way too much and it's costing you emotionally. Don't buy into her BS, try and treat this like an experiment.

 

[learningguy]

ohh god, i just got home and got this, im normally the one begging for the woman, this is first time other way round, but now, ohhhh noo she wrote this, guys i need advice...damn, im thinking otherwise about this site look

Itz nearly 12 now and i told u dat i will end my lyf....itz a shame u couldnt fulfil ma las request more like last wish...how well perhaps u just want me to go forever...itz veri sad dat im leaving without tlkin 2 u..i wish u all da hapiness in lyf...tc bye........

 

[learningguy]

i just read your guys post, but i just got this email, she seems angry, i havnt replied, but what if something happens, im thinking of replying but i need advice quickly...damn.i never been in this situatiion

 

[Prodigy746]

WTF is this girl like 14?

I've seen better writing from a 5th grader...

Maybe it's just me but there is no chance I could take this girl seriously, seems like she possesses fewer brain cells than an ant...

i freaking agree.. .. i am still trying to figure out if she was trying to be getto or is just horrible at spelling.

ohh god, i just got home and got this, im normally the one begging for the woman, this is first time other way round, but now, ohhhh noo she wrote this, guys i need advice...damn, im thinking otherwise about this site look

Itz nearly 12 now and i told u dat i will end my lyf....itz a shame u couldnt fulfil ma las request more like last wish...how well perhaps u just want me to go forever...itz veri sad dat im leaving without tlkin 2 u..i wish u all da hapiness in lyf...tc bye........

I suggest you call the cops and report it to them. Definitely call the cops and report this...

 

[Jazzman19]

Agreed on the cops thing. If she is threatening suicide call them, and tell them what is going on. Pretty certain you can place anonymous tips. If she is just being a crazy attention seeking woman this will wake her ass up. But dude seriously, RUNNNNNN after you call the cops. She is trouble with a capital T!

 

[learningguy]

tnx mate...and everyone for the advice..i guess this can happen to anyone, when you meet someone in the club....but i guess sosoauve works, cause, for the first time, im not beging or degrading my heart to level of worthlesss, and normally the woman doesnt care about you, if the man begged..tnx guys appreciate it...very much...take care, good luck

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

Don't even call the police. It sounds like she's only saying that so you respond to her. What even happened with this girl? Your original post was ambiguous.

 

[learningguy]

guys guess what some update, lol, it is a roller coaster relationship, we got back together again yesterday, she said she wouldnt eat unless we did, i have to admit, i fell for her tricks and charms, i felt so sorry, damn me, and guess what we just split up, just 2 hours of getting back, it was great she was desperate etc..but then when i said..i love you, well as a test, she couldnt reply and said too shy..so without saying anything i went...this time definetley not comming back..hehe, i think it was fun, i feel happy anyhow

 

[jc.dunn]

1) Quit being a *****. You gotta man up, why are you afraid of getting hurt? The only way you can actually avoid getting "hurt" all your life is to not even try. If thats the case, give up and go play WOW all day. Remember this important cliche to live by:
"what doesn't kill you makes you stronger"

2) Go for it if you actually like her or want to hook up.

3) If it doesn't work out, WHO CARES? Forget about it. Maybe you'll find a girl that can string a sentence together. Breakups and rejection are great opportunities- you have another chance at finding Ms. Right, and having a lot of fun doing it!

4) It sounds like shes crazy. Good luck....