Depression & First Heartbreak

[Comic]

Long story short, I got way to attached to my female best friend. Fell in love, she rejected me multiple times. Lead me on once, rejected me again. Now we're not even friends. She helped me through a lot, I helped her. I was really AFC I'll admit, but never will I get this attached again. She's seeing some fag and I lose all will to live when I think of them together. I had a mild anxiety attack last night and I really wanted to just end it a few hours prior to that. She's the most beautiful girl I've ever seen and I blew it. She has the most incredible personality.

Basically I just want to know if anyone has gone through this. I hate living in a world without her and right now I don't see a point in living in a world without her.

 

[plainorangenow]

I had a mild anxiety attack last night and I really wanted to just end it a few hours prior to that. She's the most beautiful girl I've ever seen and I blew it. She has the most incredible personality.

You contradict yourself, You mention she has the most incredible personality and yet you say she lead you on and then dumped you twice over. What kind of honest and kind hearted person would do that?

I suggest you take a step back, look at the big picture, and find someone who actually has a good personality. You might be under the affect of the love potion at the moment so you just gotta snap out of it somehow.

wish you the best of luck.

 

[disgustipated]

Do not be sad about this. One day a woman will try this very thing with you but you will see through her ways.

How you may ask? Because of this experience and maybe a few more like this. Be thankful you went through this...embrace what sadness you are feeling and understand that it's natural part of healing. You will be stronger down the road because of experiences like this.

To answer your question, yes there are TONS of guys who have been through this.

 

[Perry]

This happened to me. I was dating this girl freshman year in high school, and I was convinced she was "the one." We were both madly in love with each other (or so I thought) and then one day she ended it. I. Was. DEVASTATED. I cried for days, dude. It was the most painful mental experience that I have ever had because we were super close with one another. Talked on the phone for hours a day everyday for months, told each other are deepest darkest secrets, the works.... The first week is very tough, but trust me when I say that it gets much easier to deal with. In a few years you will realize how silly you were for being this heartbroken over this girl.

Basically I just want to know if anyone has gone through this. I hate living in a world without her and right now I don't see a point in living in a world without her.

Whoa there. Feel free to PM me if you want more help.

 

[AtomicDog]

Boy am I glad I gave up on women 2 years ago.

 

[Borknagar]

Yeah man, in a couple weeks a month, you will see her for who she truely is, I got into this game cause a year and 3 months ago I went thorugh the same ****, first time in years I THOUGHT a women was truely genuine, but really, rarely is a women really that special, although she may seem that way, soon you'll think she is lower than **** cause she really is. I even called my ex a beautiful person AFTER she left me, and it went on that way even with her rejections for awhile, then she pissed me off for the last time. I then bedded a 18 year old 2 days later(im 32 hehe ) and met a friend into the PUA scene a week later I didn't even know it existed(despite that I registered here 10 years ago, I rarely posted, just by chance I remembered my username) and in the last year I slept with over 20 women. Not kidding. Hardly any women is truely special. You will learn this soon my friend.


sorry my typing sucks, kinda drunk ;0

 

[typical]

Long story short, I got way to attached to my female best friend. Fell in love, she rejected me multiple times. Lead me on once, rejected me again. Now we're not even friends. She helped me through a lot, I helped her. I was really AFC I'll admit, but never will I get this attached again. She's seeing some fag and I lose all will to live when I think of them together. I had a mild anxiety attack last night and I really wanted to just end it a few hours prior to that. She's the most beautiful girl I've ever seen and I blew it. She has the most incredible personality.

Basically I just want to know if anyone has gone through this. I hate living in a world without her and right now I don't see a point in living in a world without her.

I have brother I am a Former thai kickboxer and gymnast, was earning 80 grand a year tore my lower back lost my job, had to learn to walk again took 3 months, gained 20 kgs of fat, ex girlfriend dumped me a week after our four year Anniversary gets engaged a week after that to some family friend she had known for a few months (some fat fag), had a 10 grand hit put on my head with people I used to do "jobs" for a week later, had a sawn off shotgun pointed to my temple a day later, stood in front of a frieght train at midnight the following day didn't have the balls to go through with it (or maybe some fight to live was still left in me who knows), fell into mega financial and emotional stress, got severely depressed, still am fighting not to feel sh!t everyday.

Today I work minumum wage and work out 7 days a week trying to push myself to finish my finance degree dated around 20-30 women all who have not met my new standards and all have been ditched. End of this year I will step back in the ring, I will buy that condo, I will buy that lambo because I know I have the gift of making that type of money.

GUESS if I survived you will too !!!! chinup mate all is not lost, others have gone through worse crap then me and they have become my personal idols, use that pain to fuel the fire to become what you know deep down you can become. Its sitting there always yelling out at you when you slack off and become lazy. He yells out to you to unleash him

....... Unleash him brother, once unleashed nothing on this planet apart from death will stop him.

 

[Packers2010]

I'm going to send you a PM. we need to talk sir. as for this JUST happened to me. but for me. i came out the other side.

listen to typical it dose get better.

i mean. all i have done is gone out and got 2 girls numbers who have flaked. but i feel 100% then i did when i was with her. in the end you see it was all fake love.

 

[movistar]

Everyone goes through this at some point. It's tough, but a part of life, that's unavoidable. You will get stronger, you will stop thinking about her, it takes time and you getting out there to met new women. She is NOT the most beautiful woman out there, I can guarantee you that.

Start hitting the gym, think about making yourself better, so when the right chick comes along you will see yourself as the prize.

Just learn from what happened, and keep getting out there. We have all thought we had the most beautiful, hot, smart, funny, knows me, understands me, etc, etc, chick out there. It's your mind playing tricks on you, she is really none of those things you just got comfortable used to her and got to know her, you got addicted to her personality, if you had a few other chicks in the equation, you wouldn't think she was so perfect.

 

[In2theGame]

Long story short, I got way to attached to my female best friend. Fell in love, she rejected me multiple times. Lead me on once, rejected me again. Now we're not even friends. She helped me through a lot, I helped her. I was really AFC I'll admit, but never will I get this attached again. She's seeing some fag and I lose all will to live when I think of them together. I had a mild anxiety attack last night and I really wanted to just end it a few hours prior to that. She's the most beautiful girl I've ever seen and I blew it. She has the most incredible personality.

Basically I just want to know if anyone has gone through this. I hate living in a world without her and right now I don't see a point in living in a world without her.

I have gone through it and went through pain that you can only experience in a nightmare

 

[In2theGame]

I have brother I am a Former thai kickboxer and gymnast, was earning 80 grand a year tore my lower back lost my job, had to learn to walk again took 3 months, gained 20 kgs of fat, ex girlfriend dumped me a week after our four year Anniversary gets engaged a week after that to some family friend she had known for a few months (some fat fag), had a 10 grand hit put on my head with people I used to do "jobs" for a week later, had a sawn off shotgun pointed to my temple a day later, stood in front of a frieght train at midnight the following day didn't have the balls to go through with it (or maybe some fight to live was still left in me who knows), fell into mega financial and emotional stress, got severely depressed, still am fighting not to feel sh!t everyday.

Today I work minumum wage and work out 7 days a week trying to push myself to finish my finance degree dated around 20-30 women all who have not met my new standards and all have been ditched. End of this year I will step back in the ring, I will buy that condo, I will buy that lambo because I know I have the gift of making that type of money.

GUESS if I survived you will too !!!! chinup mate all is not lost, others have gone through worse crap then me and they have become my personal idols, use that pain to fuel the fire to become what you know deep down you can become. Its sitting there always yelling out at you when you slack off and become lazy. He yells out to you to unleash him

....... Unleash him brother, once unleashed nothing on this planet apart from death will stop him.

Are you my clone? lol, i went through similar **** bro,.. EVERYTHING crumbled all together. im slowly getting back up.

 

[Scars]

Her personality can't be that "incredible" if she has the gall to toy with your emotions like that. She has absolutely no respect for you whatsoever. Fvck her.

Take this as a learning experience. It's okay to feel the pain, in fact, if you need to, just let it all out. Write it down, call up a friend. Do whatever. Let it all out. Then you must accept that this girl is no good for you. Carry the scars with you the rest of your life, and make sure no girl ever fvcks with your emotions like that again.

-Scars

 

[Johnnyventana]

Dude. Relax. Your story reminds me of a friends of ours who killed himself years ago because of some chick. We were commenting yesterday that he, if he was still alive of course, wouldn't even hardly remember that chick at this point. She wouldn't mean a thing to him now. Don't be dumb.

 

[typical]

Are you my clone? lol, i went through similar **** bro,.. EVERYTHING crumbled all together. im slowly getting back up.

Haha yea most likely I am lol, but I've met around 10 other people over the last 18 months, guys and gals that have gone through similar if not worse situations.

The number one thing I've learned is majority of this planets people are very selfish and low quality and will stab you in the back at the drop of a hat in order to better themselves or get ahead too bad its taken me 10 years to learn this harsh lesson.

You always always always have to look after yourself no matter what happens because when the sh!t hits the fan and your seconds away from getting your brains blasted out only you can save yourself no one else. Same goes for everything else in life no one will ever "have your back". You have to do it on your own to better yourself and not count on anyone else lending a helping hand even if your the type of person that likes to help someone else when they are down on their luck.

 

[penkitten]

Basically I just want to know if anyone has gone through this. I hate living in a world without her and right now I don't see a point in living in a world without her.

yes, everyone has either gone through this or will go through this. most of us have gone through so many times.
and yet, we have all survived. and became stronger. and wiser. and better people for having gone through it.
so, although it is a sad moment for you.... please make a mental note that things will get better and time will heal the wounds.
it's a bittersweet thing... but the experience of it all will shape your character and help you to build the most solid foundation for yourself.

 

[thinkinblue613]

You're not alone. This has happened to us men many times before and will continue to do so.

Keep your head up and move on man. There are so many women out there, take this experience and grow from it. You can't decide who or what she wants to do with her life. If she wants to date some "fag" then that is her choice.

You should focus on yourself. The women who are compatible with you will flow into your life.

 

[TheJazz]

I'm pretty sure that most if not all of the guys on here had this happened to them. In fact, I know for certain that Pook and a lot of the other "Master Don Juans" had the exact same thing happen to them which led them to this site in the first place. Look at them now. That's you in a bit of time mate!

 

[duckbutt]

man.. i just made a thread like this less than a month ago. like a lot of people in this thread, i've been in and still am going through the same thing you are right now. its taking all my willpower not to be depressed everyday.

im slowly learning to pick myself back up. i've realized that the girl who i thought was the one really wasnt. that i was looking at only the positive things about her. i thought all the things she did to me was because she was angry, but now i realize thats just the person that she is. and if she can disrespect me like that, then i'm better off anyway.

i loved her with all my heart. i still do. you dont know what it feels like to know that the girl that you loved is at this very moment ****ing a guy who you thought was a friend. **** is brutal. i'm still trying to move on.

im sure the girl will realize what kind of guy she missed out on. i know for sure my ex will. the guy she is dating couldn't even begin to compare to me, she's only doing it for revenge. **** *****es. get money.

 

[Credos]

the drama... makes you wanna shed a tear...

You gotta get the juices pumping man, you're sounding like a woman... Get out there and have some fun, instead of fixating on one woman who doesn't even want you...

Start acting like a man instead of a woman, you'll start feeling less depressed the second you start with that

 

[Maxtro]

Heh, this is going to happen to me very shortly.

I'm crazy for a girl who has rejected me a couple of times but she still hangs out with me.

Every time we hang out I expect it to be our last. But she surprises me by letting me schedule more times.

I'm just waiting for her to do something unacceptable and then it will be over. Or I might push her too far and she'll end it.