Depressed, Insecure, Moody Totally.

[MrQG]

Hey Guys,

First off, I’d like to say that this is a great place, and I’ve learnt quite a lot from reading the posts in the Tips section. I was in two mind’s as to wether post this or to try and figure it out myself ….but I felt, I am need of serious change and I can’t wait any longer.

Let me get directly to the point,

Do you know some days you feel really low and worthless? Well, most of my days are like that and the only days I feel ‘normal’ are when I have accomplished something.

I’m a really insecure, emotional guy … people can see through this and screw with me. People, events affect metremendously … they keep changing my outlook of life …
I feel , as though I’m an alien kept in this world, I really can’t connect with the people around me … they are happy at others misery, its always about showing superiority and being rude. The rudeness factor is so common, that I’ve tried to stop keep contact with most of the people.

I have this habit of taking things too personally, and then thinking about it. However, some days when I have a bit of my “happy” self … I identify whats going wrong and tell myself **** with it … I do something else to take my mind off of it. However, when this happens to many times, I just give up being strong and emotionize in paranoia that the world is after me.

I’m pretty good looking, a bit overweight, dress nicely but … for me these things don’t bost y self esteem … offcourse I want to get an amazing body (going to the gym) … but more so , I want to be really intellectual and always top my tests / exams … there are times, when I study really really hard and them I make a few idiotic mistakes bringing my marks down … at those times, I loose it. I feel all that effort was for nothing.

I constantly need motivation, I hate it when people expect something of me … I feel guilty most of the time. In class, I can’t keep eye-contact with the teachers cause I’m guilty that I haven’t learned properly. I know this sounds really insecure.

In the mornings, I can never seem to get up … my mom has a lot of trouble finally getting me off bed. And this is daily, not just once a time. This also makes me feel inferior, as to how come others can get up instantly by an alarm … but I can never do the same.

I’ve jotted a few things that I would like to be … but once I start doing this … I always feel that the previous insecure self … avoiding issues was much easier. I love people who are to the point, at times I’ve told my brother a few of my insecurities …. And I love the way he replies … he’s like man “there’s no this or that … your just avoiding what you HAVE to do … just suck it up and DO IT! …. Everyone else does too … you need to stand up for yourself and prioritize your priorities”

It's really simply the way he says it, and I've seen him actually apply it to his life ... for him nothing matters, he does totally what he wants. However, I can't seem to do it.
Sitting on the couch, watching T.V. makes me feel I'm wasting time. However, when I'm studying I can't seem to concentrate at all ... my mind keeps on going off.


Below is a few thing’s I’ve wanted to be :

• Self-Motivated
• Don’t care to please people
• Not afraid to fight
• Not concerned about people, and worry about consequences
• Have a good physique
• Stick with my decisions
• Not to feel guily always !! Just do what I want to!
• Not get affected by people
• Never give my full attention to anyone
• Stick to my decision
• Don’t be too “goody”, my respect comes first and then anyone else
• Not Moody, always Happy
• Have something to do always and not seem needy when surrounded by people who don’t talk to me.


The thing is , how do I do all this? … I just get up one day and tell myself … the old guy is dead, and from now on … I’m gonna live my life on my terms?
In a nutshell … I want to be a really secure, no **** and to the point person … who doesn’t let external factors affect my … primarily my studies.





Sorry for the long post ...

 

[True Wolf]

No one becomes DJ overnight. Most of us have been who you are. I know i have. Take a look at your list, pick out one of the things you wish to be, and plan out how you will become it. Then follow through with your plan. And when you feel you've accomplished this to put it on hold for a little while, choose another thing and repeat. Each time you accomplish one of these it will be easier to accomplish the next.

And when you study, don't just learn the material, practice it! If you run through and do a few example problems it will help you smooth out the lame mistakes that we all deal with. Practice makes perfect. The only way i can learn math, is if i do around 3 of the same types of problems, maticulously, step be step in a row. Then i check answers, and if i have em all right, i know i know it. Try it. Oh, and flashcards are worth every minute of making them.
As for sitting on your ass watching the tube all day and not studying that is another matter. In fact, look up THE HOTTEST girl you can find and print out a picture of her (wallet sized) and put her in your wallet where it can be easily withdrawn. Now, when ever you feeling lazy, whip out that picture and ask yourself: "is what i'm doing getting me closer to getting her?" if the answer is No, then do something else that would be a Yes.

 

[oakraiderz2]

Ive been there before and i understand exactly what youre going through. The most important thing is NOT to give up. Perseverence is the key to being successful. The minute you think its all over the tides will turn. Get some hobbies. Find stuff to do to fill your time. By finding new things you can have a variety of activities to do. I find even when i dont wanna do something i find that if i do it anyway i start to enjoy it. More hobbies will help you get up in the morning because you can have something to look forward to. If you cant concentrate and always get distracted trying writing to get out all of your thoughts. Its all going to take time, for rome wasnt built in a day. As long as you keep a positive mindset, as difficult as it seems, youll be one step closer to your ideal self. Youve written down the traits you wish to bestow upon yourself; the next step is to figure out what you have to do in order to change.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=50320

Read that. When you finish go to the bottom of the last page and go to all the links. PM me or something, even hit me up on aim...globaldistorti0n. Good luck bro.

 

[MrQG]

Thanks for the replies guys

True Wolf,

As for sitting on your ass watching the tube all day and not studying that is another matter. In fact, look up THE HOTTEST girl you can find and print out a picture of her (wallet sized) and put her in your wallet where it can be easily withdrawn. Now, when ever you feeling lazy, whip out that picture and ask yourself: "is what i'm doing getting me closer to getting her?" if the answer is No, then do something else that would be a Yes.

Man, I’m doing this right now!

OakRadider ,

Thanks for that post. I surely will check out those links.
I don’t use AIM man … thanks for the offer though.

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I’m going to have my summer break in a week or so and I plan to change some stuff in my life.

Firstly, try to change mentaly
Secondly, maybe … some beard stubble
Thirdly, I’m going to start wearing contacts
Fourthly , work hard hard on my body
Fifthly, I dress quite formally … I’m going to “youngerize” my choice

I basically want to make these changes for subconsciously making my mind understand that I want to be a better guy and moreso different guy.

 

[shadowfox]

Good luck mate. I have been exactly where you are right now and i know what its like. :cheer: