I think I know what you are trying to ask.
I believe part of that is how the woman is and how they make you feel. If they comply and gives you a lot of respect in the beginning, they make you feel comfortable and make you let down your guard in a way. This can bring out beta type vibes. This is not a bad thing necessarily and can indicate that you guys just may have a more compatible and/or stronger bond.
As long as you don't pedestalize her, remain steadfast in your purpose, standards, discipline, leadership and be willing to challenge her or call her out on anything that doesn't sit well with you(after having viewed through an objective lense), you shouldn't worry about those things.
Being a good man is a combo of alpha/beta.