OK, first don't approach girls from behind. Approach them from the side or walking past them so you don't seem desperate. Approach them within 3 seconds of being near them.
Try to stand at least 2 feet away from the person you're talking to.
In the following diagrams, G is for girl and Y is for you and the arrows are the directions the people are facing.
DON'T approach or sit down like this.
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B
When completely facing someone, you are conveying lower value of yourself and you come off as annoying. Imagine the situation. Little kids turn their bodies completely torwards you when talking. I used to make this mistake a lot.
Instead, approach or sit like this, with your head, not body, torwards the person.
G
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B---->
When speaking, speak slowly. Speaking too fast conveys lower value by making it seem as if you have to say what you are going to say and you can't hold their attention long enough to say it so you have to sputter it out like a machine gun. I also used to make that mistake.
When walking, stand completely erect and hold your shoulders up; don't let them slant at all. Do the same thing when standing. Also try and move your arms back and forth a little while walking. That shows alphaness.
When sitting, try to take up as much space as possible. This too conveys alphaness.
Though these behaviors really mean nothing and could be just habit, they are uncouncous cues people judge you by. So, you should adjust accordingly.
Personally, I saw results from these small changes immediately in that people took me more seriously, asked me for more advice and thought of me as a higher valued person ie cooler. You'll notice that Hollywood type personalities display these behaviors also.
Last but not least, these DHV techniques can be used in many social situations, not just sarging and as I said I have been using them effectively. It's like an anti-nerd defense buster. ADB.
Try to stand at least 2 feet away from the person you're talking to.
In the following diagrams, G is for girl and Y is for you and the arrows are the directions the people are facing.
DON'T approach or sit down like this.
G
|
|
|
V
^
|
|
|
B
When completely facing someone, you are conveying lower value of yourself and you come off as annoying. Imagine the situation. Little kids turn their bodies completely torwards you when talking. I used to make this mistake a lot.
Instead, approach or sit like this, with your head, not body, torwards the person.
G
|
|
V
B---->
When speaking, speak slowly. Speaking too fast conveys lower value by making it seem as if you have to say what you are going to say and you can't hold their attention long enough to say it so you have to sputter it out like a machine gun. I also used to make that mistake.
When walking, stand completely erect and hold your shoulders up; don't let them slant at all. Do the same thing when standing. Also try and move your arms back and forth a little while walking. That shows alphaness.
When sitting, try to take up as much space as possible. This too conveys alphaness.
Though these behaviors really mean nothing and could be just habit, they are uncouncous cues people judge you by. So, you should adjust accordingly.
Personally, I saw results from these small changes immediately in that people took me more seriously, asked me for more advice and thought of me as a higher valued person ie cooler. You'll notice that Hollywood type personalities display these behaviors also.
Last but not least, these DHV techniques can be used in many social situations, not just sarging and as I said I have been using them effectively. It's like an anti-nerd defense buster. ADB.
