Deleted her number - did I do right thing?

[sazc]

@Darrenez for what it's worth, when someone mentions that they have a busy day/week etc ahead, Take it as a hint that they don't need text distractions. In doing this you communicate that you respect her time and space. Let it go until she reaches out. If she questions where you went, you just tell her "you said you were swamped, I wanted to make sure you had space"

Its all good.

 

[devilkingx2]

Hi guys,

So after chatting for a day or 2 last week, I met up with this woman from tinder last Friday. We went out for dinner and before the food came out, we were all over each other. It was one of the best date, I've been on and she felt the same...Since then we have texting all day everyday whilst discussing plans for meeting up tomorrow with her saying she would pay for dinner this time.

Yesterday I sent her a message in the morning, kind of flirty and fun, nothing heavy. She got back to me a few hours later, which she explained she was busy at work and told me her plans for the day...She didn't leave a X which she usually does so that kind of set red flags off.


I replied to her message, joking and flirty like always and I didn't get a reply, along with a question. A few hours later I sent her a picture in my suit as I was at work. Again no reply.. I didn't send her a question or anything that warranted a reply...however I was expecting one

Last night I deleted her number to prevent me coming across as needy and weak incase I sent her a text this morning to see what happened yesterday. However I think maybe I shouldn't have deleted it. In my heart of hearts I know I done the right thing but cannot understand how it went wrong..I didn't bombard her with texts,most of them statements not questions yet flirty,kept a decent amount of time between them...women!...so confused right now..advise me guys..Did I do the right thing?

times when it's okay to do something:
-whenever the **** you want

reasons when it's okay to regret doing something:
-when your actions have tangible consequences and you have evidence which suggests that they could've been avoided.

so, essentially, if you don't want to talk to her anymore or if she refuses to talk to you anymore or whatever, then you've done the right thing, don't beat yourself up about whether or not you messed up, you only messed up if you have some undeniable proof that she would've sucked your **** if only you had texted her one more time

as for your texting game, your only mistake I can see was texting again when she didn't respond, when someone doesn't respond you don't text them again for a while until you either have an actual reason to talk to them again (and entirely new conversation started a few days later) or until they respond no matter how long it takes.

when someone doesn't respond, they either didn't see your message yet, didn't get to respond yet, or are ignoring you. none of those things are solved by double texting.

don't listen to these people telling you that deleting her number wasn't a good idea, why do you want the number of someone who doesn't want to talk to you anymore? why should you keep a number you don't plan to use on the off chance she responds?

I've deleted the numbers of numerous girls who ignored my texts, sometimes I think back and wish I could still talk to them, I then stop myself when I realize that even if I still had their number they'd continue to ignore me and it wouldn't be any different lmao

 

[Darrenez]

Hi..

Yes it is real.. the girl is 31 years old ,I'm 35. I guess I thought by messaging her , it showed her I was interested rather than barely texting her and then she moves onto someone who shows her more attention. Well that was my thinking.. Obviously I was wrong

 

[dude99]

Hi..

Yes it is real.. the girl is 31 years old ,I'm 35. I guess I thought by messaging her , it showed her I was interested rather than barely texting her and then she moves onto someone who shows her more attention. Well that was my thinking.. Obviously I was wrong

Use texting to set dates. Nothing else. Every thing else you are busy.

 

[Darrenez]

Use texting to set dates. Nothing else. Every thing else you are busy.

Thank you..Something else to remember...I guess this goes for also when you are in the relationship with the woman too?

 

[marmel75]

Desperate dudes do desperate things.

Women INTENTIONALLY will do stuff like this early on to get a sense of your desperation level, which seems to be high in you. If you display desperate tendencies, you are out...it's a huge turnoff.

This is kind of like a drug addict locking themselves in a room to prevent them from doing drugs...can't stay locked up forever and as soon as you go back out...bam, the desperation will return.

People have lives, maybe you should find something else to do rather than obsess over if a chick texts you back within "x number of minutes"...That's beyond lame, but I guess that's how the young generation acts these days...

No wonder why so many can't get laid.

 

[marmel75]

Use texting to set dates. Nothing else. Every thing else you are busy.

I'm going to disagree with this...texting the RIGHT things in the RIGHT way on a regular basis can help you a lot. It's great to leave a women wondering a little bit but sometimes we put thoughts in their minds we don't intend to...IE, we aren't interested in them, and they go find someone else who is.

And once again, I'm sure i will get into a debate with many because apparently if you aren't "only texting for dates" you HAVE TO BE texting 24/7, which is laughable.

"Only texting for dates" = I am unsure of my texting ability so I use this as a crutch to not hurt my chances.

People who know how to text don't worry about this because experience tells them it helps their chances far more than hurts them when done properly.

 

[dude99]

I'm going to disagree with this...texting the RIGHT things in the RIGHT way on a regular basis can help you a lot. It's great to leave a women wondering a little bit but sometimes we put thoughts in their minds we don't intend to...IE, we aren't interested in them, and they go find someone else who is.

And once again, I'm sure i will get into a debate with many because apparently if you aren't "only texting for dates" you HAVE TO BE texting 24/7, which is laughable.

"Only texting for dates" = I am unsure of my texting ability so I use this as a crutch to not hurt my chances.

People who know how to text don't worry about this because experience tells them it helps their chances far more than hurts them when done properly.

I can see your point. But a lot of dudes don't know where to draw the line and they begin to get annoying to the girl.

Like you said texting the right way. I don't mean to flat out ignore a girls texts. Set the date and don't be a thirsty bastaaard about it and drive her interest down. Like you said. Do it the right way. Be a mystery. Be aloof. Don't be too available.

 

[marmel75]

I can see your point. But a lot of dudes don't know where to draw the line and they begin to get annoying to the girl.

Like you said texting the right way. I don't mean to flat out ignore a girls texts. Set the date and don't be a thirsty bastaaard about it and drive her interest down. Like you said. Do it the right way. Be a mystery. Be aloof. Don't be too available.

I agree that more guys will hurt themselves texting than help themselves, but to oversimplify the context and say "only text to set up dates" makes it sound like that should be the "Master" method. In fact, this is the step above AFC method that prevents you from screwing things up and the sooner guys realize how to talk to and interact with women properly the better off they will be---and that includes texting more often

 

[Darrenez]

I agree that more guys will hurt themselves texting than help themselves, but to oversimplify the context and say "only text to set up dates" makes it sound like that should be the "Master" method. In fact, this is the step above AFC method that prevents you from screwing things up and the sooner guys realize how to talk to and interact with women properly the better off they will be---and that includes texting more often

Thank you for your advice.. Okay so tomorrow I'm seeing 2 women for a date. One in the morning and one potentially in the evening. The one in the evening is the one I want to see however she said to me she will confirm tomorrow whether she can make it or not .. So my question to you is do I send the message tomorrow asking what the plan is or do I just wait to hear from her?


I think maybe the reason I made a few mistakes with the woman this thread is talking about it because I wasn't messaging anyone else at the time. For example last month I saw 16 different women and if one blew me out it wouldn't bother me at all I recently things have been a bit quieter. So I guess that is why maybe I was texting her quite a lot.

 

[NickAdams713]

READ THIS AGAIN!

A woman is either interested or not. The gray area is you chasing her or just being friendzoned.

In my experience it's not that binary. There are many instances where it's a "maybe" and if your game is tight maybe becomes a yes. Gotta play ya cards right. amirite?

 

[devilkingx2]

In my experience it's not that binary. There are many instances where it's a "maybe" and if your game is tight maybe becomes a yes. Gotta play ya cards right. amirite?

most advice isn't for people with a mastery of game, and 99% the time, advice isn't absolute

for a normal person, you're either going to have the girl be interested or not interested, with little gray area. if you've got some crazy advanced high level game, you could probably change her mind and get her to be interested when she wasn't at first