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[Dabrant29]

K so recently i have been hanging out with a lot of friends that i have that are girls that have boyfriends. The thing i can't seem to figure out is a lot of girls want to hang out with me n we usually always have a great time. There usually is a lot of like weird seductive looks or signs that i think are happening except i am definitely like a Guy with morals so i obviously can't act on something if there with someone. Do women really get bored and want to keep guys there semi interested on like a safety leash? Then when sometimes i don't like abide by them or come running to help them when some of them need help they seem to think i am being a **** when in reality i thought all i was doing was respecting the space of like not going after some guys girl? This resulted in a few girls calling me passive aggressive in the past month and i am sort of confused because i have no idea what being passive aggressive is or means. I mean i am choosing not to respond and i am sort of having a lot of distance come in between these friendships now because quite frankly i think if women there to afraid to say whats really on there mind or want to get to know me better they wouldn't let some guy get in the way. Right?

 

[Answers]

You could be sending them mixed signals. Its probably a good thing that they're getting annoyed with you because at least you're not in the friend zone.

 

[bob88]

I mean i am choosing not to respond and i am sort of having a lot of distance come in between these friendships now because quite frankly i think if women there to afraid to say whats really on there mind or want to get to know me better they wouldn't let some guy get in the way. Right?

Sounds like they're trying to confirm if you really are better than the guy they're currently with before they get rid of him.
Most girls dont like to stay alone, so lots of them have chump boyfriends in the meantime while they wait for the better guy to come along.

 

[Dabrant29]

The Real Question thos is How is that being conveyed or portrayed as Passive Aggressive?

 

[Grand Wizzard Alamar]

They're calling you passive agressive just to get what they want from you.
Keep respecting their space by not being their b!tch.
You're doing perfectly, just take their complaints to you as immaturity, because thats what it basically is.

If they want something from you, you're gonna make them work for it!

 

[Dabrant29]

Thanks Wizzard That means a lot to hear that im only 21 but i had no idea even what that meant. So basically they're just upset cause there not getting there way?

 

[Grand Wizzard Alamar]

Yeah, you were doing the morally right thing. But screw that.
You do what YOU want to do.
If they expect you to serve them whenever they need help, they are very immature.

Part of becoming a man is to gain a sense of independence where you have the choice of not helping girls at all because they don't deserve your help.
Being a "helpful friend" who always follows a girl around and does everything for her is someone who is put in the friendzone, because she sees him as less of a man than another man who has the ability to control her and make her happy at the same time.

Being in the friendzone will only gain you affection, like hugs, maybe kisses and a girls time hanging out with you.
If you are like this, then you are the equivalent of a cute little puppy dog.

haha it's true.

 

[Dabrant29]

But what do girls mean when they mean passive aggressive is that trying to convey or show your angry in a round a bout manner rather then direct confrontation?

 

[EFFORT]

But what do girls mean when they mean passive aggressive is that trying to convey or show your angry in a round a bout manner rather then direct confrontation?

another thing thats important is not reading into what a woman says. You'll drive yourself crazy doing this, watch there actions instead. Most of what there going to say has no logical base and even if it did, as a man you don't have the time or mental engery to expend on it.