Declining Their Advances When Not Interested

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Between running errands, the gym, co-workers and their relatives, etc., I have been getting hit on by a lot of women that I am not interested in. Some combination of their looks and situation has me close any and all doors - slammmmmmmmmmm.

Today was ridiculous as I had one making the most obvious lay up comments towards me from the second I saw her. I hadn't seen her in weeks. If I had interest, I would have countered 'ha - blah, blah, blah, no it's not like that. Wednesday night we're doing x and you'll see' or whatever. But I just carried on and took off 'Enjoy the rest of your weekend!' lol.

And another situation where I am at a bar thinking 'ok, you're kinda cute, you've already shown me cards in a major way, but I see your sister everyday at the office and I don't want to deal with that' type thing. If I was gonna go for it, I wouldn't have sat there as I did.

Thanks to this joint and working on my skills, I see all sorts of opportunities more clearly and am dialed in as they throw out their advances. I have been actively shutting sh1t down to those I am not interested in. Much more attractive girls to me are either not advancing in the same way, not advancing as much, doing it more subtley, or I don't act with top game with them as well as I should because I am blinded.

I am very aggressive now and will move fast with an 'I don't give a fvck attitude', but in these situations I proceed like I am oblivious or not even try out of this lack of interest. I probably come off like a completely clueless AFC as they figure I am just not catching on to their game. I want to get through these situations and walk away with more street cred not less.

The worst is that most times when this is happening, I flash back to women that I was super amp'd on and things just didn't work out and I just think 'DAMN IT - why couldn't it played out more like this with her'. Come to think of it, maybe I telegraph this in my response and expression from time to time - a major chip on my shoulder. 'Yeah, I get it, but I've had/gone for much more striking than you and I don't give a fvck'.

So my question is... you guys doing this???? Maybe I should be stepping up to the plate and gaming around - max out with a bunch of plates I'm really not too stoked with. It would probably better position me for when I run into the next alluring goddess in my life. Thanks.
 

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... because I'm about to go GTLH (Gym, Tanning, Laundry, Haircut, etc. BS) so here we go again.
 
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There was a girl in one of my classes who was pretty hot and liked me. I ran into her one day at the library, flirted a bit and she really wanted to come back to my apartment with me. Then I found out that she had 2 kids and a fiancee who was currently in a coma.

My excuse? I looked at the clock and said I had to get going. Didn't even say bye...
 
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