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Decided to go on a diet to help with my libido and sexual anxiety

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So I decided to lower my calories drastically. I was already working out and stuff and I thought I was doing okay diet wise, but the truth is I would do really well throughout the day, and by nighttime I would pig out. I also had been doing bad at avoiding sweets and stuff.

But now, I am going to stick to around 1000-1200 calories max a day, and do cardio maybe twice a day and weight training 4 times a week. The thing I nkow about myself is I both lose and gain fat pretty fast.. so if i keep consistent wtih my regiment, I will 100% burn all this fat really quickly

I'm not super fat or anything i just have as light gut and a bit of love handles, as well as some slight chest fat. I know that lowering this fat can drastiaclly improve your testosterone to estrogen ratio as well as lower prolactin levels , thus increasing your libido naturally. and Not only that, probably gain an inch or so on my penis.

I'm not just going for fat loss though. I will also be implementing a diet that helps clear out the arteries and blood vessels for maximum pipework as well as really focusing on my cardiovascular health.

Right now my erections can get rock hard in some instances, but mostly are soft. I know its being pretty sedentary while eating tons of junk which led me to this, besides porn and masturbation of course, which i did alot of. I used to watch porn with like 15-20 porn tabs open, switching from one to another.

I feel good about the future. I believe it will take me less than 3 months to get to where i need to be :)

p.s. i also feel like this is majorly going to help my body confidence and self image.. which i kinda struggled with since i am very self conscious
on the eating change you'll do the best work if a professional is consulted.
In my country, a regular physician sets up the initial appointment with someone called a 'Registered Dietitian'

They get extensive nutrition training and are an expert at learning who you are to come up with a plan to help.

My dietition is a genius and knew what tasks and goals to set to me to get me jumpstarted. I have met and surpassed more than half of the tasks and kept them going.

Its amazing to have a medical expert backing up your eating lifestyle and reinforcing your decisions.

'Registered Dietitian' is the title of this specialist.
 

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So I decided to lower my calories drastically. I was already working out and stuff and I thought I was doing okay diet wise, but the truth is I would do really well throughout the day, and by nighttime I would pig out. I also had been doing bad at avoiding sweets and stuff.

But now, I am going to stick to around 1000-1200 calories max a day, and do cardio maybe twice a day and weight training 4 times a week. The thing I nkow about myself is I both lose and gain fat pretty fast.. so if i keep consistent wtih my regiment, I will 100% burn all this fat really quickly

I'm not super fat or anything i just have as light gut and a bit of love handles, as well as some slight chest fat. I know that lowering this fat can drastiaclly improve your testosterone to estrogen ratio as well as lower prolactin levels , thus increasing your libido naturally. and Not only that, probably gain an inch or so on my penis.

I'm not just going for fat loss though. I will also be implementing a diet that helps clear out the arteries and blood vessels for maximum pipework as well as really focusing on my cardiovascular health.

Right now my erections can get rock hard in some instances, but mostly are soft. I know its being pretty sedentary while eating tons of junk which led me to this, besides porn and masturbation of course, which i did alot of. I used to watch porn with like 15-20 porn tabs open, switching from one to another.

I feel good about the future. I believe it will take me less than 3 months to get to where i need to be :)

p.s. i also feel like this is majorly going to help my body confidence and self image.. which i kinda struggled with since i am very self conscious
Hey bro, what % of body fat would you calculate you are at now?

Excess body fat converts testosterone in the body to estrogen. So the more body fat you have the more of this conversion which is taking place daily.

With this mindset you are starting to adopt, any chest fat in the pectoral area ( man boobs ), or excess waist fat is "too much". You should see a light outline of abs without flexing. I'm not saying you should have body builder abs, but there should be less than an inch to pinch on your waist and less than 1/4" to pinch on your pectorals if you want to minimize this estrogen conversion.

Body fat also stores toxins. This is a fact which is not really mentioned for another reason to keep body fat down, those toxins affect your mood.

Since this is a website concerned about males, I can mention another very rarely mentioned fact. Around your c0ck if you have more than an 1" on your waist is a mound of body fat which steals erect length. So the leaner you get, the more of your c0ck you and females can see. On the average man, he's easily losing 1" or more of visible c0ck size because of being a "normal" body fat level..

High performance athletes. Olympic level sprinters for example, have a body fat of approximately 5%. On 5%, you'll see all the abs and muscles in the glutes, as well as throughout the rest of your body. Body fat in their game is not a trivial matter, because each 1% increase or decrease in body-fat percentage results in a 2% increase or decrease in athletic performance. Body fat is dead weight that's carried.

So if you are 9% body fat, stripping down to 5% body fat would yield 8% increase in sprint speed.

You CAN go days without eating, if you have an excessive body fat. Extremely obese people are often put on water-fasting to reduce excess body fat. In the absence of food, the body will consume it's stored calories which is excess body fat.

The reason for excess body fat today, is that people are less active than in the 50's. Many people work jobs that you sit in a chair and relatively not a lot of movement, but they consume enough carbs and fuel for a very active person or someone much larger than themselves, the body over time stores this as body fat.

It is best to work with a dietitian and make your doctor aware of your weight loss goals, but keep in mind that for MANY years, bodybuilders and fitness people were well ahead of the doctors when it comes to REAL WORLD knowledge and results.

Your initial thoughts in my opinion are reasonable. And in my experience, any short term "metabolism" change for the worst case can be improved through recovery and rest. Plus what does not get discussed is physical activity raises the metabolism regardless.

The USDA was throwing around a 3000/day calorie number for males for years, which is grossly wrong for a majority of men. It's 1000 too high, and would make you fat. Most men need closer to 2000 calories. 3000 calories would make sense if you are working in a warehouse and loading boxes for 8+ hrs, then you do need the fuel. In a sit down job that same calorie level will gain you 2 lbs per week of straight fat!!!
 
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The porn and mbate have to be eliminated. Reducing body fat is good as well.

Clean diet, regular exercise, no porn, and no mbate is the lifestyle needed.
 

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Hey bro, what % of body fat would you calculate you are at now?

Excess body fat converts testosterone in the body to estrogen. So the more body fat you have the more of this conversion which is taking place daily.

With this mindset you are starting to adopt, any chest fat in the pectoral area ( man boobs ), or excess waist fat is "too much". You should see a light outline of abs without flexing. I'm not saying you should have body builder abs, but there should be less than an inch to pinch on your waist and less than 1/4" to pinch on your pectorals if you want to minimize this estrogen conversion.

Body fat also stores toxins. This is a fact which is not really mentioned for another reason to keep body fat down, those toxins affect your mood.

Since this is a website concerned about males, I can mention another very rarely mentioned fact. Around your c0ck if you have more than an 1" on your waist is a mound of body fat which steals erect length. So the leaner you get, the more of your c0ck you and females can see. On the average man, he's easily losing 1" or more of visible c0ck size because of being a "normal" body fat level..

High performance athletes. Olympic level sprinters for example, have a body fat of approximately 5%. On 5%, you'll see all the abs and muscles in the glutes, as well as throughout the rest of your body. Body fat in their game is not a trivial matter, because each 1% increase or decrease in body-fat percentage results in a 2% increase or decrease in athletic performance. Body fat is dead weight that's carried.

So if you are 9% body fat, stripping down to 5% body fat would yield 8% increase in sprint speed.

You CAN go days without eating, if you have an excessive body fat. Extremely obese people are often put on water-fasting to reduce excess body fat. In the absence of food, the body will consume it's stored calories which is excess body fat.

The reason for excess body fat today, is that people are less active than in the 50's. Many people work jobs that you sit in a chair and relatively not a lot of movement, but they consume enough carbs and fuel for a very active person or someone much larger than themselves, the body over time stores this as body fat.

It is best to work with a dietitian and make your doctor aware of your weight loss goals, but keep in mind that for MANY years, bodybuilders and fitness people were well ahead of the doctors when it comes to REAL WORLD knowledge and results.

Your initial thoughts in my opinion are reasonable. And in my experience, any short term "metabolism" change for the worst case can be improved through recovery and rest. Plus what does not get discussed is physical activity raises the metabolism regardless.

The USDA was throwing around a 3000/day calorie number for males for years, which is grossly wrong for a majority of men. It's 1000 too high, and would make you fat. Most men need closer to 2000 calories. 3000 calories would make sense if you are working in a warehouse and loading boxes for 8+ hrs, then you do need the fuel. In a sit down job that same calorie level will gain you 2 lbs per week of straight fat!!!
Great breakdown. I have 2 questions though:

1.) What percent of bodyfat does a man need to get to to see a flat stomach? Is it 15%?

2.) What percent do I need to get to to see those abs without flexing? Is it possible? I don't wanna walk around the beach flexed 24/7 if at all possible.
 

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Great breakdown. I have 2 questions though:

1.) What percent of bodyfat does a man need to get to to see a flat stomach? Is it 15%?

2.) What percent do I need to get to to see those abs without flexing? Is it possible? I don't wanna walk around the beach flexed 24/7 if at all possible.
I'd say 10% is the goal. On myself I don't use a scale. I look in the mirror. If I don't see abs then I'm fat
 

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I'd say 10% is the goal. On myself I don't use a scale. I look in the mirror. If I don't see abs then I'm fat
I agree. I aim for like 9-10%. So when you're in the mirror completely relaxed, everything hanging out, do you still see your abs or at least an outline?
 

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Once again, thank you for all the great suggestions. Don't worry, I'm not going lower than 1600 calories a day. I think that should be enough, despite my dietician coming to about 1300 a day for me, in order to lose the amount of fat i want to by December. So far its been 2 days in and I feel awesome.. was super hungry last night and almost caved to eat something but, just stuck through and got past it.

Discipline is key!
 

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So I decided to lower my calories drastically. I was already working out and stuff and I thought I was doing okay diet wise, but the truth is I would do really well throughout the day, and by nighttime I would pig out. I also had been doing bad at avoiding sweets and stuff.

But now, I am going to stick to around 1000-1200 calories max a day, and do cardio maybe twice a day and weight training 4 times a week. The thing I nkow about myself is I both lose and gain fat pretty fast.. so if i keep consistent wtih my regiment, I will 100% burn all this fat really quickly

I'm not super fat or anything i just have as light gut and a bit of love handles, as well as some slight chest fat. I know that lowering this fat can drastiaclly improve your testosterone to estrogen ratio as well as lower prolactin levels , thus increasing your libido naturally. and Not only that, probably gain an inch or so on my penis.

I'm not just going for fat loss though. I will also be implementing a diet that helps clear out the arteries and blood vessels for maximum pipework as well as really focusing on my cardiovascular health.

Right now my erections can get rock hard in some instances, but mostly are soft. I know its being pretty sedentary while eating tons of junk which led me to this, besides porn and masturbation of course, which i did alot of. I used to watch porn with like 15-20 porn tabs open, switching from one to another.

I feel good about the future. I believe it will take me less than 3 months to get to where i need to be :)

p.s. i also feel like this is majorly going to help my body confidence and self image.. which i kinda struggled with since i am very self conscious
Good stuff mate.

I began a intermittent fasting regime pre covid aka corona chan. The results were excellent. I feel healthy and I have been looking more aesthetic than ever. I have more muscle mass than I have ever and I have a chiseled six pack abs. Not been this lean since my early twenties. The ratio is 16:8. I have done periodic fasts nearly a full day. I have seen some great results. Thread is in the forum sub outside game and dating. I highly recommend it.

It takes will power. I have added in wim hoff breathing techniques, meditation, reading on tantra by Osho, and path to God by Ram Dass. I have aimed to get better sleep and relaxation. Adequate time recovering post workout. I have lean meats like turkey and chicken. I have fish too. Lots of leafy greens. The gyms were closed so, i switched off to calisthenics. Lots of Body weight exercises, kettlebell, gymnastics, rings, and holds.

If you want more bang for your buck, get sleep game on point. Better cognitive function, circulation, health, and lifestyle. Cheers.
 

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If your maintenance diet involves 2500 calories and you cut 500 thats ok but if you are a skinny fat sedentary man whos maintenance diet is 1500 and you cut 500 then you will deprive your body of precious nutrients especially proteins since its the less "tasty" thing to eat.

The result will be that you will be equally fat but lose part of that few lean mass you have.

How about you decrease your total intake by only 200 calories and add some light jogging daily? or better yet learn about diet principles before going kamikaze on a diet?
Jogging will only help put his body in a catabolic state and help him lose muscle mass further. If he is wanting to keep muscle on a restricted calorie diet like that his best bet is to introduce heavy weight training that forces his body to think it needs the muscle.
 

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Jogging will only help put his body in a catabolic state and help him lose muscle mass further. If he is wanting to keep muscle on a restricted calorie diet like that his best bet is to introduce heavy weight training that forces his body to think it needs the muscle.
Possibly but, if he is complaining about ED or low testosterone, libifo, sex drive etc circulation would be key. Not necessarily marathons but. MLD commented on hyper boners following adding in lots more cardio. Dude is lazy lololol and called fat by the RZ gang and haters.

Op could try horny goat weed. I cut porn. There's definitely little hacks. Time is coming for us all. Future proof oneself as best we can. I swear by fasting and even fasted cardio. Adequate 8hr deep REM sleep. NOTICE a world of difference from cognitive function, productivity, better game (sharper linguistically, faster, million dollar mouth piece, and spot IOIs, choosing signals). In short, no one thing but a variety of action taking is key and it has compounding effects.
 

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Possibly but, if he is complaining about ED or low testosterone, libifo, sex drive etc circulation would be key. Not necessarily marathons but. MLD commented on hyper boners following adding in lots more cardio. Dude is lazy lololol and called fat by the RZ gang and haters.

Op could try horny goat weed. I cut porn. There's definitely little hacks. Time is coming for us all. Future proof oneself as best we can. I swear by fasting and even fasted cardio. Adequate 8hr deep REM sleep. NOTICE a world of difference from cognitive function, productivity, better game (sharper linguistically, faster, million dollar mouth piece, and spot IOIs, choosing signals). In short, no one thing but a variety of action taking is key and it has compounding effects.
Actually testosterone levels are not highly linked to ED. Estrogen dominance is. In fact, the ratio of progesterone to estrogen is much more of a factor in ED if it is hormonal than low Test is.

If you have ED look to progesterone supplementation to restore proper balance between these 3 hormones not T levels.
 
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Jogging will only help put his body in a catabolic state and help him lose muscle mass further. If he is wanting to keep muscle on a restricted calorie diet like that his best bet is to introduce heavy weight training that forces his body to think it needs the muscle.
What you say makes sense for a guy that does sport not for a sedendarty.

A sedentary that matches the right proportion of macros and go on a light caloric deficit mostly loses bodydat...jogging itself would actually give him a muscular stimulus compared to his everyday nothing (altought small) while helping him to be at deficit.

What you say its true for guys that stop lifting and cut their calories while running, in that case agree but surely not for a guy that does nothing.
 

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I can only tell you what I've done to loose 8kg in the last 2 months.
Did more cardio(basketball and running). Doesn't matter what you do, as long as you don't find it boring, so you can stick with it.
And I also ate healthier, meaning drinking lots of water and something alcoholic socially from time to time, no juices tho. Less carbs, more proteins, lots of soups I made myself. Didn't bother counting calories, for me it's counter productive.
Celery and water and cardio for you libido. Also masturbation is counter productive and will leave you drained and depressed.
Good luck! Discipline is key.
 

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What you say makes sense for a guy that does sport not for a sedendarty.

A sedentary that matches the right proportion of macros and go on a light caloric deficit mostly loses bodydat...jogging itself would actually give him a muscular stimulus compared to his everyday nothing (altought small) while helping him to be at deficit.

What you say its true for guys that stop lifting and cut their calories while running, in that case agree but surely not for a guy that does nothing.
He would be much better off simply doing a bunch of body weight exercises rather than jogging.
 
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