A great moment of clarity occurs when you know what you want, and what you're willing to give up to get it. If a guy only "wants pvssy", it can be had by any woman. If he wants good sex, it's truly hit or miss. If he wants a GF, any girl might do in the s/t. If he wants a true "woman", now we're talking...
When you meet a girl, her first impression TO you is extremely important, because as you get "COMFORTABLE", she unpacks the baggage and sets up camp.
Is she genuine?
Is she fake?
Does she wear alot of makeup?
How's her eating habits?
Health habits?
Spending habits?
Drinking habits?
Go with your gut feeling. If red flags are popping up, then cease, desist, and disengage right there, cowboy.
When I defined what "I" like in a girl by a Natural physical and mental connection, something I sought right away, I met 10x as many women, had 10x as many wanting dates, and was 10x more selective about when I went out. It wasn't about special techniques, or words, or phrases, or inserting sex words like "sit below me". It was merely finding women I truly liked, whether it went well or not, I could walk OK with doing it.
Lots of people will just haphazardly set you up on a date to "try it out", which is fine. If that's the case, do something small. I once was set up with a girl who was a few years older, and taller than I'd even find attractive, and went anyways. My intention was to get coffee b/c it was purely a blind date, but she had no decent places near her and didn't drink coffee, so we ended up boozing. Lots of falseness came and it was generally awkward. For me it was fun, but she wasn't much of an outgoing person, she HAD to only drink booze, there was no inbetween, and the sliding scale of tipziness doesn't help dig out the truth of the feelings. Needless to say, we don't talk anymore and I learned to go with my gut on such things...
Look at like this, you're a guy. You've mad friends. Sports to watch. Sports to go to. Things to do. Money to make. A family to care for (i.e. parents). Even books to read, video games to play, gyms to workout at, cars to cruise in, vacations to plan....
When you start designing things as you like, you're more cautious about how you invest your time so that ALL women are supremely interested or flexible, or you eject right away. And if she calls and asks "Why didn't you call back."
Say straight up..."I'm busy, and you didn't seem to be too interested in doing anything I want to do." Radical honesty gets you much farther than trying beat around the bush here, but don't be a prick either. Just honesty. It isn't about "not giving a fvck", because to even play that attitude off requires you to give a fvck first to NOT give a fvck.
One girl I called a few times, it appeared as if she'd hung up. She infact lost connection, but when I tried 3x to call her and the call shut off, I ditched the effort. A week later she calls..."Why didn't you call me back?"
"I did, you hung up 3x on Thursday night, so I stopped trying. I was just about to chuck your number."
"No don't do that, I was drunk and probably didn't realize what I was doing." [Like that's any better]
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Go Out With Pride; Don't Burn a Bridge
Some guys like to go down in a fury of flames, stoking their ego all the way down. Which is fine, if that's your game. A guy who isn't bothered by any person, woman or man, won't feel the need to compromise their values and self respect no matter how bad someone else acts.
This happened to me over a Flaky Hooter's waitress I dated about 1.5 years ago. At first it seemed like it was all fake flakiness, until I noticed when I was there I got all the attention, backrubs, even her sitting on my lap until her manager would surface. I wasn't moved too much, part was because it was probably an act, and part was because, I'd never met anyone that forward.
We did the date thing, but I never "felt" the fuzzy feeling that this was a person I'd like to befriend right now. She'd been going through alot with her family, smoked tons of weed, and was shelling out tons of money to her X best friend. All in all, too much drama for me to care. She dissed out on me, probably because I was dissing out on her. But I remained cool, and when I went into her place of work, I never harbored bad feelings.
Fast forward a year and plus later to this past February and she's outside my office. I'd lost contact with her, her phone number, and pretty much everything else. Turns out her mom works in my building, and I'd built up a friendly relationship with her mom just in passing. The girl resurfaces, new job, shyt straight, and her mom thinks she was nuts to stop dating me. True enough, her daughter is beautiful, mature, friendly, but had a lot of ish going on.
"You look damn good now."
"I wasn't ready for him."
"he was too good to me."
"He was too nice about some things."
All the above is true in some regards. She was a little girl running scared I tried to save, she was the last of my "save the women brigade" and I learned. Needless to say, things move up and up, where we're meeting up again on thursday night for drinks where she's djing.
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The moral is...remain centered...yes some days of life will toss you around. Some nights won't work out. Some triumphs will be truly awesome. The peaks of like or so short, because they'll bring you so high. And the plateaus of life so wide and long because its time to grow and reflect and build stability for the peaks and valleys of life.
We all have a good and bad day, it's those that get along who don't attach their emotions to either event that win out.
I truly believe if you start to go on gut feelings and see where a woman can benefit your life, you'll be more selective about these girls, about the time you give up to spend with them, and about the time you can focus elsewhere. Women apply the same logic to men. If she were to see you as a true prize, she'd invest her time in you with phone calls, thoughts, small gifts, and make plans anytime you called, or rearrange plans anytime you make better plans.
A-Unit
When you meet a girl, her first impression TO you is extremely important, because as you get "COMFORTABLE", she unpacks the baggage and sets up camp.
Is she genuine?
Is she fake?
Does she wear alot of makeup?
How's her eating habits?
Health habits?
Spending habits?
Drinking habits?
Go with your gut feeling. If red flags are popping up, then cease, desist, and disengage right there, cowboy.
When I defined what "I" like in a girl by a Natural physical and mental connection, something I sought right away, I met 10x as many women, had 10x as many wanting dates, and was 10x more selective about when I went out. It wasn't about special techniques, or words, or phrases, or inserting sex words like "sit below me". It was merely finding women I truly liked, whether it went well or not, I could walk OK with doing it.
Lots of people will just haphazardly set you up on a date to "try it out", which is fine. If that's the case, do something small. I once was set up with a girl who was a few years older, and taller than I'd even find attractive, and went anyways. My intention was to get coffee b/c it was purely a blind date, but she had no decent places near her and didn't drink coffee, so we ended up boozing. Lots of falseness came and it was generally awkward. For me it was fun, but she wasn't much of an outgoing person, she HAD to only drink booze, there was no inbetween, and the sliding scale of tipziness doesn't help dig out the truth of the feelings. Needless to say, we don't talk anymore and I learned to go with my gut on such things...
Look at like this, you're a guy. You've mad friends. Sports to watch. Sports to go to. Things to do. Money to make. A family to care for (i.e. parents). Even books to read, video games to play, gyms to workout at, cars to cruise in, vacations to plan....
When you start designing things as you like, you're more cautious about how you invest your time so that ALL women are supremely interested or flexible, or you eject right away. And if she calls and asks "Why didn't you call back."
Say straight up..."I'm busy, and you didn't seem to be too interested in doing anything I want to do." Radical honesty gets you much farther than trying beat around the bush here, but don't be a prick either. Just honesty. It isn't about "not giving a fvck", because to even play that attitude off requires you to give a fvck first to NOT give a fvck.
One girl I called a few times, it appeared as if she'd hung up. She infact lost connection, but when I tried 3x to call her and the call shut off, I ditched the effort. A week later she calls..."Why didn't you call me back?"
"I did, you hung up 3x on Thursday night, so I stopped trying. I was just about to chuck your number."
"No don't do that, I was drunk and probably didn't realize what I was doing." [Like that's any better]
_________________________
Go Out With Pride; Don't Burn a Bridge
Some guys like to go down in a fury of flames, stoking their ego all the way down. Which is fine, if that's your game. A guy who isn't bothered by any person, woman or man, won't feel the need to compromise their values and self respect no matter how bad someone else acts.
This happened to me over a Flaky Hooter's waitress I dated about 1.5 years ago. At first it seemed like it was all fake flakiness, until I noticed when I was there I got all the attention, backrubs, even her sitting on my lap until her manager would surface. I wasn't moved too much, part was because it was probably an act, and part was because, I'd never met anyone that forward.
We did the date thing, but I never "felt" the fuzzy feeling that this was a person I'd like to befriend right now. She'd been going through alot with her family, smoked tons of weed, and was shelling out tons of money to her X best friend. All in all, too much drama for me to care. She dissed out on me, probably because I was dissing out on her. But I remained cool, and when I went into her place of work, I never harbored bad feelings.
Fast forward a year and plus later to this past February and she's outside my office. I'd lost contact with her, her phone number, and pretty much everything else. Turns out her mom works in my building, and I'd built up a friendly relationship with her mom just in passing. The girl resurfaces, new job, shyt straight, and her mom thinks she was nuts to stop dating me. True enough, her daughter is beautiful, mature, friendly, but had a lot of ish going on.
"You look damn good now."
"I wasn't ready for him."
"he was too good to me."
"He was too nice about some things."
All the above is true in some regards. She was a little girl running scared I tried to save, she was the last of my "save the women brigade" and I learned. Needless to say, things move up and up, where we're meeting up again on thursday night for drinks where she's djing.
________________________
The moral is...remain centered...yes some days of life will toss you around. Some nights won't work out. Some triumphs will be truly awesome. The peaks of like or so short, because they'll bring you so high. And the plateaus of life so wide and long because its time to grow and reflect and build stability for the peaks and valleys of life.
We all have a good and bad day, it's those that get along who don't attach their emotions to either event that win out.
I truly believe if you start to go on gut feelings and see where a woman can benefit your life, you'll be more selective about these girls, about the time you give up to spend with them, and about the time you can focus elsewhere. Women apply the same logic to men. If she were to see you as a true prize, she'd invest her time in you with phone calls, thoughts, small gifts, and make plans anytime you called, or rearrange plans anytime you make better plans.
A-Unit
