Death: The Ultimate Motivator

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I went through something like that. Got a good ass kicking, it hurt so much emotionally because they were people I knew, plus it hurt even more physically. I was just laying on the ground crying and thinking about all the stuff that I regretted not doing.

There was another time like this, when I first got high. I took way too much weed and was beyond high. It got into my brain really good and my brain would literally not stop thinking, I thought my head would have fried and all I could do was regret.

Inspiring story though, good stuff.
 

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I've lost more friends than I can count over the last two years. Death is either circling me or trying to motivate me.

Either way, every time one of them dies, I'm reminded I need to stop making excuses and do the most I can with every day.
 
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Epic said:
The best thing that I can tell you that will get you out there and taking charge in your life is to think about death. Before March of last year I was drinking, doing drugs, partying, and working a job that just paid the bills because they wouldn't drug test me, with few friends and no girls. Then I made a stupid mistake.

I was driving home from a party drunk, I normally wouldn't do that sort of thing, but an ongoing argument at the party ruined my time so I just decided to go home. A few miles from my house, I wrecked my car, unfortunately I was not wearing a seatbelt. My car stopped suddenly and my head crashed into the windshield.The right side of my face struck a shard of glass that cut in a diagonal fashion from my right cheekbone, across my eyelid, to the space in between my eyebrows, and peeled the flesh up to the top of my forehead, severing an artery, and coming millimeters from taking my eye. I was conscious, but within a matter of minutes I had lost most of the blood in my body. I began to lose consciousness and I knew that I was dying. Luckily someone saw the accident and an ambulance was able to reach the scene in time and my life was saved. It took them four hours to stitch my face properly and let me tell you, it was extremely painful since they couldn't kill the pain the whole time because of the state my body was in being drunk and almost drained of blood. Once I was sent home I couldn't get out of bed for two weeks. I went through boughts of depression, but then I thought about what it was like during the accident.

When I was lying in my car and I knew I was dying all I could think of was everything that I had wanted to do, but didn't because I was too scared or too lazy. After my recovery, I was a changed man. I had faced death so at that point everything else paled in comparison as far as fear was concerned. I quit partying, drinking, and doing drugs and whatever I wanted from that point on I went out and got it whether it was a woman, or a talent, or a job, whatever.

Remember there is one thing that you need to be mindful of. For every being on this planet, time is ticking by one minute after the other and eventually it will run out and you may never know if that will be 50 years from now or tomorrow. Live every day to the fullest and live it for yourself, because you never know when that day could be your last. Be proud and respect yourself and if anyone treats you badly, I don't care if it's a woman or not, then remove them from your life. You don't need friends or women who are going to bring you down and not enhance your life because time is still ticking and there are people out there that WILL enhance your life. Most of all just be happy to EXIST because you could have just as easily never had a chance to do anything.

Hey, I had a similar experience. I hit the back of a tractor trailor going 50 mph
totalling my car. I wasn't injured as bad as you because the airbag saved my life. I wasn't wearing a seatbelt either. I broke my hand that was about it.

For a few months after that incident I hit on every cute girl I saw because why not? I should be dead.

But unfortunately after a few months the feeling wore off and I'm back to being my passive self not hitting on girls like I did right after the accident.

It seems the effect from nearly dying wears off after awhile and you forget how lucky it is to be alive.
 

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It was like 1am when I had my accident and I was lucky that there was someone not far behind me when this happened. The person called an ambulance as soon as I went off the road. Blood was draining out of me as fast as turning a bottle upside down and letting it pour out. The effect is still strong with me because if it wasn't for that person, no one would have gotten to me in time, and I WOULD be dead right now.
 

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Epic said:
Yes, I believe it should be. It's not the fear of dying that you should focus on. You should maintain a constant awareness that one day you will no longer be alive. All I'm saying is you should look at it as a deadline, and no one can give you an extension if you don't make it. You should have no problem with women.
I've been reading some Nietzsche lately and he talked about how life should be a motivator, not death. I cannot remember if he was talking about metaphysics and the idea of heaven being a motivator, or if he was talking about just death in general. I'll do some research and get back to you on it.

My current thought is that you (Epic) want to live life to the fullest because of your fear of death, when you should be living life to the fullest because of your love of life. It's like Christianity in a sense, God gives you free will (well not according to Nietzsche, lol but thats another subject) God gives you free will and then wants you to use your free will to come to him on your own. He does not want you to follow him because you are afraid of him, he wants you to come to him because you love him so much. The idea of living life afraid of death is not a smart idea imo. In the long run, whenever you do something wrong, your life will be full of regret and resentment, thinking about the mistakes you've made and the things you will never do, every day gone and opportunity missed is forever lost and one step closer to death whereas when you live life by loving life, every day is a new opportunity, another day of happiness and experiences.
The same thing goes for any other goals you have for your life. 100 years from now, everyone one that's currently on this planet will be dead.
Yea, I agree. Reminds me of the 'eternal recurrence'
 

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My current thought is that you (Epic) want to live life to the fullest because of your fear of death, when you should be living life to the fullest because of your love of life.
We are basically saying the same thing. As I said before, I don't mean you should fear death, because being inhibitied by fear of the inevitable is foolish, but you should acknowlege it's existence. A large majority of people live their lives as if they are going to live forever, being lazy, not following their dreams, as if there is always tomorrow and that is also foolish.


It's like Christianity in a sense, God gives you free will (well not according to Nietzsche, lol but thats another subject) God gives you free will and then wants you to use your free will to come to him on your own. He does not want you to follow him because you are afraid of him, he wants you to come to him because you love him so much.
Yes, God wants you to come to him on your own, but he also gives you the choice to live in paradise or suffer in hell for eternity. In Christianity, death is intended as an incentive, not to cause fear, but to suppress laziness and encourage action. In essense, life itself can be paradise or hell, it's your choice, but you only have a short period of time to decide.

every day gone and opportunity missed is forever lost and one step closer to death whereas when you live life by loving life, every day is a new opportunity, another day of happiness and experiences.
As I said earlier, we both are on the same page my friend, because death is what gives value to life. We all know through what we've learned here that anything that is constant and readily available becomes mediocre. I agree that you should love and live life because every day is a new opportunity, a gift you could say, but the only reason this perception is even possible is because it doesn't last forever. If we were all immortal we wouldn't feel encouraged to do anything because there would always be tomorrow.

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I do a dangerous job EVERY weekday, and your story about the seatbelt will change my habits AGAIN (I do not always wear it). Now, but, my life-changing experience occurred 2 years ago when a woman publicly flaked on me hard-core. I won't go into it, but why she did it still perplexes me to this day. I loved her and thought she'd loved me up until that 2nd week of being with her and knowing she'd been absolutely honest and an agent of change for me. She had a sixth sense that triggered her to tell me that she felt darkness when around me. I knew that I was an evil/lost person at the time, but she confirmed it. She gave me a piece of her and then took it away just as fast, but then gave it back to me again, and then I was hooked on her. This "hooking" on my source of light changed me forever. She's almost like "god" to me, but not quite. I still have "some" dignity or "darkness" left in me.
 

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Yay, lets philosophize. :) I'm not entirely arguing (tho I am to a point) but I am also just bouncing ideas on you and checking for errors in your philosophy coz I got a final on Existentialism in a couple days

Epic said:
We are basically saying the same thing. As I said before, I don't mean you should fear death, because being inhibitied by fear of the inevitable is foolish, but you should acknowlege it's existence. A large majority of people live their lives as if they are going to live forever, being lazy, not following their dreams, as if there is always tomorrow and that is also foolish.

Everyone 'dies' and to say otherwise is a obviously silly, but that does not mean they should look at death like a marathon runner looks at the runner behind him, constantly chasing him. To assume that tommorow might not come also can be problematic in terms of decision making and ideas. Couldn't I say that you did drugs and drove drunk because tomorrow is not promised? The lack of tomorrow sounds like the perfect reasoning for hedonistic ideals, like drug usage and constant partying to me, not laziness and not following their dreams. To me, the point where you are coming from looks like the point you are heading by assuming that tomorrow might not show up.


Yes, God wants you to come to him on your own, but he also gives you the choice to live in paradise or suffer in hell for eternity. In Christianity, death is intended as an incentive, not to cause fear, but to suppress laziness and encourage action. In essense, life itself can be paradise or hell, it's your choice, but you only have a short period of time to decide.

Nietzsche (rightfully so IMO) says that on the contrary, Christianity hinders action and the life you live as opposed to celebrating it. Through Christianity, we are told to suppress our urges and body desires and strive for spiritual and mental desires. We postpone much of our potential happiness (and ignore the lack of logic in the religion, calling it 'faith') in the hopes that we will be rewarded in a future life (aka heaven). Because we cannot accept the pain and suffering that occurs in this world, we created another world via our dreams and ideas that make this world more logical (because man thinks he needs logic) Western civilization is based on the Greek civilization and that is where Nietzsche traces back the origins of man's need for logic. He says it started back with Socrates placing too much emphasis on reason, and this is why (to no surprise) Nietzsche says, "Christianity is Platonism watered down for the masses."


As I said earlier, we both are on the same page my friend, because death is what gives value to life. We all know through what we've learned here that anything that is constant and readily available becomes mediocre. I agree that you should love and live life because every day is a new opportunity, a gift you could say, but the only reason this perception is even possible is because it doesn't last forever. If we were all immortal we wouldn't feel encouraged to do anything because there would always be tomorrow.
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Touche, we are both striving for the same goal, but the reason for the goal is where we part. Death does not give value to life, LIFE gives meaning to life.

Nietzsche said:
What, if some day or night a demon were to steal after you into your loneliest loneliness and say to you: 'This life as you now live it and have lived it, you will have to live once more and innumerable times more' ... Would you not throw yourself down and gnash your teeth and curse the demon who spoke thus? Or have you once experienced a tremendous moment when you would have answered him: 'You are a god and never have I heard anything more divine.
You say 'the day does not last forever' so live to the fullest while you can, while I (well moreso the philosopher I am currently aligned with) says that the day will last forever, and because the day will last forever is why you should live to the fullest. We both have the same end goal, but the thought process behind them is what separates us
 

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Everyone 'dies' and to say otherwise is a obviously silly, but that does not mean they should look at death like a marathon runner looks at the runner behind him, constantly chasing him. To assume that tommorow might not come also can be problematic in terms of decision making and ideas. Couldn't I say that you did drugs and drove drunk because tomorrow is not promised? The lack of tomorrow sounds like the perfect reasoning for hedonistic ideals, like drug usage and constant partying to me, not laziness and not following their dreams. To me, the point where you are coming from looks like the point you are heading by assuming that tomorrow might not show up.

Everything is relative to perception. We all are, or used to be weak. The weak use substance abuse as an emotional crutch, a creation of temporary acceptance of the state of their lives. The weak have no drive, no determination, they forsake their dreams. When faced with death, in reality or even in thought the weak cower and despair, for all hope is lost. Most of are trying to be, or are strong, confident men. The strong have a drive, a determination, to create the world they want and will. When faced with death, the strong stay strong because there is no regret in those who choose to live. Weakness is death itself, there is life in strength, so as long as you are weakminded then the thought of death will consume you.

Nietzsche (rightfully so IMO) says that on the contrary, Christianity hinders action and the life you live as opposed to celebrating it. Through Christianity, we are told to suppress our urges and body desires and strive for spiritual and mental desires. We postpone much of our potential happiness (and ignore the lack of logic in the religion, calling it 'faith') in the hopes that we will be rewarded in a future life (aka heaven). Because we cannot accept the pain and suffering that occurs in this world, we created another world via our dreams and ideas that make this world more logical (because man thinks he needs logic) Western civilization is based on the Greek civilization and that is where Nietzsche traces back the origins of man's need for logic. He says it started back with Socrates placing too much emphasis on reason, and this is why (to no surprise) Nietzsche says, "Christianity is Platonism watered down for the masses."

Religious concepts are also based on perceptions. Nietzsche chose to see it that way. People interpret religious text in different manners. It's not about suppression of desire, but having control of your desire. When you think about it all crime and betrayal comes down to emotions based on desire. True, religion has been used for suppression by the government at times, but the original message, is about peace and harmony with each other. If everyone followed their desire without any inhibition no one would be happy.Sin is about betrayal of God and those around you. For instance, God does not condemn sex, he condemns the emotional and physical harm you can cause to yourself and others by having sex indescriminantly, i.e. cheating on someone who loves you, promiscuity that leads to STD's and unwanted children. There are also times when God has approved of murder. Everything is relevent to the situation and an understanding of this requires logic. Religious practice itself is a guide to making the best of life.

Touche, we are both striving for the same goal, but the reason for the goal is where we part. Death does not give value to life, LIFE gives meaning to life

If life was everlasting do you really think that people would be driven to achieve or treat each other better? There would be no significance in embracing life because you would have no concept of anything contrary to it.


You say 'the day does not last forever' so live to the fullest while you can, while I (well moreso the philosopher I am currently aligned with) says that the day will last forever, and because the day will last forever is why you should live to the fullest. We both have the same end goal, but the thought process behind them is what separates us.

As we've both agreed, death is a reality. I do not assume that the day does last forever, or that tomorrow will not come. While it may not be true today, it could be true tomorrow, and will be true at some point in time. People can come to conclusions by different means. You and I both appreciate and embrace life and neither of us currently rely on death for motivation, BUT where as you were able to just embrace life, it took awareness of death to lead me to doing the same and it may take the same for others here. Again, it's all relative to perception.

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Epic said:
Everything is relative to perception. We all are, or used to be weak. The weak use substance abuse as an emotional crutch, a creation of temporary acceptance of the state of their lives. The weak have no drive, no determination, they forsake their dreams. When faced with death, in reality or even in thought the weak cower and despair, for all hope is lost. Most of are trying to be, or are strong, confident men. The strong have a drive, a determination, to create the world they want and will. When faced with death, the strong stay strong because there is no regret in those who choose to live. Weakness is death itself, there is life in strength, so as long as you are weakminded then the thought of death will consume you.

I agree that everything is related to perception. However the weak are not necessarily those who cower from death as opposed to those who cower from life. Socrates and Jesus were both strong and powerful men, but because they didn't fight their impending doom, they are seen as representing the descending type, or slave morality, eventually resigning themselves to death, or following the norm instead of creating their own. They were not afraid of death, they embraced it, but because the idea is to embrace life, not death

Religious concepts are also based on perceptions. Nietzsche chose to see it that way. People interpret religious text in different manners. It's not about suppression of desire, but having control of your desire. When you think about it all crime and betrayal comes down to emotions based on desire. True, religion has been used for suppression by the government at times, but the original message, is about peace and harmony with each other. If everyone followed their desire without any inhibition no one would be happy.Sin is about betrayal of God and those around you. For instance, God does not condemn sex, he condemns the emotional and physical harm you can cause to yourself and others by having sex indescriminantly, i.e. cheating on someone who loves you, promiscuity that leads to STD's and unwanted children. There are also times when God has approved of murder. Everything is relevent to the situation and an understanding of this requires logic. Religious practice itself is a guide to making the best of life.

True, crime and betrayal come from desire, but so does love and faith. The point is emotion accounts for SOOOO much more than Christianity gives it credit for. Religion is not about suppressing desire, but Christianity is. It is not to say that it does not or has not had positive effects on humanity, even Nietzsche will admit this, but the point Nietzsche is making is that we as a human race have outgrown the need to believe the lie. (See: the madman for a great analogy/parable http://www.fordham.edu/halsall/mod/nietzsche-madman.html)
It is similar to the lie of Santa Claus which was to generate ideas of generosity to children. After they become generous and empathetic, the idea of Santa Claus is no longer needed. I could be wrong but I think the bible does not say 'do not have sex indiscriminately' it says 'do not have sex before marriage'.This is my knowledge from my philosophy course last year so its gonna be a little rusty, lol but here goes: Christianity is full of ultimatums which are the work of the weak man. Instead of having moderation or self-control, Christianity forces the followers to do all or nothing. Instead of moderation of sex, they say to cut it out entirely until marriage; when a man's eye causes him to sin, he is told to pluck it out, it reminds me of Kant's rule of absolute truths in a sense


If life was everlasting do you really think that people would be driven to achieve or treat each other better? There would be no significance in embracing life because you would have no concept of anything contrary to it.

Life is not everlasting, it is eternally recurring. It is the same life repeated over and over. i can't remember if I said it was everlasting, but if I did, my bad. But as for your though experiment, the idea of living life should not be in achieving anything, because once you achieve something, it is over. The idea is to be constantly improving yourself. In that aspect because there is no final goal to be achieved, it does not matter even if you lived for an eternity or for a day. That is the main goal behind the 'Overman'.


As we've both agreed, death is a reality. I do not assume that the day does last forever, or that tomorrow will not come. While it may not be true today, it could be true tomorrow, and will be true at some point in time. People can come to conclusions by different means. You and I both appreciate and embrace life and neither of us currently rely on death for motivation, BUT where as you were able to just embrace life, it took awareness of death to lead me to doing the same and it may take the same for others here. Again, it's all relative to perception.

Touche (i cant stop saying that, lol) it is all relative. That's life for ya. It's been fun philosophizing with ya, learned some new stuff in the process and got the juices flowing
 

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Touche (lol), you make good points. This was fun, I like to philosophize as well. Regardless of our positions, since we still arrive at the same point, it would seem that both positions are true. It just proves that the human experience is all a matter of perception and relative perspective. :)
 

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Man you gotta love Nietzsche. A brilliant psychologist even if his philosophy in places is hopelessly misguided. I love it when philosophy has something to say about human nature when considered for gaming purposes.
 
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