dealing with your inner self when your ex wants

[a-rookie]

what's up guys you guys helped me through toughest times in july when my ex wife asked me for divorce in the airport when I was going to see her.long distance relationship.
I'm 29 and she's 31.
She had picked up her stuff and brought some guy ( boyfriend to help her pick up stuff and family) I wasn't there but a dear friend helped me.
I've been since reading books and going out every weekend.
I had forgotten all about her.

I went back to Bolivia for family and she (the ex) send my uncle to meet to talk, anyways longstory short I eneded up sleeping with her and she told me that she wanted me back and she suffered all this time without me, she then called me on the 31th sayin to meet up to talk,

I went and her family showed up I felt threatend and she said she would never go back with me. I smile quietly and left .

I called her the next day on Jan 1, 2008 in the morning. and told her that I wasn't really interested in going back and that I was just enjoying her "acting" like an ignorant country girl with out formal manners and she sould get an award for acting in front of her family and that she is a farmer's daughter type.

she was offended, told me if she'd known I thought of her that way that she would have never married me and hang up. I haven't called her neither her.

I was an idiot by accepting to meet up and catching feelings back, how do you guys look at it and what would you do next to erase this chapter in my life.

Please give me a sincere and honest opinion brothers.
anyone please give me suggestions
thanks

 

[Mr. Wolf]

Brother, women want to fail you. Because they want to control you. She saw how desirable you become since she last seen you. Thus she played it and wanted to get back.. She wanted to find out if she made a mistake by leaving you..

Perhaps you went to your old self when you go back with her again.. Thus she said what she said..

Had you told her, no thank you. She's be after you until this day.



Calling women names and putting them down is like telling women that you're a low life with no confidence what so ever.. There is a difference between confidence and ego.. http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=135507


To put this chapter of your life behind you must learn from it. You erase it by realizing your mistakes and making yourself better, moving on.

 

[MooseGod]

Old flames can still burn you.

 

[a-rookie]

Thanks guys , I really thought in through my mind. to myself.I want to be firm on myself. I 'm glad you guys were open.

I actually feel better coming back home rather wasting my time being a chode and trying to get back with a ho.


This year 2008 -I'll make it the best- I'll keep you guys posted.
Thank You !!!
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[j0n024]

Did you make a post here about that divorce? If you did I would like to read it if you dont mind, I am sorry for your ordeal but glad that you didnt become a pathetic afc that feels sorry for himself because some stupid piece if sh1t dumped him. Good luck man on whatever you do.

 

[a-rookie]

Its bit dificult to explain cause of feelings in the past but
I appreaciate much if you want to go over how this went about as an autospy report.

i'm a student but I would talk with her and see her everyday and send her gifts when i'd see her I treat her like a queen.she was a farmer's daughter type and wanted to mold her to my way. I had the opportunity to go to US for school and I wanted to break up with her as my then girlfriend.on my first of the trips I came back for vacation, she ask me to marry her.It was like a shotgun wedding type ,so i accepted and in 2 days later I left back to school this was march 2005
( not by the church thing marriage). I travel constantly to be with her then i noticed some people would say hi and would talk to her and ask her about some guy,
(the guy who picked up her stuff from my apartment.)So I was a bit jealous and she denied anything this was last year in December 2007. she also created friction between me and my brother and my dad . overall my family. cause my brother was dating her niece.and her sister's didn't approve of it. (DRAMA)

On July 2007, I showed up at the airport with a rose she told me on the spot that she wanted a divorce right after i had gotten out of the gate from the airport and was sick of me and wanted to pick up her stuff. we argued and she decided to call family and "friend" to pick up her stuff
(the guy that early on people were asking about her and him )(that ******* was a friend of her nephew and this prick showed up at my wedding dinner),
so I had a dear friend lookover my stuff. next day someone from the court showed up with a divorce papers presented by her.

I then left destroyed by this. that is how I knew about this site:

guys that have given me strong advice have helped me get over the awful experience and get on with my life. I started meeting more women and practicing my skills. all of the sudden i see myself going back to see family for the holidays and Boom! this happens quick feeling come back and All the hard work of being congruent and confident down the freakin drain especially after she cried and told me she wasn't happy and she wanted to have my child and to go back.

I found out later she had taken all moneys I sent her, bribed to speed up this divorce had fake witnesses testifying that I was a bad husband. but supposedly in a month or so the divorce will become official ( well that is how Bolivia judiciary system works , hahaha).

I learned from this that I will not tolerate or accept bad behavior:
if she does it will be her: first time , last time and never again.

I was watching this happen in front of my face and I felt short.
But I want to overcome it with something positive


cheers guys

 

[penkitten]

the best thing you can do is keep on moving forward without her and if she sends any more uncles wanting to talk you into getting back with her, tell them you are done with her drama.

 

[j0n024]

I still think you did good by becoming a better person and not dwelling for a long period of time, I dont think you did wrong by meeting up with her since it is the nice thing to do (albeit kinda fuvked up on her part ( but I think you should remember that your becoming a DJ and that you have many many more potential women that can bow down to your feet when you get your game tight....so there is no need crawling back to her. I love how she brought up the "I've been sad this whole time," even though SHE was the one that ended it ......I wonder if she was sad the minute after she broke up with you. Good luck and maybe you should make a FR journal so we can see you progress.