Dealing With Ugly Girls That Show Interest?

[SinJester]

Wow, I'm asking for advice =P

There's probably a few threads like this but for the life of me I don't know what to do. Look I'm a nice guy, no not a AFC but a decent person. This draws a lot of people to me, not all of them I want to be around.

So there's not one, but two girls that are showing heavy interest in me that I don't want anything to do with. One of them I have told "I just think of you as a friend" but she still tries to message me and talk to me at every opputunity! What more can do? This other girl hasn't actually said she is interested by she also talks to me at every oppurtunity and also keeps messaging me. How can I deal with this if she hasn't actually said she is interested? Sure she might just be really really friendly, but it's damn annoying.

The second one is fugly but it's funny how she basically uses all the 'rules' in the DJ Bible, it's like she tries to make up with her looks with 'game'. There's negs, c/f etc etc. It just wont work because I am a guy and she is freaking ugly.

Both of these girls are friends with some really hot girls and more importantly are friends with girls that I am great friends with. So I can't just tell them to fck off. Also, the small town doesn't help.

Any ideas? Boy would it make my life easier

 

[Nivre]

1)Leave this town and go to the next.

2)Just disappear for awhile, and come back.

3)Be blunt about their looks.

4)Be a nice guy to them and they will leave you

5)Just get a girlfriend to kick them off.


Hope it helped.

 

[lordson]

It just wont work because I am a guy and she is freaking ugly.

hahahahaha, thats hilarious

its happened to me once, i was a bit immature then, so i just avoided her as much as possible, and when i was around her, just acted normal

eventually her feelings diminished, so all good

 

[War Against Betaism]

I've been in this situation a couple months back, I don't think I handled it very well though. This girl goes to a completely different school and I know most of the people there through her. What I basically did was annoy the hell out of her, bad mistake, she gossiped about me, now I don't even talk to anyone at that school at all.

Well that eventually got her off of me, but I would liked to have done it more efficiently. What you could do is ignore her "game". Only respond to her when she's trying not to get closer to you as if you would like your guy friends.

 

[smoothtalker72]

im in this same situation. this ugly fatty at my job is constantly at my heels. the other day she actually SMELLED me and said something like "mmmMMmm you smell good". im not a mean guy so i really dont want to say anything overly mean to her just to get her off my case. she hasnt done anything to me and i've been on the other side of that before (not the ugly part just the overtly mean part) so i dont want to put anyone through that. but the chick has a baby and a boyfriend as it is. youd think that would be enough....

 

[jafyk]

So, how did these girls get your number or IM in the first place to start messaging you? Hmm... I wonder whose fault that was? Well, when you run into them keep it short and act not interested. Don't respond to their messages, be scarse and stay away from places they frequent.

 

[Five To One]

Yea jafyk has it.


Block them/dont reply to messages.
Be an overall boring person around them, answer questions with one word and kill conversations.
They will get the hint.
Don't be worried about what their hot friends will think of this, they know their fugly friends are fugly and wont hold it against you as long as your not a d1ck about it.

 

[feelgood]

Hi all, and thanks for the opportunity to "immerse" myself in this candid discussion.

I kind of have a different approach to the "frat" chic steriotype, so please bear with me as I try to explain.

There's no greater feeling among teenagers (especially where peer pressure is concerned) than the need to feel appreciated.

Granted, college-age individuals opperate from a purely physical "me first" ego driven persona...there's nothing wrong with that...competition dictates that you need to look "ubber" cool and highly sexually attractive.

On the other hand, we (the majority of guys that is) are visually attracted to women (everything else seizes to matter).

So, in the case of the fat chics...the least you can do, is take on a brotherly and seriously superior approach..

Let me explain..

A fat chic (ever noticed that fat chics have hot friends?) shows interest in you.
Instead of totally ignoring her, you take her under your wing and almost everything you talk about, relates to studying, motivation, and where she sees herself in x years etc.
What you're trying to establish here is a brotherly and not sexual approach.

Many women tend to be turned off (sexually that is) if you constantly harp on personal development etc. The tend to classify you, not as a nerd, but someone they wouldn't want to be associated with sexually.

In this case, you could also "brotherly" enquire how she feels about her weight issues and what she's done to rectify this...you'll be surprised with the response...and it ain't gonna be negative, but appreciative.

Therein lies your solution...you do not want to alienate any girl, especially in group settings like college campus or high school...what goes around comes around and, sooner or later, the fat chick you made fun off suddenly has a sister who is a former beauty pageant.

Try this approach, and watch the reaction closely.

You'll be glad you did.

Feelgood

 

[jafyk]

Hi all, and thanks for the opportunity to "immerse" myself in this candid discussion.

I kind of have a different approach to the "frat" chic steriotype, so please bear with me as I try to explain.

There's no greater feeling among teenagers (especially where peer pressure is concerned) than the need to feel appreciated.

Granted, college-age individuals opperate from a purely physical "me first" ego driven persona...there's nothing wrong with that...competition dictates that you need to look "ubber" cool and highly sexually attractive.

On the other hand, we (the majority of guys that is) are visually attracted to women (everything else seizes to matter).

So, in the case of the fat chics...the least you can do, is take on a brotherly and seriously superior approach..

Let me explain..

A fat chic (ever noticed that fat chics have hot friends?) shows interest in you.
Instead of totally ignoring her, you take her under your wing and almost everything you talk about, relates to studying, motivation, and where she sees herself in x years etc.
What you're trying to establish here is a brotherly and not sexual approach.

Many women tend to be turned off (sexually that is) if you constantly harp on personal development etc. The tend to classify you, not as a nerd, but someone they wouldn't want to be associated with sexually.

In this case, you could also "brotherly" enquire how she feels about her weight issues and what she's done to rectify this...you'll be surprised with the response...and it ain't gonna be negative, but appreciative.

Therein lies your solution...you do not want to alienate any girl, especially in group settings like college campus or high school...what goes around comes around and, sooner or later, the fat chick you made fun off suddenly has a sister who is a former beauty pageant.

Try this approach, and watch the reaction closely.

You'll be glad you did.

Feelgood

Sounds good too, either way you win.

 

[T-Roy]

Ah Feelgood has it pretty good... To a point... What you really want to do is talk to the girl. Make her feel great about herself, and make her like you all the more. Of course, this will increase attraction and annoyance but it will also give you other opportunities. Ask her to get some of her friends together and say something like "Hi, me and some friends are going out to "-Insert awesome flirting scenario here-" since you don't know many of them how about you bring some friends along and we can all hang out?" that way in wanting to make you happy she will bring some cute freinds along. (Find a way to mention names and she will start thinking about those friends.) Then hit on them while you are out doing what ever. (Yes even hit on the ugly girl.) Then try to get a number or a date off one. Then when you are both happy in your relationship you can tell the ugly girl, that it's all thanks to her that you and you're new beau hooked up. And seeing as you're dating the girls friend, and seeing as how the girl probably talked so nice about you before, she wont be able to make any moves on you or against you.

It's not using her because she will get a new friend outta it and maybe some more self esteem.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

I would say just be friends with them. They may have hot girlfriends that you could get to know. And the more friends you have the more people you meet.

 

[rkc09]

Same here here SinJester. I'm dealing with this problem too. This heavy set girl who isn't that cute gets flirting with me. Today at school SHE GRAB MY BUTT!!!!!!:nono:....This isn't good. I tried to ignore her and everything but she kept going at me. Even got to the point were she'll say something to me, I'll look at her and just look away without saying a word. I thought that would get the point across but this one is persistant lol. Funny, it seems like the girls who you try your hardest to make them lose interest in you keeps going at you while when it comes to the attractive girls it's one mistake and your in the friend zone.lol Just alittle fun fact. But I'm gonna try and take feelgood's advice next. Hopefully that will get me out this nightmare.