Dealing with this sh1t test

[BillyPilgrim]

Sounds like a lukewarm girl giving OP a shot. What's the date you have planned Bingo?

 

[Bigpapa]

Yea i’ve seen , heard and witnessed a lot of odd behaviours myself in my time and if i hadn’t slept with a lot of women i’d start to think i was going crazy

as men we really struggle to see the benefits of all this nonsense, ultimately we just want to get the broad on a date and smash her

looking at it from a female perspective i’d imagine it’s a bit of a rush to have a man dangling on a string , probably in some cases more of a rush than actually submitting and having sex with him


But honestly I’m not really sure what they get out of it when the man won’t play and ends up removing her from his interests quickly which is where this chick of mine is headed

I know Female dating strategies absolutely abhor men who fast next women trying to use them

I think a part of the female mind has the ultimate goal of have men running around drooling after them for months on end with absolutely nothing coming from it

you overthink

continue the banter Then tell her that you look forward to grab a coffee or whatever you guys agreed to. And ask her again the number

women also want to see solid interest from the guy, especially if they like him, not some guy who is not direct about his interest

the Correct frame is that you like her just that you are not sure about her and thus make her show you why she is a great girl to have around

 

[RobbyDog]

I DO NOT, DO NOT, follow/friend any woman on social media till after we’ve smashed. Helps weed out the attn wh0res.

 

[manfrombelow]

Approached a chick in the gym yesterday very attractive girl very responsive to my approach

1. Nice. You made a move. That's important.

Got her insta followed me back, I sent her some banter in the evening and arranged a date for Friday and she gave me the green light

2. What do you mean "green light"? You asked her out. Her response should have been either a "yes" or "no".

Replied this morning asking for her number and giving her details of the date

She just responds with some more banter , but no number ....... I haven't opened her message yet

Screams sh1t test to me and she seems the type to use them

Seems a little premature to hard next her at this stage though ?

Just wondering how you lot would proceed as I think I currently have HB blinkers stuck on and can't think clearly ?

3. Well, you asked her out. Anything but a "yes" means NO. Wait a week and then ask her out again, if she still doesn't give you a Yes for an answer you know she's genuinely not interested and you can forget all about her.

 

[pipeman84]

I asked for her insta because I wanted to check her out , I agree in this case it probably would have been better to go for the number

But we live and learn

Was very happy with the approach and her response so will take confidence from that

This was her

Is that a full back tattoo on her spine?
She looks like an IG hoe who probably has a rotation of guys and you're not at the top.

 

[manfrombelow]

Is that a full back tattoo on her spine?
She looks like an IG hoe who probably has a rotation of guys and you're not at the top.

She looks like the typical Instawh0re so no surprise OP is simping over her.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Woke up this morning with clearer vision

This chicks a playa and enjoys male attention there's too many red flags to proceed and I feel like I am / going to have my time wasted

Also think she realised I wasn't going to chase her string she didn't like me being c0cky with her and got sassy

I literally don't have time to play these games this chicks dominated almost 2 days as it is

removed her on insta , will ignore in the gym if I see her again

Initial Approach went well and I Will take confidence from it

Will probably avoid instagram interactions with cold appraoche's in future and stick to calls / texts

 

[Murk]

You coulda waited until Friday, literally play it cool until then. I tell my good friend this all the time, stop messaging them and go about your business.

However, refusing to give her number is a giant red flag in favour of not being interested in you rather than playing games. I don't know any girls that were interested in me and refused to give the digits. Cmon bruh.

She looks good though, built like Mewtwo, well done on the approach.

 

[Bigpapa]

You coulda waited until Friday, literally play it cool until then. I tell my good friend this all the time, stop messaging them and go about your business.

However, refusing to give her number is a giant red flag in favour of not being interested in you rather than playing games. I don't know any girls that were interested in me and refused to give the digits. Cmon bruh.

She looks good though, built like Mewtwo, well done on the approach.

how is this any different than a girl wanting to go for dinner for the first time, to gauge your interest level?

the more traditional the girl is, the more she will want for you to put a show at the beginning

there are opposite things that you guys want, her to accept the lowest form of investment from your end while also being traditional and feminine. These 2 things are opposite of each other

This line of thinking that is here is just auto rejection from your end in order to preserve your ego

ego is really bad thing in all matters of life

if you knew that you are the man, you would find these type of games from women end silly and cute, as you will not really think that she Has a hidden agenda

in the moment you look through much at these type of things, that is the moment when you start showing weakness ( especially if you like the girl )

in OPs case he either does not really like the girl that much, he either is too jaded from dating and does not want to bruise his ego even more. But the gimmick used by the girl worked smoothly as from her end he either showed that he is not as a man as he looks like, either he is not that interested

 

[Murk]

how is this any different than a girl wanting to go for dinner for the first time, to gauge your interest level?

the more traditional the girl is, the more she will want for you to put a show at the beginning

there are opposite things that you guys want, her to accept the lowest form of investment from your end while also being traditional and feminine. These 2 things are opposite of each other

This line of thinking that is here is just auto rejection from your end in order to preserve your ego

ego is really bad thing in all matters of life

if you knew that you are the man, you would find these type of games from women end silly and cute, as you will not really think that she Has a hidden agenda

in the moment you look through much at these type of things, that is the moment when you start showing weakness ( especially if you like the girl )

in OPs case he either does not really like the girl that much, he either is too jaded from dating and does not want to bruise his ego even more. But the gimmick used by the girl worked smoothly as from her end he either showed that he is not as a man as he looks like, either he is not that interested

I'm confused as your post doesn't relate to what I've said. I said he shouldn't have rejected her so quickly, but that her refusing to give her number is low interest.

If you want to play games and waste your time messaging chicks on Instagram that's fine, do you. I prefer to be direct and understand that refusing to give me basic info like a phone number, from someone I have met IRL already, is low interest. She was clearly looking for fans/orbiters.

 

[Murk]

arranged a date for Friday and she gave me the green light

Also, the above clearly didn't take place.

You: "Maybe we should meet up Friday
Her: "Sure"

...is NOT arranging, confirming or green lighting a date. It's wishy washy, a suggestion at best.

 

[Bingo-Player]

You coulda waited until Friday, literally play it cool until then. I tell my good friend this all the time, stop messaging them and go about your business.

However, refusing to give her number is a giant red flag in favour of not being interested in you rather than playing games. I don't know any girls that were interested in me and refused to give the digits. Cmon bruh.

She looks good though, built like Mewtwo, well done on the approach.

I saw little point in dragging the escapade out until Friday

for whatever reason between Monday and Tuesday her attitude changed and she decided she wanted to start playing,

Once she decided this the frame changed and everything from that stage became a " shoulda , wudda , cuddda" and women engineer these scenarios so that the end game is too have the man chasing their string

As someone else mentioned the value exchange is attention tokens for the potential of sex,

you provide attention and she provides compliance up until you have sex

She stopped complying , I stopped providing attention

game over we move on with our lives