dealing with psycho ex

[ink_wizard]

Hey guys,
so im just writing to see how you guys have dealt with ex's who are psycho?

Things have gotten way out of hand, she completely hates me and is going around rubbishing me and now rubbishing our sex life to all her friends and all over the internet worse enough....She calls me every name under the sun and calls me/txts me going fu*king crazy at me.

She knows that im seeing a new girl to which she always bags it out saying "yuck and ew" but yet she's apparently already had her "rebound sex" and is dating some one else which really hurts but what do i do.

Why is she carrying on like this? does she really hate me this much or is she just hurting and its her way of dealing with things?? i have gone complete NC, but i guess down the track i'd still like us to be civil, am i doing the right thing?

Thanks for the help! much apreciated!

 

[Johnnyventana]

Stay NC. Let her burn herself out. Don't feed the fire. Also, she certainly does not act like she's over you. Let her make a fool out of herself while you stay above the fray. You'll look good, she'll look bitter and weak and as your title says, psycho. She wants you to react. Don't.

 

[ink_wizard]

i know and ive officially gone NC today, ive deleted her number, her fb and her blogging websites which is where she is rubbishing me the most. i will admitt i do react and give it back to her which only made it worse and i realize the error in that but i did it out of hurt and anger.

I dont know why she is behaving like this? i dont know why she feels the need to bag me out and our sex life to the whole world? and the thing that hurts the most is she already has someone and its only been a month since our break up....ive tried many times to talk to her civily but she just acts psycho and tells to me "fu*k off and that she is over me bla bla"

 

[marmel75]

She obviously is not over you and apparently is a psycho...congratulations on getting out while you still could.

 

[ink_wizard]

so i guess just keep the NC and move on? will she ever come around or does she "hate" me too much?

 

[Johnnyventana]

I'm not sure why you want her to come around.

In any case, this is like a 3 year old tantrum. Let her go crazy, without your help, and when she no longer is getting a reaction from you, and she finally calms down, she may come around. But hopefully she just shuts up about you and leaves you alone. She's bad news.

 

[ink_wizard]

i think i more want us to be civil then anything, and apparently im the "worst ex ever" :/ it just hurts thats all

 

[Johnnyventana]

It's understandable to want to be civil. Except your not the one being uncivil.

She's literally trowing a tantrum. Expending all this energy pretending she hates you. Let her. Do nothing. She may snap out of it. She may not. She has issues. That's not your responsibility to fix.

 

[ink_wizard]

yeah i know that. I also feel like the biggest cu*t for ending things like that and i cant forgive myself enough and theres so many days where i feel like i cant take it anymore.....But ive tried apologizing millions of times to no avail...in a way i feel like i made the biggest mistake :/