Drewskie said:
Waddup gents? I haven't posted here in a while, but I am back looking for a bit of advice from my fellow "mature men". Lately I have been feeling envious of other guys, particularly guys I know who are in the "community", especially the younger guys. I am referring to the ones that have gotten very successful in a short amount of time, the ones that come around for a few months, then disappear because they no longer need help or info, or techniques, etc. I feel like I missed out, having not found the community much earlier, even moreso that I wasn't born a ladies man. I hear a stories of friends or acquaintances doing things I wish i would have done back in the day. I try not to give a 5hit, but I really can't help but be bothered by other guys' successes with women, and I feel as though the prime time is behind me. Have you guys dealt with this before? How did you get over it? Thank you.
Great question. I've felt the same way and still do at times. The other posters gave solid advice.
Remember that it's every man for himself. Does that ladies man give two sh*ts about you? Of course not. So please don't waste one second worrying about him. Focus on yourself and what is realistic for you.
Of course I'll see some hot tall smooth young guy pull some amazing a*s that I could never pull in 1000 years, but it makes no sense to hold myself to that SAME standard. If you are learning golf as a hobby, should you compare yourself to Tiger Woods? No, you can't.
On the other hand, if I met a cute interesting lady (even with average looks), but we have fun and hook up, I had a great night.
By all means do the self-improvement stuff so you gradually get better, but you can only do what is realistic for you RIGHT NOW.
I totally understand how it hurts to feel like you "missed out." I get that too, but I didn't know in my teens and early to late 20s (about women and "game") what I know now. There was no way I COULD have known. The Community was in its infancy and/or didn't exist, plus my dad and friends never told me sh*t about women. (I'm not sure they knew either.) Like the other poster said, you did the best you could at the time.
But going forward, feel free to be a little selfish and focus on YOU. Do what is fun and realistic and interesting to YOU. I still get hit with envy sometimes, but I'm working hard to snap myself out of it immediately because it serves no purpose. Your successes might be more or less than other guys', but you should still enjoy them and be proud of them because they are YOURS. You earned it, nobody else.