Dealing with a crazy female via text.

[SamTheHobit]

This came literally out of no were. Thought is was funny so I'm sharing.


http://imgur.com/a/2vOhY


Comments. Thoughts. How would you guys have handled it?

 

[TheCWord]

Conversation should have stopped at 2:32pm, after that you're just taking the bait. I shudder to think how long that text conversation goes on for.

You're 19 so you can be forgiven for getting roped into drama over text and having stupid conversations... but I know you've read enough material on here to be better than that.

EDIT: Oh ****, I stopped reading after the first picture, I didn't realize there were more. Are you kidding me, dude? You study this site and that's how you handle things? Oh buddy... Get your **** together.

 

[TheGambino]

Not good, u showed her you care that she has a boyfriend and its not you. either way u answer what are you talking about? and then answer ok or something and just ignore her or asnwer but DONT mention her boyfriend or 'us' or 'we' or that she is less then you. Just act like shes talking nonsense. So you answer something like: I say whatever I want to say, thats it, be nice, charmfull, respectful. If she likes it ok if she doenst bye! next

 

[TheCWord]

I went back and read it all and I take it back - I can actually tell you read the stuff on SoSuave. Because you sound like one of the bitter idiots on here with your whole, "Don't expect preferential treatment because you're a woman." Are you PlayHerMan or SamTheHobit?

Listen, dude - PlayHerMan has serious issues that appear to be related to his father, so he comes by his anger towards women naturally. When I read your texts there, I don't feel that you actually believe what you're writing. You're just trying to emulate some of the **** you read on here. You are not a natural jerk, so stop pretending to be one.

This site has a lot of great advice about how to take care of yourself, stop chasing women, maintain a strong frame, etc... but what can sometimes be lost is the fact that you still have to treat women with respect, the same way that you'd treat any human being.

You really have to grow up, man. You're 19 and can have a really bright future. Or you could be one of the guys still posting here in their sixties. It's up to you.

 

[DonGorgon]

Conversation should have stopped at 2:32pm, after that you're just taking the bait. I shudder to think how long that text conversation goes on for.

You're 19 so you can be forgiven for getting roped into drama over text and having stupid conversations... but I know you've read enough material on here to be better than that.

EDIT: Oh ****, I stopped reading after the first picture, I didn't realize there were more. Are you kidding me, dude? You study this site and that's how you handle things? Oh buddy... Get your **** together.

im not even going to read it cause i already know the deal.. in these situations its up to the ,ale to stop the bs cause females feed off bs interactions

 

[Iceberg]

Conversation should have stopped at 2:32pm, after that you're just taking the bait. I shudder to think how long that text conversation goes on for.

You're 19 so you can be forgiven for getting roped into drama over text and having stupid conversations... but I know you've read enough material on here to be better than that.

EDIT: Oh ****, I stopped reading after the first picture, I didn't realize there were more. Are you kidding me, dude? You study this site and that's how you handle things? Oh buddy... Get your **** together.

Everything that TheCWord said.

How would I have handled this situation? By not getting involved.

You're not going to get anywhere by telling a woman that she "Doesn't deserve preferential treatment just because you're a woman." Yes, it's true. But it's not something that needs to be said VERBALLY. It's just something to keep in mind when dealing with women.

 

[PlayHer Man]

This came literally out of no were. Thought is was funny so I'm sharing.


http://imgur.com/a/2vOhY


Comments. Thoughts. How would you guys have handled it?

Ultimately its all about your goal with the girl. But when she said: "Why should I initiate?" it became clear she was entitled. Not a surprise.

Is this a girl you already f*cked? If not.. you're texting her more than you should be.

I went back and read it all and I take it back - I can actually tell you read the stuff on SoSuave. Because you sound like one of the bitter idiots on here with your whole, "Don't expect preferential treatment because you're a woman." Are you PlayHerMan or SamTheHobit?

Listen, dude - PlayHerMan has serious issues that appear to be related to his father, so he comes by his anger towards women naturally. When I read your texts there, I don't feel that you actually believe what you're writing. You're just trying to emulate some of the **** you read on here. You are not a natural jerk, so stop pretending to be one.

You really have to grow up, man. You're 19 and can have a really bright future. Or you could be one of the guys still posting here in their sixties. It's up to you.

Who are you his mother? :crackup: :crackup:

There are some men in their 50's and 60's who post here. SO WHAT? Whats wrong with that?

I guess you are part of that group of men who believe any man who doesn't "settle down" with a wife has failed at life.

I always wonder about the men who get mad when people post success stories here. Especially when that man was less than kind to a female and it paid off. This seems to bother certain men (white knights) because deep down they want to believe that kissing ass and pandering is the key to a woman's heart and body.

 

[SamTheHobit]

Yeah you guys are right.

I shouldn't have replied I wasn't really thinking when I was sending those messages lol

I'm just sick of women's bullsh1t these days, and I'm becoming more prone to telling women to just fvck off.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

This came literally out of no were. Thought is was funny so I'm sharing.


http://imgur.com/a/2vOhY


Comments. Thoughts. How would you guys have handled it?

Overall, I thought you played it great. Might have changed a few things around, but overall, well done. I laughed, I've had quite a few text conversations that sounded the same. They initiate a text to start a fight and try to get an emotional response from you. They expect you to get mad and go on the defensive....which you don't and it backfires on them.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

Her: You just talk to me when you want something
Me: Was that meant for me
Her: Yup
Me:

That space with no words next to my name is me not texting her back, but picking up the phone and CALLING her instead. Why? Because TEXTING KILLS RELATIONSHIPS, and what you've responded with is a perfect example of this:

1. Things said during text can be taken a lot harsher than during a conversation. I've received text where, on the surface, it looked like the girl was being a hard-ass on me, but as soon as I called her up the girl actually sounded softer - almost like she was talking to a respectable authority figure - and we were able to calmly talk it out. Women can get bold on you and text rude ish to you that they wouldn't actually SAY in a one-on-one convo - so cut her off at the **** by picking up the phone instead.

2. She now has evidence of you being an a$$hole to you. Meaning (a) she can show it to her friends, which will further spread your reputation as someone who's insensitive, and (b) she can look back on it as evidence of you being verbally abusive to you should she start having second thoughts about being around you.

Also, you fell for the trap that you have to actually respond to everything a girl says to you. You don't. You could have just ignored her, then next time you saw her said "hey, btw, what was that text message all about?" Why dig yourself in deeper just to get the last word in? And, how many times has it been said on these boards that you logically trying to explain something to a woman isn't going to work when she's going off emotion? If she FEELS like you only hit her up when you want something, your logic isn't going to change that.

 

[Iceberg]

Overall, I thought you played it great. Might have changed a few things around, but overall, well done. I laughed, I've had quite a few text conversations that sounded the same. They initiate a text to start a fight and try to get an emotional response from you. They expect you to get mad and go on the defensive....which you don't and it backfires on them.

I guess I just believe that this was one of those "I really gave them a piece of my mind!" moments where it makes you feel good to yell at the person, but it achieves nothing.

Telling a girl - "You don't deserve preferential treatment just because you're a girl" isn't going to change anything. It's not going to change her interactions with men. It's not going to change her opinion of the OP. She's not gonna wake up the next morning thinking, "You know what?! He's right. I DON'T deserve preferential treatment."

So when given the choice between ignoring a girl who's begging for drama, or "blowing off some steam" by addressing the drama head-on, I'd rather choose ignoring. Because the fact that I even was forced to engage in an argument is a victory for the girl.

But ultimately, the situation doesn't matter one way or the other. It's some random chick. Plenty more where that came from.

 

[PlayHer Man]

Good God.. too many pathetic beta posts here for me to even respond to. I'll just pick this one:

not texting her back, but picking up the phone and CALLING her instead. Why? Because TEXTING KILLS RELATIONSHIPS, and what you've responded with is a perfect example of this:

1. Things said during text can be taken a lot harsher than during a conversation. I've received text where, on the surface, it looked like the girl was being a hard-ass on me, but as soon as I called her up the girl actually sounded softer - almost like she was talking to a respectable authority figure - and we were able to calmly talk it out. Women can get bold on you and text rude ish to you that they wouldn't actually SAY in a one-on-one convo - so cut her off at the **** by picking up the phone instead.

So what? If a girl is going to lose all interest/attraction because of one silly text message.. then f*ck her. This is why we spin plates.

Like I say almost every day --> If you ever FEAR losing a woman you are a faggot. Never fear. Be a f*cking man. Sh!t..

2. She now has evidence of you being an a$$hole to you. Meaning (a) she can show it to her friends, which will further spread your reputation as someone who's insensitive, and (b) she can look back on it as evidence of you being verbally abusive to you should she start having second thoughts about being around you.

Again.. so what? Why should a man walk on eggshells around females because they might "tell their friends" something. Who cares what her dizzy brain-dead friends think/say/do? :crackup:

Never fear women. Be a f*cking man.

Pathetic.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

I guess I just believe that this was one of those "I really gave them a piece of my mind!" moments where it makes you feel good to yell at the person, but it achieves nothing.

Telling a girl - "You don't deserve preferential treatment just because you're a girl" isn't going to change anything. It's not going to change her interactions with men. It's not going to change her opinion of the OP. She's not gonna wake up the next morning thinking, "You know what?! He's right. I DON'T deserve preferential treatment."

It's letting her know that she doesn't deserve special treatment from him. Sure she'll get it from plenty of chumps out there.

So when given the choice between ignoring a girl who's begging for drama, or "blowing off some steam" by addressing the drama head-on, I'd rather choose ignoring. Because the fact that I even was forced to engage in an argument is a victory for the girl.

Ignoring is definitely one option. But where do you go from there? Wait for her to text and apologize? What if she doesn't? She just keeps spewing and throwing daggers?

1. Things said during text can be taken a lot harsher than during a conversation. I've received text where, on the surface, it looked like the girl was being a hard-ass on me, but as soon as I called her up the girl actually sounded softer - almost like she was talking to a respectable authority figure - and we were able to calmly talk it out.

I understand this but that's stepping close to the line of rewarding her for her retarded behavior.

2. She now has evidence of you being an a$$hole to you. Meaning (a) she can show it to her friends, which will further spread your reputation as someone who's insensitive, and (b) she can look back on it as evidence of you being verbally abusive to you should she start having second thoughts about being around you.

I see this very differently. She has evidence of him STANDING UP FOR HIMSELF AND NOT FALLING FOR HER WHINY *****Y BEHAVIOR. Did he call her any names? Did he do any personal attacks?? No, she was the one who did those things. He acted like a man. All he did was point out the facts....SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND. So WTF? Is she really going to make a big deal about some guy that she's CHEATING ON HER BOYFRIEND WITH?? Is she really going to bring that up to her friends and complain that he's not paying enough attention to her? Even so. Good, he acted like he had some fvcking balls.....maybe she'll show one of the virgens on campus and the poor guy can finally get laid.

 

[Iceberg]

It's letting her know that she doesn't deserve special treatment from him. Sure she'll get it from plenty of chumps out there.

Yes, but I feel that the action of ignoring her speaks more loudly than words telling her that she doesn't get preferential treatment from me.

Eh, I mean, I understand it's a philosophical disagreement or whatever. Don't mean to drag this out any longer.

Ignoring is definitely one option. But where do you go from there? Wait for her to text and apologize? What if she doesn't? She just keeps spewing and throwing daggers?

If she just keeps throwing daggers, then it amounts to a temper tantrum. And considering that in this situation, we're talking about a girl who SamtheHobbit hasn't banged, then why try to "fix" her? Some random chick can throw all the temper tantrums she wants. I'm not dealing with that sh!t. Let her reach out to me when she's acting normal.

I guess my point is - If I'm not banging this girl...If I'm not dating this girl....then why does she matter? If I'm in this situation, I'm not thinking, "Oh man, I gotta stand up for myself." I'm thinking "Damn, how did this girl who has no purpose in my life get so angry at me? I didn't even know we were on that level."

I think the OP is around 19 years old. So this whole situation sounds appropriate for that age group. But once I got past college, I developed the mindset of - If I haven't at least banged the girl, I damn sure won't waste a minute arguing with her. Too busy to waste time trying to "send a message" to people who I probably won't remember 5 months from now anyway. You know what I mean?

Ultimately, a girl who's flipping out on me before we've even seen each other naked isn't a girl who I'm gonna date anyway. So not only would I not argue with the girl, I'd probably just flat-out stop talking to her.

 

[instantnoodles]

@Cword - yeah it shouldn't matter who is bitter and why.

You have a point, but then again, you cant change a bitter person. To be honest, I have pessimistic views of both genders - male and female. But I hate neither. I can understand why people would have negative views females and this is something I see in real life.
I don't like most girls.

Anger doesn't mean hate. Hate doesn't mean anger. And bitter doesn't mean hate or anger.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Anger doesn't mean hate. Hate doesn't mean anger. And bitter doesn't mean hate or anger.

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by instantnoodles

If she just keeps throwing daggers, then it amounts to a temper tantrum. And considering that in this situation, we're talking about a girl who SamtheHobbit hasn't banged, then why try to "fix" her? Some random chick can throw all the temper tantrums she wants. I'm not dealing with that sh!t. Let her reach out to me when she's acting normal. .

You're right about a few things, and I can appreciate the whole ignoring deal. But, to further the relationship, sometimes they just need to be put in their place. "Sure, go ahead and act that way around other people, but it's not going to fly with me babe." That's all he's saying. Making a statement. She still may go all nutty but, hey, now he knows. Or, she may get the clue, then get weak in the knees, and proceed to let him know she "appreciates" him.

Bottom line of his message: "don't send me random stupid fvcking texts whenever you get a random thought and decide to be pissed off about it. My time and energy is worth more than that. I'm not going to put up with it."