Dealbreaker or no? Me I am out

[exhausted]

The thing is, it's not in her DNA. The excess of bad behaviors is learned. But even if it was in her DNA, you can do things a better way. It's in our DNA to take a crap in the woods but I prefer to use a toilet and don't plan on reverting back to that.

Really, women know how they should behave. That's why the majority put on an act when they're in a new relationship. They pretend to be sweet and polite, etc,etc. If they didn't know how they are supposed to behave they wouldn't be able to put on the act (your brain has to have a point of reference to go by in order to imagine or pretend anything... ).

Agreed.
However the more comfortable then the more the unstable emotions come flying out due to bipolar disorder.

I have never had a girl like this screaming at me calling me names, tell me she hates me and then 2 hours later askes to come over or send me the most heart felt message about how she loves me with all her being.....
And there have been at least 25 episodes like this in 3 years and these are undeserved, i wasnt out all night, or talking to girls or anything, the girl was just not getting what she wanted when she wanted and it drove her crazy.
Always breaking things off and trying to get back together immediatley.
Why is it so hard to be normal?
Be mad at me when i deserve it, be nice to me when i deserve it.

 

[exhausted]

I was wondering how long it would be until her true motivations showed up. Never look back.

Yep. She wanted to move in and i was not on board because she didnt show me she would be helpful. I dont want a slave but i expect if a woman moves in she will be cooking throughout the week and helping around the house. Instead she refused to cook for me for a year except once, and didnt show what i needed, add in she is emotioanally unstable. Instead of veing wonderful to where i would be begging her not to leave she didnt do ****. Made me Think she isnt wife material. Well i will never get married so not live in material.

 

[exhausted]

You would be SHOCKED if you knew how many women, especially single mothers, have a career plan that consists of:

Find good, decent, trusting man
Move in
Get him supporting you and the kids
Feel free to get lazy, and stop sex but demand more. ALWAYS demand more!
Let his assets grow, crack that whip to keep him pulling the cart.
If a better workhorse comes along............switch wagons.

Yep.
One thing tho the sex would continue because it just got better and better. I taught her a lot and the connection was ridiculous. She mentioned many times she doesnt want to lose that with me.
Regardless, like over a month ago she mentioned half kidding but serious she wanted to quit her job and could move in and stay home and cook and i take care of them.
I said ugh noooo.

 

[exhausted]

Exactly bro. You just know these moms will never handle a relationship. In fact, most women are garbage, and like Corey Wayne says, look at their father figure before deciding the relationship route. We gotta draw a line and grow our d1cks back out

That is a good point about moms will never be able to handle a relationship because the kid isnt ours so she will always revolve the relationship around the kid, which is appropriate in some cases but not all. Everything with us will be dictated by someone else's kid, she is too dumb to realize how lucky she is and appreciate anything. Tho she will when the next guy is kicking her kid around and mean to it.

Add into the fact she has constant stress from the ex which gets thrown to our relationship and harms it half the time.

Wow these single moms are just disturbingly clueless how to behave.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Yep. She wanted to move in and i was not on board because she didnt show me she would be helpful. I dont want a slave but i expect if a woman moves in she will be cooking throughout the week and helping around the house. Instead she refused to cook for me for a year except once, and didnt show what i needed, add in she is emotioanally unstable. Instead of veing wonderful to where i would be begging her not to leave she didnt do ****. Made me Think she isnt wife material. Well i will never get married so not live in material.

Dude, she would've got up in there with you and not lifted a finger. She was expecting you to take care of her...

 

[exhausted]

Dude, she would've got up in there with you and not lifted a finger. She was expecting you to take care of her...

Absolutely, I even told her this about a month or two ago as she was bitching it has been so long and we dont live together. First I told her she is always unstable , mad and bailing to get back together immediately, which is a waste of stress, and secondly she doesn't do anything to where I would feel like she is helping out. She says it was because she was mad and not getting her way to move in haha. I told her what her nephew said about his gf, that she did so much **** for him he wouldnt dare let her leave him or move out...I told her to take note it makes sense. Too lazy for sure. and Bipolar, diagnosed bipolar numerous times, refused to take meds, thought she was fine half the time or just couldnt handle stress well. The girl would flip over nothing and act foolish beyond imagination...

 

[PantyWhisperer]

The thing is, it's not in her DNA. The excess of bad behaviors is learned. But even if it was in her DNA, you can do things a better way. It's in our DNA to take a crap in the woods but I prefer to use a toilet and don't plan on reverting back to that.

Really, women know how they should behave. That's why the majority put on an act when they're in a new relationship. They pretend to be sweet and polite, etc,etc. If they didn't know how they are supposed to behave they wouldn't be able to put on the act (your brain has to have a point of reference to go by in order to imagine or pretend anything... ).

I wanted to pull this point out on this thread and highlight it because it brings up a key point in relationships. And it goes both ways, to a degree. We all know how we're supposed to act with other people and early on in that interaction, we mind our p's and q's, but as soon as we're more comfortable, we drop a lot of those courtesies. True of romantic relationships, friendships, new job with new boss and co-workers, etc. So we all KNOW how to behave, yet somehow we think once someone gets to know us, it's okay to not behave as well. It's like tenure for professors - we start farting in bed because we think we can't be fired, but we can. Imagine the difference in how you acted during your job interview with your boss and compare it to how you act now. I don't mean to say that we all have to live with our buttcheeks tightly closed in perpetuity, to continue the farting metaphor, but how much of relaxing into a non-audition mode of behavior is too much?
We've all had women show us one face early on, only to shapeshift into something totally different and scary later on. I imagine pretending to be not insane, when you clearly are insane, has to be pretty exhausting.

 

[Aristippus]

"all she worried about was what i was doing for her and her daughter"

And THAT is the problem. So many women want a relationship where the giving is one-sided. Instead of her thinking about what she can do for her man to make him happy and to take care of her kid. Many women leave the man out of the equation. These kinds of women are parasites. Unfortunately there are a lot of them out there.

As far as getting into shape, even if you've let yourself go a little, if you exercise for 20 minutes a day for 3 months you will notice a difference.

 

[exhausted]

I wanted to pull this point out on this thread and highlight it because it brings up a key point in relationships. And it goes both ways, to a degree. We all know how we're supposed to act with other people and early on in that interaction, we mind our p's and q's, but as soon as we're more comfortable, we drop a lot of those courtesies. True of romantic relationships, friendships, new job with new boss and co-workers, etc. So we all KNOW how to behave, yet somehow we think once someone gets to know us, it's okay to not behave as well. It's like tenure for professors - we start farting in bed because we think we can't be fired, but we can. Imagine the difference in how you acted during your job interview with your boss and compare it to how you act now. I don't mean to say that we all have to live with our buttcheeks tightly closed in perpetuity, to continue the farting metaphor, but how much of relaxing into a non-audition mode of behavior is too much?
We've all had women show us one face early on, only to shapeshift into something totally different and scary later on. I imagine pretending to be not insane, when you clearly are insane, has to be pretty exhausting.

That is a good point. If a woman has the ability to control herself and take care of the relationship by treating it and her man special for the first year, then why does she stop doing that from that point on? Lazy, careless, fake, crazy, unhappy..??
One thing i have learned in life is that there is a reason for everything.
I'd say it is because they are being fake, putting on an act of fake sweetness and caring and being something better than they are.
Me , myself I am too lazy to put on an act, i naturally have a positive and strong demeanor.
As far as insane, hell yes it has to be exhausting as it is exhausting be around one that is insane, can fly off for any reason anytime.

 

[exhausted]

"all she worried about was what i was doing for her and her daughter"

And THAT is the problem. So many women want a relationship where the giving is one-sided. Instead of her thinking about what she can do for her man to make him happy and to take care of her kid. Many women leave the man out of the equation. These kinds of women are parasites. Unfortunately there are a lot of them out there.

As far as getting into shape, even if you've let yourself go a little, if you exercise for 20 minutes a day for 3 months you will notice a difference.

Yep.
She finally admitted she didn't do what was necessary.
I told her awhile back if she expects me to take care of her and her kid which isnt mine, why she isnt taking care of me in return to where i would give them my best?
See my problem was i was great from beginning to end she got lazy and found herself only complaining and looking out for herself.
Next thing she knew I was out.

Yes i have both a workout gym and boxing gym at my home. I have more time for it now.

 

[exhausted]

If she's a narcissist, what happened was you probably disappointed her in some way or insulted her fragile ego, for which she is not capable of forgiving you...mine got so angry and frustrated over the way I was able to forgive my ex because she knew she didnt have that capacity.

She definitely has princess syndrome due to being raised a spoiled brat. Her and her mom barely made it through childbirth so they raised her a brat.

And yes i disappointed her by not moving her in my house which is what she wanted this last year, tho never showed with actions what she would offer me.
We ended but for the last month she has been trying to get me back, i went NC on sat morning. Bipolar. Too much for me.

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