Deadly Serious. I HATE paying for EVERYTHING. Stop DATING???

[ShawnStJames]

I date a LOT, and contrary to the feminist movement, I pay for EVERYTHING. Women just assume that's how its done.

I HATE this. Every time i go ANYWHERE i spend 30 bucks.

Here's what ive started doing:
1. Plan hiking dates
2. Plan dates after lunch/dinner
3. Go to some cheap ass fast food place.

HOW can i meet a woman who wants to pay????????

 

[jlujan]

How come you are complaining about money and you live in Malibu, one of the most well off areas of rich southern california?

Me thinkz your not for real......

 

[Shiftkey]

After a few dates with the same woman I usually ask them to pay their half and they get the hint from there (assuming they didn't take any initiative). But I'm a poor college student who dates other poor college students who understand why I'm poor. I don't know about your situation and how women would react.

 

[TesuqueRed]

I mostly go with D'Angelos' take on this...

You got the first part right---plan action dates that don't have expences built in.

Finish the thought, then---most guys do "dates" that cost something up front when you should reverse it and do these things after a few months (or whenever) after you've been going out together for awhile---as in, real romance takes a little while, so save the romantic stuff for later, keep it special. Don't do it in the beginning---keep it light and fun and active, avoid the heavy romantic stuff till later.

I mangled some of that...

 

[Umbra]

I tease them and make them return large favors for small ones.

Couple of examples:

#1) A girl I met at a bar had drank too much. We were going to drive to her friend's house to continue partying with two other guys we had just met. I was DJing solo, by the way. Anyway, while we were all in my car, she was getting sick, so I stopped at my house, which was close. I got her water and she was at my toilet for about an hour. One of the guys we'd just met was really sleezy and kept trying to take advantage of her. Anyway, making the story a lot shorter, I got the two guys out of my house and got in touch with her friends to tell them to pick her up. That night could have gone very badly for her, and she and her friends were very grateful I behaved like a gentleman.
So, she invited me to her party a few nights ago. We flirted and kissed, and I kept teasing her about how long I had to clean up my bathroom. She kept apologizing, and I told her she'd have to make it up to me. She kept asking how, so I said she'd have to make dinner for me. I'm going to her place tonight with a bottle of chardonnay (not expensive).

#2) A girl from class didn't buy her book yet. So, she asked to use mine, so I drove out to her apartment complex to study and let her use my book. I was going to study anyway. While we were studying, she kept asking me questions. I kept teasing her, especially about how I not only had to let her use my book, but I had to drive it out to her, and then tutor her! I teased her about being a poor hostess, because I was thirsty. So, she even walked back to her apartment (we were in a study room at the guest house) to get money to buy me a coke from a vending machine. And then I told her she had to take me out to dinner. And when she gave me a surprised exclamation, I told her not to forget to pick me up. Oh, that was after I told her to open my bottle of coke for me. We're going out this Thursday night.

#3) I told this girl I've been seeing about how girls always take advantage of guys and use them for free stuff. She, of course, felt compelled to defend females. So, the last two times we went out for dinner, she paid without hesitation, even having the waiter sneak her the check.

Just be funny and girls will accept just about any outrageous behavior you can think of.

 

[diplomatic_lies]

Go to Maccas. You can grab a burger there for $3. Cheap enough for you?


If not, you could always do something fun, like hiking. I always hike near the Dandenongs, beautiful place. Just tell them you wont rape them in the wilderness and they'll be happy.

 

[BGMan]

Helpful hint...

Most of the time, I doesn't get past the first date (super pimps out there excluded, I suppose, but I'm not to that point yet).

So..........

My tactic is to have all my first dates in a coffee shop after lunch, when the girl doesn't feel like having anything to eat (sometimes I offer, but they always decline). I have a half-hour chat with them, and I don't spend jack.

As I said, since MOST girls won't go out with me a second time, I see it's an excellent way to keep the expenses down, if not the frustrations.

BGMan

 

[princelydeeds]

start inviting them to your place for a movie, cards, board game etc. always have a bottle of White zinfandel, I know its cheap but women love sweet wine, there is nothing worse than opening an expensive bottle of wine having a chick take one sip and not like the taste, So stick with the white Zin all chicks love it. plus they think they can drink alot of it wine loosens em up quickly. You can cook if you like, but have desert or coffee. its cheap and it puts them right in the place where you can get yours. it works if she likes you she will come over if she wont come over you probably aren't going to get her back to your place anyway.

 

[Canadian Idol]

If the girl doesnt offer to pay her part then I will pay for the first thing, such as if we are having a couple drinks then going for dinner or something I will suggest that I pay for the drinks and she can pay for dinner, this way it doesnt make it too obvious that I dont want to pay for everything and cuts your costs in half.

 

[Legend]

As I said, since MOST girls won't go out with me a second time, I see it's an excellent way to keep the expenses down, if not the frustrations

i'm having a hard time with that too......

 

[marqZAL]

I am used to not paying for many dates...I call up girl and say we should hang out...but I dont have any money...alot of times they say...thats ok Ill pay....easy enough...there times I do pay though, which isnt a big deal!!!

 

[OddTech]

I really believe that if you're still paying for everything after the third date, it is a red flag (or at least a big yellow flag). I have seen that these girls are really high maintenance and could give me headaches in the future (e.g., always complaining that I'm not a sugar daddy etc etc). Allen wrote an article that you should have a woman 'invest' her time/money in you. Check it out.

 

[Tryin to Grow a Chin]

Originally posted by diplomatic_lies
Just tell them you wont rape them in the wilderness and they'll be happy.

No, tell them you WILL rape them in the wilderness.

Never underestimate the power of GM.

 

[isotope]

learn to cook; cook dinner for her. if she isnt grateful sshes a *****