Dawson Hewes
Don Juan
In college, never been in a real relationship, socially awkward and terrified around women. So sick of this approach anxiety **** that I've decided to conquer it once and for all, so I've decided to start this journal ... purely for my own motivation. Hopefully I'll be able to keep with it.
Last August when I got back to school was great ... I approached almost more girls in two weeks than I have in my entire life (30 or so). Approach anxiety plummeted. But then a week passed ... **** ... and my lazy ass sat in my room all day. I can't let that happen again.
So, I'm going to basically make it impossible for me to fail. If I don't update this thing every day, then you need to call me out on it, call me a *****, etc.
I still haven't figured out exactly how to do this. I'm going to be working day game. I've heard that the hours between 1 and 5 PM are the best for approaching girls in everyday situations. And I have NEVER approached a girl outside of a school setting ... that has to change.
Things that I really need to improve on:
-Approaching a girl with other people around. I'm afraid that other people with hear my conversation and watch me get blown out. I've noticed, however, that the fear goes away the more you talk to women.
-Kino. I don't touch people. I never have, and the only time I've ever used kino was when I was drunk.
-Talking to ugly girls. Yes, this is a problem ... I have bad eyesight and sometimes accidentally approach ugly girls. Luckily, I've learned to open with something neutral and THEN look at their face.
-Older women. I'm afraid of opening women in public places besides school because I'm afraid they'll be older, married, and it will be awkward. Got to improve on this.
-Expression: Perhaps my biggest problem. Don't smile too much and I never put much enthusiasm into what I say, even if I'm enthusiastic about something ... go figure. I have noticed that approaching girls in rapid succession takes care of this easily.
Right now, my tentative plan for tomorrow is to find three public places to approach women in, and chat up a girl in each place. At the end of the conversation (if there is one) I'm going to either ask for the # or a date. If I do not attempt to close, then it does not count as an approach.
My opener for tomorrow: "Are you single?" Yes, I know it's crappy, but I'm going to be nervous as f*ck tomorrow, and it's better than nothing.
Would really appreciate any tips yall have. I wrote this post pretty hastily and I'll probably add more to it later, but that's all for now fellas.
Last August when I got back to school was great ... I approached almost more girls in two weeks than I have in my entire life (30 or so). Approach anxiety plummeted. But then a week passed ... **** ... and my lazy ass sat in my room all day. I can't let that happen again.
So, I'm going to basically make it impossible for me to fail. If I don't update this thing every day, then you need to call me out on it, call me a *****, etc.
I still haven't figured out exactly how to do this. I'm going to be working day game. I've heard that the hours between 1 and 5 PM are the best for approaching girls in everyday situations. And I have NEVER approached a girl outside of a school setting ... that has to change.
Things that I really need to improve on:
-Approaching a girl with other people around. I'm afraid that other people with hear my conversation and watch me get blown out. I've noticed, however, that the fear goes away the more you talk to women.
-Kino. I don't touch people. I never have, and the only time I've ever used kino was when I was drunk.
-Talking to ugly girls. Yes, this is a problem ... I have bad eyesight and sometimes accidentally approach ugly girls. Luckily, I've learned to open with something neutral and THEN look at their face.
-Older women. I'm afraid of opening women in public places besides school because I'm afraid they'll be older, married, and it will be awkward. Got to improve on this.
-Expression: Perhaps my biggest problem. Don't smile too much and I never put much enthusiasm into what I say, even if I'm enthusiastic about something ... go figure. I have noticed that approaching girls in rapid succession takes care of this easily.
Right now, my tentative plan for tomorrow is to find three public places to approach women in, and chat up a girl in each place. At the end of the conversation (if there is one) I'm going to either ask for the # or a date. If I do not attempt to close, then it does not count as an approach.
My opener for tomorrow: "Are you single?" Yes, I know it's crappy, but I'm going to be nervous as f*ck tomorrow, and it's better than nothing.
Would really appreciate any tips yall have. I wrote this post pretty hastily and I'll probably add more to it later, but that's all for now fellas.