You guys are being too hard on this guy. He did not "legit stalk" her. That would be following her to her house and hanging out in the bushes. Yes of course, I'd advise approaching immediately, but just stop with the over the top stuff.
He said he followed her for 20 seconds before making an approach. That's not even one city block. That's like 20 footsteps at slow walking speed. He didn't follow her for blocks and blocks. Unless I misread something. It was hard to understand his writing.
He's just trying to catch up with her without running and/or he's waiting for the right time. He's also likely suffering from "spotlight effect" and trying to get his nerve up at the same time. He doesn't want others to hear his rejection, which is the spotlight effect, so he's waiting for his opening.
Obviously, it's best to approach immediately upon seeing her, but I've seen plenty of dating infields from many youtubers where they are waiting for a light to change ect before making the approach or they followed a girl from the street into a store because they couldn't reach her in time on the street.
Also, if you see a girl across the street, you have to "follow" her and walk across the street to make the approach. Are you saying you should only approach women who are walking towards you? What if a woman walks from the main corridor of a mall into a store? Can you not "follow" her into the store to say hello? This is getting a little ridiculous.
That being said, try to do your street approaches during the day if you can and as quick as possible make the approach.
THANKS GOD, FINALLY. Someone who understands me from the beginning. It was only my first approach in the streets, it looked like I had done hundreds of approaches in this way lol.
Yea, you are right in everything. People have to put themselves in my situation. It was the first approach, without experience there, in the night... with a very risky opener, a little nervous thinking in the reaction/outcome, and then the most hated thing for me, THE PPL around. BUT I DID IT, even if it seemed an interested girl, but you have to do it with all the previous factors.
I must say, that day I had like 3 or 4 good chances to approach other quite interested girls. And that day I just wanted to do finally an approach (if an opportunity presented itself while I was going to the center of the city for shopping), but in a funny way trying new things after wasting a lot of opportunities in the past.
All these situations were with the girls walking in the opposite direction (at night):
The 1º held my eye for 2-3seconds and when I turned back (because I finally decided to approach her), she was a little far from me, when I was reaching her a guy appeared near the girl then the girl just went into a store. I Failed so I aborted the mission.
The 2º glanced at me like 3 times so, when I was thinking what to do, again I turned back and the girl had disappeared, then I found her but she was talking with the phone... I failed again. I was thinking in that moment "This cant be possible. What a bad luck".
The 3º looked at me 2 times while fixing her hair, it was in a very busy street, impossible to do an approach there with so many people.
The last one was the girl mentioned in the thread. When I saw the signal I was thinking (again) what to do but I said to myself "NOT THIS TIME". Turned back and I reached her after crossing 1.5 city blocks of walking, just in front of a pharmacy.
And yea I think its better to approach immediately and dont overthink. With thay way you avoid a lot of problems. You guys opened my eyes. I was overcomplicating the approaches.
Btw, I like the openers of
@oldmanofthesea but I am looking for some more. What direct/indirect openers would you suggest for me? It can be a crazy/funny opener like the one I used
Unless I misread something. It was hard to understand his writing.
Do I write so badly?
For me this thread is too helping me to improve my written English. Another thing is verbal English, you would laugh at me if you listen how I talk it lol.
Thanks again for the response!
