day after day after day

[hb]

every day nothing seems to change when it comes to my life.
I see every one around me changing though.
Things that used to make me happy dont make me happy anymore.
Kissing a girl doesnt have any effect on me, I dont get happy about girls anymore but i know im not gay.
I feel like i want more, but I dont know what i want.
I tell myself everyday that tommorow will be different but i know it wont change unless i do something about it.
THE PROBLEM IS, I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO OR HOW TO START.

My life isnt bad at all but i know it could be 10x better.

I got the girl i wanted, now i want the next one, but for some strange reason, i tell myself that if I get the next one, it'll make me happier. But i know this aint true, because once i get the next one, im probably gonna want the one after that.


just confusedddddd, what do you guys think? anyone got this problem?

 

[Trogdawg]

Chill buddy. You've gotten yourself into a routine. You are going to have to break it. Maybe you should back off of chicks for a while. It's like working out. Sometimes you reach a plateau and you have to switch up your game plan or take a break for a while.

Another thing might be that you need to look for a classy dame. One that sparks more than just sexual interest. You'll know what i'm talking about when you find one. Good luck.

 

[Legend]

Were you raised in a household of all women? I am not trying to be an a$$ i was just wondering.

Sure things seem like they are not changing, but things dont stay the same forever man. SO dont worry about it and keep doing the best you do can. You may not notice any changes but you are changing man....are you changing as long as you are doing new things and having new experiences.

Hang in there

 

[Reto]

I agree with the routine thing. That's where I'm at.

Same job. Same gym. Same friends. Same hang outs.

I belong to a private gym. I'm thinking of joining one of those big chains. Then I can go to different locations, meet different people, use different machines, etc. VARIETY.

If you own your own place, try renovations. I'm renovating my kitchen. It keeps me busy and will be completely new when I'm done.

You have to be active. Life won't change on it's own...

 

[NewMan]

Don't push things - they will happen in their own time.

It sounds like your trying to hard to make things happen.

Listen to yourself - what makes you happy - if your not finding it right now, then try new things. Change things up a little.

I went through this stage - then I got rid of the woman I was seeing - I was alone for a couple of months - just doing things that I wanted to do.....

That's the best receipe.

Perhaps you just need to be alone for a while and figur your sh#t out.

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

I had the same thing... I was more interested in the hunt than the prey itself... That is after I had sex with a girl I almost instantly lost any interest except as a FB once in a while... I've never really felt anything for a girl.

 

[myfriendblu]

You sound depressed. You might either suffer from SAD, which is seasonal depression which comes on in nov/december and lasts until march, or you might just have general all around depression. Its probably either one or the other. Depression is extremely common, it affects 1 in 5. Either you can live in denial and forget it, or go get treatment, its up to you.

 

[Jimbo2k]

Originally posted by myfriendblu
You sound depressed. You might either suffer from SAD, which is seasonal depression which comes on in nov/december and lasts until march, or you might just have general all around depression. Its probably either one or the other. Depression is extremely common, it affects 1 in 5. Either you can live in denial and forget it, or go get treatment, its up to you.

How can you give this diagnosis over the internet and with what info he gave?

 

[myfriendblu]

Originally posted by Jimbo2k
How can you give this diagnosis over the internet and with what info he gave?

1. Never gave a "Diagnosis"...just my opinion.

2. Im a ridiculously smart person and can tell alot about someone in a VERY short period of time. I can pretty much figure people out within a few minutes of convo and can figure out situations from a few written sentences. Its not all hard for me to do, it just comes natural. Not trying to brag, just being brutally honest

 

[FitnessGuy]

I don't think this has anything to do with your girlfriend or women in general.
Life is about balance, a girlfriend/wife is just part of that balance.
Do you work? Do you go to school? Do you have goals? What else do you enjoy doing? What haven't you done that you have always wanted to do but are too scared to try for whatever personal reason?

 

[hb]

U know what it really is, I feel as if i've wasted a few years of my life and i cant make them up, i cant go back in time and reverse things.

 

[Trogdawg]

"U know what it really is, I feel as if i've wasted a few years of my life and i cant make them up, i cant go back in time and reverse things."

Which you can't do. I have the same feeling about my high school experiences. If i could go back to being a freshman in high school i'd have done a lot of things different. Part of being a man, though, is understanding that the past cannot be rewritten. The only thing you can do with the past is learn from it and use those lessons in the future.

Here is a simple example. When you are driving you drive a lot better when you are looking ahead of you. When you look behind most of the time, bad things happen.

Use the lessons of your past and look forward. Keep on driving.

 

[FitnessGuy]

Originally posted by Trogdawg
...Part of being a man, though, is understanding that the past cannot be rewritten. The only thing you can do with the past is learn from it and use those lessons in the future....
...Use the lessons of your past and look forward.

Well said man.

 

[NatureGuy]

Yes, that was well said Trogdawg. Metallica addresses this in Frantic on their ST. Anger album.

 

[hb]

thank you for your replies guys, but the funny thing is, NO MATTER HOW MANY TIMES I TELL MYSELF IM GOING TO CHANGE AND THINGS ARE GOIN TO CHANGE. Some how (i really dont know why or how) They never do. U cant solve your problems without knowing what they are first, and there really isnt no right formula.

i guess that from now on im just going to start doing things that i never imagined i would.

 

[high desert dj]

Good idea .hb you could just be bored.