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Mbuckets82

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Been seeing this girl since October. I’m super busy with my kids and work, our schedules only mesh once a week so it hasn’t worked out a couple times. She’s 26, 1 child.

This time when I couldn’t hang out she sent me a text saying she’s looking to have a real relationship with one person, not little flings so I can scratch her off my list.
Prior to this she lived with a guy who cheated on her, devastated her.
So just let her be to see if she comes back?
 

RickTheToad

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Been seeing this girl since October. I’m super busy with my kids and work, our schedules only mesh once a week so it hasn’t worked out a couple times. She’s 26, 1 child.

This time when I couldn’t hang out she sent me a text saying she’s looking to have a real relationship with one person, not little flings so I can scratch her off my list.
Prior to this she lived with a guy who cheated on her, devastated her.
So just let her be to see if she comes back?
Raising a child on her own is hard. It's hard even with both parents in the same household. She's looking for a provider and a dude who will be at her beck and call. Why do you want to be that dude? You should had just replied, okay, if you want to hang out sometime, hit me up. Cheers.

Whatever you do now, don't chase. Let it be. That is where most dudes mess up.
 

Black Widow Void

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My suggested response to her is a bit long-winded, but if you like her - yet you want to avoid her attention getting mechanisms, this might work.

Her: I’m looking to have a real relationship with one person, not little flings so you can scratch me off your list.

You: Either you intended this message for a different man (as you know this clearly doesn't describe me) , or you are judging me by baggage from your past.

When you figure it out, it might be nice to see you again…but let’s not talk until you have.
 

SoSuave666

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My suggested response to her is a bit long-winded, but if you like her - yet you want to avoid her attention getting mechanisms, this might work.

Her: I’m looking to have a real relationship with one person, not little flings so you can scratch me off your list.

You: Either you intended this message for a different man (as you know this clearly doesn't describe me) , or you are judging me by baggage from your past.

When you figure it out, it might be nice to see you again…but let’s not talk until you have.
I don’t hate the response actually. I’d leave out the parenthetical but other than that not bad.
 

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Been seeing this girl since October. I’m super busy with my kids and work, our schedules only mesh once a week so it hasn’t worked out a couple times. She’s 26, 1 child.

This time when I couldn’t hang out she sent me a text saying she’s looking to have a real relationship with one person, not little flings so I can scratch her off my list.
Prior to this she lived with a guy who cheated on her, devastated her.
So just let her be to see if she comes back?
Yep let her be, and if you fuhked her good and you leave it on good terms she will be available for sex in the future when she hits a dry spell!
 

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Been seeing this girl since October. I’m super busy with my kids and work, our schedules only mesh once a week so it hasn’t worked out a couple times. She’s 26, 1 child.

This time when I couldn’t hang out she sent me a text saying she’s looking to have a real relationship with one person, not little flings so I can scratch her off my list.
As was said, she is looking for a guy to help her, a concierge, a dad to her son.

Prior to this she lived with a guy who cheated on her, devastated her.
That’s what she said.

Maybe she cheated on him and devastated him


Her: she’s looking to have a real relationship with one person, not little flings so I can scratch her off my list.
You: I didn’t know you were on my list. What is a real relationship?
 

Mbuckets82

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Been seeing this girl since October. I’m super busy with my kids and work, our schedules only mesh once a week so it hasn’t worked out a couple times. She’s 26, 1 child.

This time when I couldn’t hang out she sent me a text saying she’s looking to have a real relationship with one person, not little flings so I can scratch her off my list.
Prior to this she lived with a guy who cheated on her, devastated her.
So just let her be to see if she comes back?
Update: after asking questions about who she has in her life, like her alcohol addicted father, or bro in law that just got his 2nd dui after a drug trafficking conviction..she says maybe She’s not what I’m looking for and to let her be....all contact has ended.

i don’t get it. But I won’t contact her.
 

backseatjuan

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so I can scratch her off my list.
Red flag!

You see, when women have kids and no man they change their priorities. From wh0re they go to nice girl that gives sex on schudle. That btch is extremetly insecure and will go for anything that has a promise of ----------------------- provider guy.

Go ahead and fck off from this situation. I don't give a damn if you have kid of your own, find women without kids. Do it for your kid if not yourself.
 
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