Dating Young girl and getting dumped ?

Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.

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soulforge

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You are right, We man like challenge and somehow I do not want to give up. In past I have made such girls come back max within 2 weeks of NC because this is what they are not used to it- Being neglected. I was hoping for the same with this one, but it's been 3 weeks and no response hence turned up here asking suggestion.
Regarding your other questions, I do I pull up with these young girls, Guess it's easy. Give them what 20-25 years can't give them. Dress up well, carry a style, having a nice life style. They all need this . Anytime an young girl is always way mature than the guys of her age. If you mix your age with Fun and lively, they come to you, though not to stay too long.
Your over inflated ego will be your down fall..

This woman rejected you, and you can't take the rejection.. You feel the need now to chase, or think of some SCHEME where you can pull her back into your fold.

Is she quality ? NO

Is she GF material ? NO

Is she toxic? Yes

Is she deceitful? Yes

Put your ego back into check, otherwise you will go deeper into the rabbit hole with her!

Time to EJECT and use your time to find better quality woman!
 

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Advice from the old lady.

The guys are correct. You gotta check your ego. Relationship psychology 101 is that we want what we can't have...until we squelch the ego - master it - and gain the ability to screen people properly for a relationship.

Your ego right now wants this chick for her looks and her wild sex. But you can't build a relationship on those two things. You are best to avoid this girl. You have some oneitis for her, and you need to get over that. You also have a need for a bit of drama (many players do because the ease of getting laid constantly gets boring.), and this one both injured your ego & injected drama. You like that about her.

But it ain't healthy.

This chick also screwed you in a public place right out of the gate on first meet up. This shows lack of restraint and poor judgement. She is a party girl in her prime....and this is who she is. Upside? Freaky. Downside? Not trustworthy; not relationship material.

Around here you'll see a couple of themes. Here are two you need to consider:

1. Do not be "Captain Save-A-Ho"
2. You cannot make Ho into a Housewife.

I get that the excitement of meaningless sex has run its course. I'm dating a man much like you in that regard. You need to decide just what kind of characteristics you want in a girlfriend and look for those traits as you rotate through women. Your better women will NOT screw you on a first meet typically. Your better women will not send nudes either. They may be freaky...but for your eyes only and not right away.

You have to have patience to find the right sort of girl. You are pulling from a good age group and there will be the occasional gem in there. Don't discard for not sexing you right away and you'll start to filter for better women.

Have standards & stick to them for LTR. Google Paul Janka in NYC. He is happily married now but was a notorious playboy. And he reached that meaningless place too. See what he says about how to identify the right girl to actually date.

But this chick? Stay NC. You can pull other hot women who are not trashy. This girl is straight up trash.
 

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Hello guys,
Need your opinion here. So I have a good job, travel around and basically good life. Have girls in every country/continents I travel to, but I just sleep with them when am there. Basically young girls - who doesn't like 5 star hotel and nice bars and stuffs? I never buy gifts or anything , just good time. But over the time, you feel empty after ****ing so many girls and crave for that SOMEONE where you can be yourself and build something for life.
These young hot girls, no boyfriends, wives, families, in exotic locations are desperate to have sex with you whenever you show up? They are that In love you?

My spidey sense is tingling.

And then 3 months back I met this girl and went on a dinner date which went way nicer than I was expecting. We had sex right in the restaurant after they closed (Restaurant owner knows me)
What? What restaurant owner allows a man to have sex in his restaurant after it closes? You couldn’t wait 20 min to get back to your 5 star luxury hotel? She wanted to have sex with you that badly?

My spidey sense is really tingling.

Next day we were planning for 2nd date where I turned AFC, writing her and asking out mostly. We fixed a date after 2 days and I went on with a gift for her, waiting till I get the message she is on the way, and next thing I know she blocked me.

A little about this girl- she is only 23, a social butterfly, 10/10, having several guys lined up, buying her super expensive stuffs, had a pretty bad relationship and after that she turned bitter and had several hookups.
So you went from James Bond to a total sap in less than 24 hours?

Now back to the story- So I totally NC her for a week and sent her a message from other chat app where she responded immediately As I was traveling we scheduled another date once I was back and he had sex again. Before leaving her place, I mentioned this is our last meeting because of her last time behavior where she cried and said she wants me and that was done by her colleagues because she was freaking out.
Same week, she invited me to go out with her and meet all her girl friends. That was a great night and we end up having sex on the same bed as her friend passed out after heavy drinking. Same night we also had a fight because I found in her phone she was sending the same reveling picture to other guys same time she was sending me whole week.

Next morning , I got up wth several texts from her saying we can not hangout anymore if I don't want something serious as she wants a relationship with me , and guess what- I said yes , only if she get her life clean and get rid of previous guys from her phone/life.

We had several dates where she started introducing to me too her friends and colleagues etc and many times we had fight over her texting,sending pics to her previous guys/hookups.

After dating almost 1.5 months, we went on a weekend holiday, and that night again I saw her phone and learned the following
1. She ****ed a guy hour before coming to my place and having sex with me
2. She write to a guy that she is seeing me in front of me after our one fight, later texting him it was someone else who wrote this message from her phone.

I woke her up to confront and she started panicking and packed her bag in the morning and went away. Ofcourse I tried to stop her and asked for explanation for which she just tried to run away saying she needs time to be alone.

I didn't contact her for a week and she makes Instagram stories of being on a date with the 2nd guy and next day blocking me on the IG but not on other apps which she did earlier.
It's been now 3 weeks, and I have maintained the NC. Now my questions is if anyone can 'Decode" this behavior. Ofcourse I do not want her as relationship anymore, but definitely she is fun and wild to be with, making me feel much more younger and alive. Is there way to get her back just for that part ? Any suggestions or feedback from anyone will mean a lot !!
I didn’t read the rest. This is a joke thread.
 

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Thanks a lot for your advice and totally agree.
Drama and rejection got into my head.
Well next week I am starting to date again. For last 3 weeks I have just caged my self.
About this girl, am going to continue NC and see what happens. Being is same city and hanging out in same bars, am sure to come across sooner or later.
 
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