Dating women with kids, never again!

[soxfan52]

I'm 52 she is 43. I have 2 grown daughters both married. She has a 21 yr old daughter and a just 7 yr old son. The kids have different fathers. The daughters dad took off before she was born and isn't in her life much at all. The 7 yr olds dad lives 16 hrs away and vists him a couple weekends a month and has him the summer.

Both kids live with her. The daughter is a spoiled self centered little witch. Hot as a firecracker and she knows it. Plays it to the max. she also has the maturity of a 14 yr old. She hated me because i took her moms time and attention away from her.

The 7 yr old has tantrums, they were quite bad but he has settled down a lot. His Dad spoils him like crazy. Buys him everything. The Mom feels guilty because she can't match him spending wise. Guess where that put me?

I don't know what i was thinking getting into this. She was hot, the sex was great, and I was blinded by it. She played the helpless little girl and i was going to save her. Never works.
I understand kids come first, but it sucks coming third. You are always doing too much or too little as far as her kids go. You always have the issue of her and the ex daddy getting back together. They are the family youve just been invited to visit for who knows how long.
I raised mine and Im ready to be in a relationship where I am No 1 to her and she is to me.

I know it seems as if every single woman out there now has a child but Im telling you think long and hard about it. Your time will no longer be yours. You will resent raising some other guys kid while he lives the life. You will never be enough, do enough to satisfy any of them.

 

[scorpio1138]

I did it once for a brief time and hope to hell I never have to again.

Fortunately there are some women out there that don't have or don't want kids.

 

[ChalengeGuyFan]

Have you ever thought how awesome it would've been if you could have banged the both of them, the mother and the daughter?

 

[soxfan52]

Have you ever thought how awesome it would've been if you could have banged the both of them, the mother and the daughter?

Daughter is the all look but don't dare touch ultimate **** tease.
I hugged her once and she got so tense i thought she would break in two.

Her goal is to find the hottest richest guy she can. She said so.

Tells her mom to go on find a millionaire to date websites.
She is serious. LOL

 

[Borknagar]

I refuse to date anyone with kids now, it's a pain in the ass, not only with the stuff already mentioned, but also the fact they will never be able to have time away from the kids to be with you, I don't know how many times the fact a women has kids has been a pain in the ass for me. Sorry but if I'm going to be "dating" someone, I will want to see them more than once a month if I am lucky. No thanks! Women, especially hot ones, are always busy, bring a kid into it, and forget it. You just met her on one of her rare and lucky days she was able to convince her mother to watch the kid(s)

 

[Robert28]

I'm 52 she is 43. I have 2 grown daughters both married. She has a 21 yr old daughter and a just 7 yr old son. The kids have different fathers. The daughters dad took off before she was born and isn't in her life much at all. The 7 yr olds dad lives 16 hrs away and vists him a couple weekends a month and has him the summer.

Both kids live with her. The daughter is a spoiled self centered little witch. Hot as a firecracker and she knows it. Plays it to the max. she also has the maturity of a 14 yr old. She hated me because i took her moms time and attention away from her.

The 7 yr old has tantrums, they were quite bad but he has settled down a lot. His Dad spoils him like crazy. Buys him everything. The Mom feels guilty because she can't match him spending wise. Guess where that put me?

I don't know what i was thinking getting into this. She was hot, the sex was great, and I was blinded by it. She played the helpless little girl and i was going to save her. Never works.
I understand kids come first, but it sucks coming third. You are always doing too much or too little as far as her kids go. You always have the issue of her and the ex daddy getting back together. They are the family youve just been invited to visit for who knows how long.
I raised mine and Im ready to be in a relationship where I am No 1 to her and she is to me.

I know it seems as if every single woman out there now has a child but Im telling you think long and hard about it. Your time will no longer be yours. You will resent raising some other guys kid while he lives the life. You will never be enough, do enough to satisfy any of them.

few points i want to make. first of all, dear God this woman sounds irresponsible! 7yr old kid and shes 43? red flag red flag RED FLAG!

notice how her kids act? that's how she raises them(or lack thereof). red flag #2. sh!tty mother, worse g/f.

having one baby daddy in the way is a pain in the @$$, but having 2 to deal with? uh no thanks! just remember, no matter how bad she talks about them, you will never measure up in her eyes to them. trust me.

i hope the 21yr old daughter realizes her looks are going to fade in a few years, hope shes checking that dating profile often.lol i have a feeling she will end up knocked up a few times and living alone in a double-wide working as a waitress at Huddle House. i've seen this type too many times to count, it always ends up the same.

you need to find you a woman that her kids are already out of the house. i still cant get over a 43yr old having a 7yr old:crazy:

 

[soxfan52]

few points i want to make. first of all, dear God this woman sounds irresponsible! 7yr old kid and shes 43? red flag red flag RED FLAG!

notice how her kids act? that's how she raises them(or lack thereof). red flag #2. sh!tty mother, worse g/f.

having one baby daddy in the way is a pain in the @$$, but having 2 to deal with? uh no thanks! just remember, no matter how bad she talks about them, you will never measure up in her eyes to them. trust me.

i hope the 21yr old daughter realizes her looks are going to fade in a few years, hope shes checking that dating profile often.lol i have a feeling she will end up knocked up a few times and living alone in a double-wide working as a waitress at Huddle House. i've seen this type too many times to count, it always ends up the same.

you need to find you a woman that her kids are already out of the house. i still cant get over a 43yr old having a 7yr old:crazy:

Great points there Robert. Sounds like you have had some experience with this. And yes the whole 7 yr old kid thing was a killer. I'm past the stage of raising kids. At her age her kids should be grown and ready to move out. She has at least 11 more yrs of that crap.

Like i said i was blinded by the sex and that was her hook. Your right about the ex thing too. You can never compete with the bio dad. Screw that.
I want a woman who i dont have to compete with anyone for.

 

[vatoloco]

See here.

 

[Kailex]

Back when I was an Uber-AFC, I thought men who didn't date single mothers were insensitive and not giving these strong, independent women trying to live it on their own.

Now, that I'm within that group of men, I think they were doing it right all along.

 

[Solomon]

Gentlemen, I truly believe this has become an epidemic of epic proportions

Soxfan I know your older but the younger generation of women are having more and more children out of wedlock, by "deadbeat dads" it's really getting worst out there

 

[soxfan52]

Gentlemen, I truly believe this has become an epidemic of epic proportions

Soxfan I know your older but the younger generation of women are having more and more children out of wedlock, by "deadbeat dads" it's really getting worst out there

I agree Solomon, it's frightening how many single/divorced women with kids are out there now. And like you said it's girls in their 20's now.

Women think a child will strengthen the bond and make their man stay when in reality the opposite is true.

Also like my ex gf, women have kids to fill the void in their marriage or relationship or life period.

A man raising some other mans kid is not a normal thing. There are too many conflicts, too much to overcome most of the time.

 

[Rubirosa]

Sounds like you were hanging out alot there for the kid situation to become an issue. How about just banging the mom at your place when the 7 year old is w/ his dad ? The 21 year old doesn't need a babysitter. (Or does she ?)

 

[soxfan52]

Sounds like you were hanging out alot there for the kid situation to become an issue. How about just banging the mom at your place when the 7 year old is w/ his dad ? The 21 year old doesn't need a babysitter. (Or does she ?)

I made the absolute worst of mistakes and let them move in. Would of never worked in a million years. Should of just done the dating thing and it would of been a much easier break.

And actually the 21 yr old was a bigger problem then the 7 yr old. She had the maturity of a 15 yr old and wanted all mommys attention. She will be living with Mom for years yet.

 

[f283000]

Sure they have baggage but what about the positives? Don't they put out faster/are great in bed? So what's the problem?

It only becomes a problem with stupid guys that get into relationships with these women. It's not about trying to be a daddy for the kid, going on play dates with the mom and kid to mini golf or whatever. It's about bedding the mom within a few dates as possible and quittin it or keeping her as an fb.

I'm assuming most of you guys were stupid enough to allow yourselves to be trapped by these women and get yourselves in relationships. This is not what single moma's are for. Single moma's are for quick secks and that's it.

 

[BlackJackal]

Sure they have baggage but what about the positives? Don't they put out faster/are great in bed? So what's the problem?

It only becomes a problem with stupid guys that get into relationships with these women. It's not about trying to be a daddy for the kid, going on play dates with the mom and kid to mini golf or whatever. It's about bedding the mom within a few dates as possible and quittin it or keeping her as an fb.

I'm assuming most of you guys were stupid enough to allow yourselves to be trapped by these women and get yourselves in relationships. This is not what single moma's are for. Single moma's are for quick secks and that's it.

Word!

 

[Lucifero]

She hated me because i took her moms time and attention away from her.

The 7 yr old has tantrums, they were quite bad but he has settled down a lot. His Dad spoils him like crazy. Buys him everything. The Mom feels guilty because she can't match him spending wise. Guess where that put me?

I don't know what i was thinking getting into this. She was hot, the sex was great, and I was blinded by it. She played the helpless little girl and i was going to save her. Never works.
I understand kids come first, but it sucks coming third. You are always doing too much or too little as far as her kids go. You always have the issue of her and the ex daddy getting back together. They are the family youve just been invited to visit for who knows how long.
I raised mine and Im ready to be in a relationship where I am No 1 to her and she is to me.

:crackup:

Greetings Capt'n Save-A-Hoe,

How much did you spend on her/her kids?

 

[Lucifero]

I did it once for a brief time and hope to hell I never have to again.

Fortunately there are some women out there that don't have or don't want kids.

What does that mean?

 

[Lucifero]

Back when I was an Uber-AFC, I thought men who didn't date single mothers were insensitive and not giving these strong, independent women trying to live it on their own.

Now, that I'm within that group of men, I think they were doing it right all along.

:crackup:

Welcome to the darkside.

 

[PokerStar]

i met this little persina kitty through a friend.

shes hot, likes the same music as i do, and food to.

when she told me she has a 2 year old, the bubble burst.

now i look at it as a get in and get out type deal. no way i would have a long term relationship.

so now i look at it as a f buddy from now on.