Dating this woman for about a month. Birthday coming up. What to do??

[8ball]

Subject line said it all, but here's some details.

I've been dating this woman about once a week for a little less than a month.

We haven't had sex yet. ( I'm hoping this weekend, tho! )

Anyway, she wants to go out on her birthday to a nice dinner. I'm cool w/ that.

However, should I get her something? If so, what? I think getting her NOTHING would make me look like a giant a$$hole. ( Something I want to avoid. )

I think going overboard will make me look AFC.

It's her 30th b-day, by the way. A milestone.

Any suggestions?

 

[bp1974]

I'd go with a card, no gift. You've only known her three weeks and you're not sleeping together yet, so a card on it's own should be fine.

bp1974

 

[dionysius_d]

A flower, or a token gesture.. nothing big.

If you're paying for the meal, that is enough.

 

[Blaaaaat]

It's here birthday, meaning it's normal to buy here a small gift. Doing this wouldnt be screaming "look at me, im a big AFC!".

Now, she wants to go on a dinner on her birthday with you alone?
That is a major sign she has a high IL.

 

[squirrels]

OK I'll be the one to say it...PEARL NECKLACE!

 

[laydee1]

From a girl of....err old enough

Relax, she probably won't expect anything more special after 3 weeks and may even be embarrassed if you did something because it would mean that you want a LTR and after 3 weeks, who can tell right?

Flowers are cute. Meal is nice.

Actually, at 30, she probably has raging hormones and hopefully will be up for the sex as much as you are...

Speaking from experience here

 

[NewMan]

no gift

Take her out for a nice meal - thats your gift.

Drink some good wine at dinner, talk and perhaps plan it in a nice location, so you guys can go walk around afterwards.

A card would be nice.

Don't go over the top - your not sleeping with her yet.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

How about a picnic and a birthday card?

 

[Matt ala Casanova]

A pearl necklace!

M.A.C.

 

[marqZAL]

Break up with her the day before her birthday, then ask her back out the day after!!!!!

 

[princelydeeds]

I would buy a card and write something creative in it, get her a flower, and do something extra creative. Don't buy her a present unless its something small (i.e her favorite candy).