Dating this alpha female 8-9/10

[convict24]

Its been two weeks strong. Its a smaller town so things work a little different. I have to be very carefully so I don't spin to many plates, everyone knows each other.

Iv exclusively been dating her for 2 weeks. So far so good. She comes to me every time. Iv managed to stay alpha and lead every time. Extremely high interest very low effort on my part to date and hang out. I have had to put a lot of effort into sleeping with her and getting to know her. Banged her third date when I spent the night the next morning. Probably some of the hottest sex i have ever had. She knows I will walk away at any time.

As of now everything is good. No serious red flags. And surprisingly our conversations are very good. Actually had some real conversation not the typical bs. Very mature for hee age, she's 21, lived and supported herself sense 18. Dated an older guy before. This is not a one nighter or **** buddy for sure. I'm extremely interested in making this a ltr. We have a lot in common, same interests, goals in life, relationship outlooks. She actually admitted to all girls including herself to be a level of crazy. So far no games.

Now I opened up to her kinda soon I feel... It made the sex better and her interest sky rocketed. She pushed me to open up.

I'm looking for advise on how to keep this going. I always expect the worse with any female especially a hot one who knows what she wants. If she's playing me she's damn good at it. If she is iv learned another very important lesson and would still have boosted my confidence. I'm not an alpha by nature so I have made some mistakes but nothing serious. It all still feels natural. Iv been making sure to **** her real good every time even if I don't get mine.

Anything I should look out for? Advise?

 

[cola]

I would keep hanging out with her and banging her. Don't alter your behavior and keep dating other females. If you want to make it an LTR you have to wait till she asks the question "So what r we?"..

Nothing you can really do until then. What you don't do is ask her to be your girl. She will run. Also, dont be too available.
Make sure you "miss a call" every now and again.

 

[_sideways_]

What advice?
U have a hb dime in her twenties....she will probably not stay like this for too many years.
Best advice is to start working out together.


Or troll post

 

[cola]

^^ how does this seem like a troll post? It seems like a legit question, with a legit backstory..

He met a hot chick who seems like a decent human and he wouldnt mind an LTR with her, wants to know how to go about it. Where did you get troll vibes?

 

[DaddyLongShanks]

Its been two weeks strong. Its a smaller town so things work a little different. I have to be very carefully so I don't spin to many plates, everyone knows each other.

Iv exclusively been dating her for 2 weeks. So far so good. She comes to me every time. Iv managed to stay alpha and lead every time. Extremely high interest very low effort on my part to date and hang out. I have had to put a lot of effort into sleeping with her and getting to know her. Banged her third date when I spent the night the next morning. Probably some of the hottest sex i have ever had. She knows I will walk away at any time.

As of now everything is good. No serious red flags. And surprisingly our conversations are very good. Actually had some real conversation not the typical bs. Very mature for hee age, she's 21, lived and supported herself sense 18. Dated an older guy before. This is not a one nighter or **** buddy for sure. I'm extremely interested in making this a ltr. We have a lot in common, same interests, goals in life, relationship outlooks. She actually admitted to all girls including herself to be a level of crazy. So far no games.

Now I opened up to her kinda soon I feel... It made the sex better and her interest sky rocketed. She pushed me to open up.

I'm looking for advise on how to keep this going. I always expect the worse with any female especially a hot one who knows what she wants. If she's playing me she's damn good at it. If she is iv learned another very important lesson and would still have boosted my confidence. I'm not an alpha by nature so I have made some mistakes but nothing serious. It all still feels natural. Iv been making sure to **** her real good every time even if I don't get mine.

Anything I should look out for? Advise?

It's a 21 years old so you can't put her on a pedestal. If she is a "hot girl" you gotta run "hot girl" rules on her.

She could be a actual "good girl" who will work hard and carry half the load.

Figure that one out. To some of us that's more attractive than just a "hot girl".

 

[cola]

^^ wtf r you talking about? Op, take my advice. Best you're gonna get. Just take it slow and let her initiate the "relationship" talk.

 

[convict24]

I never put the ***** on a pedestal. She does carry half the load. I already let her initiate all relationship talk. We do work out together. She is very active already normal dates included rock climbing, canoeing, trail hike, swimming out the reef. I'm always busy so not texting immediately or answering every call this comes natural.

I was going to ask her to be my gf but now that you mentioned that you are correct. I have refrained from calling her baby, she does call me baby during sex < advice I was looking for. Why I'm here!

Hot girl rules?

I don't go for looks over personality. I'm not in this for a 10/10 with a ****ty personality....

The plan was to take her on a romantic dinner date beach side followed by a walk on the beach and see what she says, watch her actions, ect. Then ask her to be my gf. But I'll let her ask me "what we are" now.

 

[Eljuego]

take it easy baby, take it as it comes

Its been two weeks strong. Its a smaller town so things work a little different. I have to be very carefully so I don't spin to many plates, everyone knows each other.

Iv exclusively been dating her for 2 weeks. So far so good. She comes to me every time. Iv managed to stay alpha and lead every time. Extremely high interest very low effort on my part to date and hang out. I have had to put a lot of effort into sleeping with her and getting to know her. Banged her third date when I spent the night the next morning. Probably some of the hottest sex i have ever had. She knows I will walk away at any time.

As of now everything is good. No serious red flags. And surprisingly our conversations are very good. Actually had some real conversation not the typical bs. Very mature for hee age, she's 21, lived and supported herself sense 18. Dated an older guy before. This is not a one nighter or **** buddy for sure. I'm extremely interested in making this a ltr. We have a lot in common, same interests, goals in life, relationship outlooks. She actually admitted to all girls including herself to be a level of crazy. So far no games.

Now I opened up to her kinda soon I feel... It made the sex better and her interest sky rocketed. She pushed me to open up.

I'm looking for advise on how to keep this going. I always expect the worse with any female especially a hot one who knows what she wants. If she's playing me she's damn good at it. If she is iv learned another very important lesson and would still have boosted my confidence. I'm not an alpha by nature so I have made some mistakes but nothing serious. It all still feels natural. Iv been making sure to **** her real good every time even if I don't get mine.

Anything I should look out for? Advise?

This is the advice I would give to you:
Concentrate on the next date/hook-up. Nothing more. You don't need to spin plates, you don't need to have the what are we talk. Make the next date/hook up fun and as they say "create an opportunity for sex.

If you're saying "going strong after two weeks", I would say you're possibly moving too fast. How many times have you seen her in two weeks? Twice per week is enough....

If you start a long term relationship with her and it was her idea....your foundation will be a lot stronger and she will be more invested. You concentrate on bringing value and positive emotions....and let her come at you with the relationship talk.

If you try to nail her down compared to her trying to nail you down....which one is going to impose on her freedom more?

Be patient and take note when your taking her out/ seeing her (use an agenda) and make sure there's space between meet ups. Give her the gift of missing you....

slow it down..

I'd also be careful about 'opening up'. You think this has made the sex better. it hasn't. The sex has got better because of familiarity and natural progression....

Opening up can make her your psychiatrist or mother. You don't want that. It may be cute to her in the beginning but it will soon lower her interest. Keep it positive and light.

enjoy

 

[convict24]

Thanks! Glad I posted! Just what I was looking for.

I can't spin plates if I want this to be a ltr in this town, everyone knows each other..... But it doesn't stop me from walking away if I must. I don't have time to be ****ing off with a women I don't want to be with.

From the advise you guys gave I say I'm doing about a 7-8/10 of a good job here. Hopefully with this advise I'll turn it into a 9-10/10.

One thing she started today was sending me text msgs while I'm at work saying how she's thinking about me and missing me with kissing emojies. Was it a bad idea to write back saying the same? She did start it.

 

[BrainDamage92]

She knows I will walk away at any time.


This is not a one nighter or **** buddy for sure. I'm extremely interested in making this a ltr.

Anyway dont talk about feelings or how serious you want to be or she be gone. Let her do the talking and you do the fuking. And understand the "alpha female" is an illusion, she has as much insecurities on the inside as your average looking girl if not more. Alpha females dont exist. And what makes the male alpha is the fact hes a tad less of an idiot than most men. Women are all smart even if they lack intelligence.

 

[Cloudtopsun2100]

the only way to keep her is to be ready to lose her -- present the best version of yourself not a fake version -- treat her like any other girl (that you like) and you'll be fine. Note that girls take off at any given time for no actual reason so don't get too down if she runs off with the next dude later on -- from your post you seem a bit overwhelmed by this girl

 

[convict24]

Update -

Last Thursday was the last date/hangout. Everything went good. Banged and passed out at her place then banged her in the morning. This is when this pattern starts.

Friday had house to myself, told her to come over never happened. Saturday her dad came into town. Had the house to myself used her dad as an excuse not to hang. Sunday she had plans to hang with her dad, that's fine. She asked me if i was mad I laughed and told her to have a good time with her dad. Sunday she spends the night at a friends. Tells me Monday she will come hang out never happened. Monday spends the night at another friends house.

She texts me Tuesday morning saying how she fell asleep on me (she never texted back the night before). I don't reply till later in the day. I tell her il call her after work. She never texts back. Call her no answer. She texts me this morning saying "
I missed your call ! I fell asleep so early last night ): goodmorning though "

I'm still acting carefree I want her to have her own life, ect. All that good ****. She is keeping me in the loop letting me know whats shes doing. But now I feel like IV made this acceptable behavior and its definitely a pattern. She's used her dad as the reason not to hang out. That's still fine. My behavior has not changed!

I see the pattern and I feel like she cares less than me so I called my old plate i havnt talked to in 3 weeks and banged her last night.

 

[Alexandar]

rough... that sh! t tilts me... go NC until she asks whats wrong, then tell her you dont approve of her recent behavior and you are dropping her if she doesnt smarten up.

The above advice of 'you can only keep her by not caring to lose her' is super solid.

 

[DragonBlood]

It is physically impossible for a women to be an "alpha female" at 21. If you are in your 30s or have dated women in their mid 30s you will know exactly what Im talking about.

How old are you OP? what life experience do you bring to the table with this spring chicken?

I partly agree with Alex. But dont make empty threats or make her feel like you are a sensitive teddy bear when boo is busy. Regarding her behavior, I wouldnt correct it at all. Just ignore her until she reaches out and wants to meet. When she does reach out just be friendly and act like nothing is wrong. This air of aloofness will give you massive power in the relationship, especially if she is sending walls over overthinking emotional text messages. Talking from experience

Assuming she enjoys the time she spends with you and your actions are speaking louder than words (aka leading physically and positively, free of judgement), she will start chasing more and trust you more.

 

[Bingo-Player]

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Now I opened up to her kinda soon I feel... It made the sex better and her interest sky rocketed. She pushed me to open up.

I'm looking for advise on how to keep this going. I always expect the worse with any female especially a hot one who knows what she wants. If she's playing me she's damn good at it.

yea they are damn good at it .....its a natural part of being a woman

your walking a fine line ......everything seems fine and dandy but we all know that's when women are most capable of breaking you

i dont belive a relationship can be 50 /50 ......i think the guy needs a minimum of a 70/30 with the majority in his favour

to me it sounds like shes gearing up to go for the majority ,

never forget that a woman can fake emotions as easily as she can change them

men on the other hand .......

dont get too invested

 

[DaddyLongShanks]

yea they are damn good at it .....its a natural part of being a woman

your walking a fine line ......everything seems fine and dandy but we all know that's when women are most capable of breaking you

i dont belive a relationship can be 50 /50 ......i think the guy needs a minimum of a 70/30 with the majority in his favour

to me it sounds like shes gearing up to go for the majority ,

never forget that a woman can fake emotions as easily as she can change them

men on the other hand .......

dont get too invested

It's always best when they work hard to keep you and take care of you as a man. This is why many of us think a 7 who doesn't care about fashion is a better deal than a 9 who spends 2 hrs in the mirror every day, and she might not do a lick of work around there that helps a man out. Only concerned about her look.

If you been around women, you will learn they all can be ultra concerned about their look and draw a lot of attention.

We all need to be stronger and not pedestalize someone just because they keep their hair done, matching clothes sets, and make up. It's just a look.

 

[G_Govan]

yea they are damn good at it .....its a natural part of being a woman

your walking a fine line ......everything seems fine and dandy but we all know that's when women are most capable of breaking you

i dont belive a relationship can be 50 /50 ......i think the guy needs a minimum of a 70/30 with the majority in his favour

to me it sounds like shes gearing up to go for the majority ,

never forget that a woman can fake emotions as easily as she can change them

men on the other hand .......

dont get too invested

^^This.

The existence of this thread and the title "Alpha Female" you gave her is a prime example of who's running the show.

An Alpha Female to me is either a butch dyke or female Hyena (pack leader).

"Opening up" is never a good idea. She's only 21, man.

 

[pyros]

she's slept at some friend's place, and then again at some other friend's?
She's ignored your calls, texts a few times too?
she's been busy with her 'dad'?

LMAO...

I think she's just spinning plates dude, and you're just another plate for her...
Something terrible is about to happen...

 

[convict24]

Good stuff you giys are spot on, glad im here! I have a longer post to throw up but il do that later.

She gets NC and il wait til she wants to hang out. Not acting like I think, know anything. Everything is fine.

Going to keep my old low key plate around that's not in it for LTR that I control 100%. She leaves back to college end of summer too. Although after almost 2 weeks she instantly put out and before she went home goes "you shouldnt wait a week and before you text me"