Dating on a Workplace pros and cons

[Fred986]

Hi sosoave people

I would like to ask some opinions on what you think about dating on a workplace.

I have started to work in a restaurant in Spain and there are some girls that I could potentially have mutual interest to know each other, perhaps even start dating.

I would classify the two groups one 3/4 to top hots and the second group more on friends with benefits later.

I believe things have started well as I see I got their attention. Some girls are making up the repeated scenes, testing and plotting together to see how I behave and with who I expose first.
A day cold and a day warm and flirty. A day is in a mood one and another day is in the mood the other.

I understand this Testing games but exposing myself to a Testing without a full reached authentic desire will make me to fall to their s. test.

How would you behave to get the real side of them show up without the elements of their competition Testing games ?

What are the chances of spinning plates?

And would you take the risk on a workplace to date ?

I m not a big fan of night clubs out as my workdays are physical and I also have just time for gym and some martial arts classes

I believe that proximity is a great element to build relationships and create attraction. This is why workplace sometimes presents its pros in my point of view

 

[Juan_Man]

DON'T DO IT! Nothing should interfere with your paper, especially women. Your paper provides you your food, shelter, clothing, transportation, and miscellaneous. Your paper is very important. Anything that can potentially affect your paper (i.e., drama/sadness after a breakup and having to see that person every day) should NEVER be considered. Never get your paper and your pleasure in the same place.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I found work place dating/relationships to be fine. But. They were just spontaneous happenings. Not in any way planned (by me at least). All were well worth it. However, it is well known that work place dating has severe risks. And I can’t vouch for your, obviously, planned dating.

 

[Stanley]

This has become like a weekly thing for me at this point

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Way back, I dated a woman at work, turns out the married owner had a secret thing for her. The owner and I were friends before I dated her. Not so much afterwards. Ended up having to leave the company. Was it worth it? Would I do it again? C'est la vie. There's always a way to make an income. However, this was 20 years ago, and it was a small company. I was still selective back then but would be way more so today. Some **** ain't worth, some is. Nothing's black and white.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

It's hospitality though. Everybody bangs everybody there, and jobs are a dime a dozen. So actually...

Go nuts.

 

[BMX]

If you'd like to, I guess. You need to use your best judgement from what you see. I went on a date with a girl from work, and I quit that job not long later in December. She was texting me after I ghosted her in January and then did some drive-bys of my place. Yeah, she was a bit unhinged after all. I left home for a month for a lot of planned trips, and she must have thought I moved out.

 

[Fred986]

The point is that if I choose to pursuit a girl I like there chances are that I screw the potential with others girls there. Automatically will install some jealousy and commitment attachments.
This would definitely limits the plates spin.
The plate spin is fundamental as there are many hots chicks to bang and understanding who get the worth of my time in long term.

But we know this dynamics aren't well accepted by the female imperative

Risks apart of jealousy and conflicts at work.

Would you take the risks , go for one?

 

[SW15]

For white collar professional work, dating a work colleague is a big no. Men with white collar jobs have to be concerned about the wrath of HR if an approach goes wrong. Men with white collar jobs will also have to see the woman nearly every day once the interaction goes bad and it will eventually go bad. It could go bad after 1-2 dates or after a 1-2 year extended relationship. That will be unpleasant and likely force you to look for another job. It's always a major inconvenience to look for white collar jobs, regardless of economic conditions, but it is worse in recessionary times. Interview processes take a long time. If either you or her have put in 2 weeks resignation notice, then collecting her phone number/arranging a date is an option.

In other types of work (mainly McJobs), the answer is go for it. It's possible to date within your own workplace if you have a McJob that you don't care about keeping. Part time retail work doesn't matter. Most people who work service sector McJobs have short tenures at their jobs. Replacing a McJob is much easier than replacing a white collar professional job. A lot of retail warehouse workers at places like Walmart and Target date cashiers.

If you're a nightclub bouncer, you can date a stripper or a female bartender. Bartenders and waitresses at more conventional restaurants date too.

Men with blue collar/manual labor jobs won't have enough female co-workers to even have the option of creating a workplace romance.

There are 3 ways to play the white collar workplace dating game.

1. Use the workplace as a part of social circle game. You could date the friends/acquaintances of your female co-workers. Everything I wrote about social circle game applies to this.

2. Approach women working in the same building as your company, but who work in other companies in that same building. This is a form of daygame cold approach. For this to actually be realistic, you typically need to work in a 10+ floor urban work building with multiple companies in the building. You'll either need to linger in common areas of the building or get some fortunate timing in riding elevators/walking through the common areas of the building. I have gotten numbers and dates by doing this option 2. With more people working at home at least part-time due to the pandemic, these types of interactions are becoming less common.

3. After you give your 2 week notice of resignation, you might be able to hit on women in your company. You might also be able to hit on women after they put in their 2 week notices. This is always challenging to do and getting more challenging with more working at home. I've never done this but I've heard of men using this tactic to get dates.

 

[Fred986]

Already fired with unjustified reasons

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Already fired with unjustified reasons

In your opinion. What reason did they give you?

If you live in the US, you can be fired for any reason or no reason, just not an illegal reason. An illegal reason typically being fired due to a reason linked to being a member of a protected group.

If they didn't like the color of your shirt or your haircut they could tell you that and fire you and you may think it's unjustified, but in the eyes of the legal system it would be completely justified.

In general, don't date people you work with. It usually does not end well.

 

[Fred986]

Sure got what you saying. Better have a short hair cut nicely presentable than wear a ridiculous bandana and a heavy red chef jacked in a place where you let other work and the kitchen executive turns around.

I always regard to have the courage to tell things how I view them. This means giving warning before I fire. That why having the Man Attributes nowadays means everything.